Pay or Dutch on Dates?

TheBiss · 2017-04-14T15:01:18+00:00

I may not go 100% dutch, but I will say, "Let go half."

akatsukirp · 2017-04-14T15:42:18+00:00

Go dutch as much as possible. Never pay. If she wants to pay for you cool, offer to pay her half and if she says "No my treat" cool. Avoid situations like "oh you paid last time, I got this time"

I'm going to repeat this. Never take her out and pay for everything.

persephone18 · 2017-04-14T15:50:02+00:00

I'm a female and I always offer to go dutch on dates. Simply because I think it's fair. I've done this on one occasion though where the guy took great offence. He saw it as me thinking less of him or his financial status or something. It was a weird experience as I thought I was being considerate by offering, as most men won't due to fear of the woman acting out.

It has been so heavily implanted in society that men must pay for dates. It's 'weird' if the woman pays now. And a lot of women and men share this mentality. Even if men would probably prefer to not pay for everything (who would?). A lot of women also expect that a man pay and it is simply rude if he doesn't.

I still always offer though. Most of the time, the man will insist he pay while sometimes they'll appreciate it and gladly accept. If they do insist and we are at a restaurant, I try to not order anything very expensive. It just seems polite.

I know women who wouldn't blink twice if a guy wanted to go dutch on a date, but I unfortunately know a lot of women who would be furious/not go on a second date because of it. It depends do you want to: Pay for the date but know for certain that nothing will go wrong with the date at least in that department? Or only pay your part and pose the risk of not getting a second date/getting yelled at?

aceofkate · 2017-04-14T17:54:10+00:00

If a man asks for a date....he should pay.

ppzhao · 2017-04-14T17:56:40+00:00

Dates are opportunities to fck her. Suggest cheap dates that increase your opportunities to fck her, such as "grab a drink or two and take a walk". You should pay for it all, then work your magic from there.

Title	Pay or Dutch on Dates?
Author	DeadShot91
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	April 14, 2017 2:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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