Oneitis broke my heart

Kamiwari727 · 2018-12-04T07:03:00+00:00

Since you got Oneitis for a girl who never even slept with you, this shows to me that you have Scarcity Mentality.

Until you resolve those inner demons, you will constantly be in this cycle, with every girl who is of quality material to you.

And to answer your question, there are two paths you could take, but they depend strongly on your mental framework:

If she gets bored of the other guy and returns to you, accept her back and lay her if you can. This is only valid if you don't have Oneitis for her. Also, that's the only way that you will be able to fuck her. Otherwise, you will show even greater desperation, once she returns.
Hard-next, if you really do have Oneitis. This is not because the girl hurt your feelings and she deserves to be nexted (because your emotions are your responsibility, and this only shows that you are still in the Anger Phase of maturation). No, it's for your own peace of mind. It's far better to go search for other prospects and forget about this one bird.

You need to create abundance in your life. Abundance of women, abundance of hobbies, goals, personal projects, friends. An abundant life.

You still have a long way to go. Good luck!

lush312 · 2018-12-04T06:50:30+00:00

Your response is correct (hard next), if you ever doubt that then back to the sidebar you go.

btrpb · 2018-12-04T06:58:02+00:00

"what lessons can we learn from situations like this?"

I've you bothered to read and absorb any of the red pill?

The lessons are already there. If you bothered to understand what this is all about.

Milk_moustache · 2018-12-04T09:19:40+00:00

Don’t sweat it. Similar thing happened to me earlier this year. It hurt initially because there was a big build up to her deciding to not be interested. Whatever. I’m not gunna waste time over someone who wasted my time, neither should you.

Azurefatejay · 2018-12-05T07:13:22+00:00

Here's some tough love. She didn't get with you, because you weren't man enough. Don't get mad at her; get mad at nature, get mad at your upbringing, get mad at whatever but it isnt her fault that she isnt attracted to you. The universe is gonna keep teaching you this lesson until you actually start ACTING and working on the best version of yourself and taking responsibility. So put away the lotion. Put away the junk food and tv. Feel the pain and use it as fuel and motivation to be a better man. If you havent already begged and pleaded yourself to death, let her know that you are not interested in anything with her other than romance, and to let you know if she changes her mind. And then walk and NEVER look back. Get to work. Your purpose should always be the #1 focus until the day you die. Lastly be kind to yourself. You must come to your own rescue. We are all students, love yourself because you're all you've got.

2comment · 2018-12-04T11:24:15+00:00

Yeah, it hurt man. Forget her and meet new girls.

MattyAnon · 2018-12-04T15:11:27+00:00

Oh shut up already.

Oneitis. Cure it. Make yourself a better life and find better women and better situations.

Stop depending on and blaming someone else.

OracleofFl · 2018-12-04T18:36:11+00:00

The title of this post is what is bullshit: A oneitus doesn't break your heart. A oneitus wakes you up to truly take the redpill.

EdgyMcdonuts · 2018-12-04T21:17:26+00:00

The same thing happened to me this year. A co-worker. The woman chased me for five months, then dated me for five weeks before rejecting me. She was the first person I ever dated and I f*cked up bad toward the end; she could probably sense my oneitis and found it repulsive. Anyway, she friendzoned me (I didn't know better), then shared that she was fucking someone else in front of me three weeks after dumping me. I was so fucked up over it that I could never do anything with her again even if she wanted, which she doesn't. I can't go back to work there either.

Trphello · 2018-12-05T14:53:08+00:00

even though I’ve given her plenty of opportunity to get with me

This is why she chose the other dude. Now next and go GET the girl this time

send_it_for_the_boys · 2018-12-04T09:48:20+00:00

IF you want her back possibly, make it very clear to her that you are not interested in being friends and that you’re only interested in a romantic relationship with her. Then, cut contact and live your life, lift, work on confidence and abundance mentality, anything you can do to make yourself better and don’t think about her go talk to other women, and chances are she’ll miss you and come back and that’s when you decide if you even want her or not, but by that time you’ll have realized your value and probably won’t want her back anymore.

Rkingpin · 2018-12-04T08:22:13+00:00

Cut her off and forget it

Title	Oneitis broke my heart
Author	bigflame123
Upvotes	17
Comments	35
Date	December 4, 2018 6:28 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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