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Online dating. Straight 10 from my highschool (10 years ago) just liked me on okcupid. How can I break the ice with her about us obviously knowing each other without being a wierdo about it.

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February 4, 2015
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Title Online dating. Straight 10 from my highschool (10 years ago) just liked me on okcupid. How can I break the ice with her about us obviously knowing each other without being a wierdo about it.
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Upvotes 5
Comments 21
Date February 4, 2015 4:05 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2urjl2/online_dating_straight_10_from_my_highschool_10/
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[–]elduckbell6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

'Hey! I know you'

[–]bassivemalls4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

"You look just like this girl that I knew that used to have a crush on me in high school."

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Cocky, funny, short. 10/10

[–]tombreck2 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

1) Take the pussy off the pedastal

2) Approach her like any other girl you think is cute. Don't mention online dating and if she brings it up then say "I get a lot of matches with girls here"

[–]ebolanurse1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Nah, I haven't seen her since I was in HS when I had a gf.

She just started following me on instagram like a week ago and then last night 'Liked' my okcupid profile.

Girls a straight dime so obviously I'm gonna hit her up. If I pretend like I don't know who she is, she'll be insulted. Especially since I just liked one of her posts on facebook like 3 weeks ago. I'll look like a moron if I pretend I don't recognize her.

I obviously have to address the fact that we both know each other in real life but I'm just not quite sure how. I was hoping to hear a couple responses from different people to get my head in the game.

Ya know how when you have to cook dinner so you look at a couple recipes to get an idea of whats going on then you go off and do your own thing?

[–]tombreck2 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh I skipped over the part (10 years ago); I thought you were like 17.

I just liked one of her posts on facebook like 3 weeks ago

Surely you are aware of the term "beta orbiter"

She just started following me on instagram

Girls put their instagram link in Tinder because they just want the validation. This means nothing to you

I was hoping to hear a couple responses from different people to get my head in the game

Treat her like any other girl and don't mention HS; let her bring it up first. Always make her have some doubt about whether you are interested in her:

Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don’t say it before she has said it

[–]ebolanurse0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Surely you are aware of the term "beta orbiter"

huh? cause I liked one of her photos?

Girls put their instagram link in Tinder because they just want the validation. This means nothing to you

she started following me. I dont even know how she figured out my instagram name

[–]gui5243 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Dude it's just another girl, treat her like your other acquainteces from HS. "Hey I've not seen you in a long time __, what you've been up to?". Then she briefly explains what she's doing and there's the opening for you to be "interest" and suggest you guys meet up somewhere to talk. She's already on the hook if she liked your IG picture and OKC profile, you're just overanalyzing it because she is from an era where you were a BPer

[–]Red_Invictus0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey, I know you. Get her off the fucking pedestal. She's a 10, so what? You treat her like you would approaching/initiating chat with any other woman out there, seriously.

[–]the_number_20 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I actually had something similar happen. I messaged a girl on POF. She responded, and said we went to HS together. Mind you, I graduated in '05. I didn't remember her... at first. She told me we went to Homecoming together (this would have been '02). I still didn't remember her, and told her as much.

Finally I DID remember after I got her last name. Egg on my face, but you bet your ass she tried her damnedest to stay in contact with me after that.

[–]cdogg750 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

If she was a 10 in highschool, and she is still on the prowl 10 years later, I am sure she is definitely not a 10 anymore. Think of all the cock and attention she got all those years. Do you really want to dip into that? She is getting close to the wall, and after all these years, she is still probably looking for more orbiters...including you.

Keep this in perspective, and get her down from the pedestal...she doesn't belong there.

[–]ebolanurse0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Nah, girl dated this guy like a straight up husband until a couple years ago.

She just started modeling, saw the pics on fb and instagra so I'm willing to say she hasn't fell too hard from 10 status

[–]cdogg750 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

fair enough....as there are tons of beautiful women out there that do not fit the AWALT definition. Taking her off the pedestal is a must though. Men included, people find the easy ones that throw themselves at you...undesirable. If you start making compromises to please her, she will not find the new you anymore desirable than any other man that does the same. Show her that you have value...not that she has value...anyone can do that

[–]ebolanurse0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You're right. I've definitely done that in the past and lost my balls. Even if not in for this particular situation, that's something I need to hear every now and again.

[–]cdogg750 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i think we all fall into this trap at some point in our lives...especially when we think we hit the jackpot...we want to spoil them and make them happy because men are actually nicer than many women give us credit for.

[–]2secret_barber0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

On OKC, "what up, girl. let's grab a drink TIME and PLACE."

Done.

[–]machimus0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretend to not remember and ask if you went to school together or something because she looks familiar.

[–]fakeAk -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

This is a question more suited for /r/relationship_advice/.

[–]ebolanurse0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

ugh maybe /r/seduction but there? I dont know...

I really respect this community and the guys here that can give me pointers on how to approach women.

I'm usually fine when the girl is a stranger but since I feel like I have to address the fact that we know each other right away, I'm not really sure how I should do that.

[–]fakeAk -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I was being intetionally rude with my first comment, since it's clear from your thinking and writing that you dont know TRP and what it's for.

[–]ebolanurse1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I know. I was being intentionally polite since you were the only comment at the time and I knew it would undermine your comment and encourage other people to seriously respond to the question.

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