Online Date: All or nothing First Date or do 2-3 dates before sex

FrameWalker · 2015-01-14T17:08:17+00:00

I like more variety.

One:coffee/low key activity no more than one hour. very subtle game minimal kino, but can do some overt to assert intent like butt grab or touch their face and hair

Two: drinks/involved activity. no time limit, build kino and lots of push pull. If it's going really well go to sex location and close. I know it's going well when I am getting turned on and I feel comfortable with them.

Three: invite over or go to theirs for movie/music/food and close.little Lmr if frame is good and attraction is strong.

For quick closes from online setup date one at their place. Prepare for are you a serial killer shit test. Use this when girl is noticeably slutty.

fnordsnord · 2015-01-14T20:56:31+00:00

My stable is currently full, so I'm not dating, but my general rule is kiss-close on the first date or next. F-close on the third date or next. Maybe forth date.

Air4ce1 · 2015-01-14T17:02:18+00:00

It depends on your goal. If it's to get her in bed as quickly as possible then do the first option. I can see no reason why you'd have a "three date rule".

skoobled · 2015-01-14T17:50:55+00:00

Used to have a third date rule, but seems that shit is old fashioned nowadays. All our nothing nowadays

tepper2 · 2015-01-14T17:56:41+00:00

Online dating's only purpose is for easy sex. Everybody understands that. Women who say, "I'm not looking for a hookup" only say that to save face and convince themselves that they're adhering to a standard of decency. In reality, most women I've met online have had at least one casual hookup on a first date, and I've met dozens.

In fact, I've had women say "I'm not looking for a hookup" only to commit to a ONS before we even met in person. If your SMV is high enough, it's basically window shopping for pussy. Again, pay no attention to whatever bullshit is in a profile. Pay every bit of attention to how they handle themselves in person.

"Not looking for a hookup" - I will absolutely fuck you if you have a slick ride, six pack, or a large bank account.
"I'm tired of playing games" - I've been pumped and dumped several times so I'll lock up like a set of vise grips if your game isn't tight as fuck.
"I'm like one of the guys" - I have a stable of beta orbiters and I occasionally toss pussy around for attention. But you can never have enough, so I'm going to try to recruit you if you aren't hot enough to sleep with.
"Trust is very important to me" - I want to know everything about you at all times so I know I am in control.
"I live life to the fullest" - I have impulse control issues and usually don't take responsibility for bad decisions.

If I spend an evening with a woman I've met online and I don't f-close, there probably won't be a second date. It's just not worth my time to put effort into that woman if there's another one in the queue who is eager to fuck.

TLDR; If they don't fuck on the first date, they're missing the point of online dating.

_BurritoWarrior_ · 2015-01-14T18:44:35+00:00

Read her. Read the situation. If she's DTF on the first date, do that. If she's not but you want to see her again, do that.

[deleted] · 2015-01-14T19:24:32+00:00

First date bounce to three different bars and then invite her up

This sounds like the better option if sex is your main goal. It gives the impression that you two have been together for a longer amount of time than you actually have. Location-hopping during one date is a common game strategy.

thenarrrowpath · 2015-01-15T19:52:36+00:00

I always set a ~~date~~ meet up for a bar near my house on a weekday. Meet up, buy the first round. Talk/comfort/humor/flirt/kino/kiss. Then say something like "Hey its getting late but I still want to hang out a little more, how about we go to my pad for a minute and have another drink and listen to some music? Don't worry I'll be a good boy."

Take them back, listen to music, smoke, drink, whatever. Make out with them. Once things get really heavy, I push them back and tell them its time to go. It kind of throws them off. The past 4 meet ups I've had I got 3 of them back to my pad. One is now my main plate, another secondary, the other flaked on our second meet up but I have not hit her up again because it was right before the holidays, the fourth (the one that didn't come back) I'm not sure if ill hit her back up again.

I think 3 meet ups are excessive. I would say on the first outing try to get them back to your place. If a no go, then the second meet up should be a "Hey, I'm having a chill night, just some Netflix and wine, you should join."

Also it depends on the girl. If she's a 7 or below, then I would expect sex by the second meet up. If she's an 8 or higher then I'll be patient, but only to an extent.

Title	Online Date: All or nothing First Date or do 2-3 dates before sex
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Date	January 14, 2015 4:32 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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