Plates asking "what are we"

SkorchZang · 2014-12-02T07:43:36+00:00

Everything with a non-committal shit eating grin:

"Lovers madly in love."

"What do you mean, what are we?"

"I'm me, you're you. Your ass is nice."

"Why baby, are you worried I might be seeing someone else?"

"Wanting me all to yourself already, huh?"

"Time will tell."

I don't make any "intentions clear" either, until the woman asks. "What are we" is her asking, in my view there's no need to treat it like an aggressive shit test. She's probing and one of the best things to do is to stall it deliciously and act dumb, frustrate her. Make her back off once or twice, so then she has to finally come out and say it explcitly, that she wants "the exclusive talk". Great, sweetheart...thought you'd never ask...

Then in the talk, that's where you outline your position that you are her lover, you're seeing other people and so's she, you're there to enjoy all these special moments you share together...but not interested in being BF/GF, because that's too restrictive, too creepy and controlling, and two people must come together freely if it's true love.

All this kind of bullshit. The end result I find, girls become temporarily dazed, and more attracted. They're just unprepared for such a turn of events, because everyone and their dog is trying so desperately to relationship them... but here's you, talking the Shakespeare about how she doesn't get to?

Bushranger00 · 2014-12-02T05:49:14+00:00

I personally like to go on random misogynistic diatribes before we have sex and roughly every couple of days after I've slept with them the first time, this cements the fact that I don't like nor do I believe in relationships and I rarely ever have it brought up. As usual, I take an extreme approach to most things in life.

K_ofHearts · 2014-12-02T08:14:13+00:00

"Humans, I think."

[deleted] · 2014-12-02T18:40:02+00:00

Male and female! One way I have noticed works well is to limit how often you see them. NEVER more than once a week. If you are consistent and hold true to only seeing them ONCE a week. They get it... they won't even ask. If you see one of them on a Tuesday... she is not granted access to you until after the following Tuesday. Keep a calendar if need be. They will try and suck more time from you. In my opinion that is the best way to make it clear you are not interested in anything serious.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-12-02T05:31:39+00:00

A man cares little for a the feelings of a young lass if he is unwilling to lie for them. Treat it like a Shit Test and hold frame like your relationship depends on it. "We are having fun" works fine. Throw some bones of how you can see yourself with her blah blah. Rational Male talks about this.

JackGetsIt · 2014-12-02T17:53:07+00:00

Make her come clean about what she's saying. Don't let her hint. Then say, "Can I see us growing closer and more exclusive? It's a possibility. Do I want that in my life right now? No." If you respond: "We're fuck buddies and that's all we will ever be" or "You're a 6 and I only get in LTR's with 9's or 10's" you're not really effectively spinning the plate now are you?

MensaNominee · 2014-12-02T19:30:13+00:00

From the age of 17, my natural instinct was to answer this question with, "See, that's the problem with so many "relationships" (while doing air quotes). Too often, women are seeking to be labeled as "something" in regards to their SO or even Fuck buddy. Why do we have to define what "we" are. Why can't we just...BE? We eat together, fuck each other, watch movies and cuddle...why bring a label into what we've created organically? If you're looking to "Be" something, I strongly suggest that you cast aside those expectations and enjoy what we have before you run into disappointment and completely lose what we are and could be."

[deleted] · 2014-12-02T04:50:42+00:00

I think you should be honest, tell them your fuck buddies. If that means they leave, just go radio silence and they might come back. Fuck buddies come and go, it isn't really the type of relationship that lasts though I do know people who have had multi year fuck buddies but I would say those are extremely rare.

Title	Plates asking "what are we"
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Date	December 2, 2014 4:47 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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