Post-sex beta-ness

mach11 · 2013-08-22T04:26:48+00:00

LTR, talk about it before or during, not after. Non-LTR, if it was good for me it was good for her.
Leave the room. Make yourself scarce for a few minutes and come back with a fresh frame.

RedBigMan · 2013-08-22T05:24:16+00:00

1) You're an alpha redpill man now. You dont need feedback. The only feedback you should care about is whether she comes back for another ride on your dick. Fast Food Restaurants doesn't get most of its feedback from asking their customers shit, they get most of their feedback from sales.

[deleted] · 2013-08-22T14:29:39+00:00

Happy, satisfied men are more agreeable with women who have been pleasing. This isn't "beta". Just don't agree to anything that you don't actually want to do- or, if you don't trust yourself to maintain your lines, just make a habit of "Ask me tomorrow, you know better than to try to talk to me when I'm sleepy"

OppsItHappened · 2013-08-24T04:19:12+00:00

Don't seek feedback right after sex. One of the girls I slept with told me she thought it was hot that I wasn't constantly asking her if she came, or if she enjoyed herself. You need to get good enough at sex and at reading her that you know.
Eh, as long as you're not saying "I love you" you're in the clear (if you're not in an LTR). Or promising extravagant things. I either go to sleep or just ask questions, I don't really think about whether it's beta or alpha. Plus, if you're thinking about whether something is beta or alpha prior to doing it, you're already acting as a beta, and it's showing through in other ways. Act as you want to act.

scottywotty14 · 2013-08-22T02:04:24+00:00

I don't solicit feedback. I talk in bed and create an environment of openness so they can ask for what they want and I can ask for what I want. If I feel good about my activity then that's what matters, she will benefit from my personal high standard.
I keep bookmarks of good PUA blog pots that I look over from time to time. I tend to get beta in relationships so I need the constant reminders. I also share them with my guy friends.

Pushnikov · 2013-08-30T04:51:39+00:00

1, If you have to ask... sorry.

2, If I do ask, I usually ask in a positive tone. "You came hard, didn't you?" This usually sets them off giggling thinking about it. It's less of a validation and more of a statement of prowess. I don't recommend doing this unless she was obviously loving it, you might come off clueless.

3, What's oxytocin induced beta-ness? hugging and cuddling isn't beta. You don't have to be a cold. Just make sure you make it clear you are hugging and cuddling because YOU want to do it, and have control over it. One way to assert this is to tell her to get close to you. "Come here." Rather than letting her think the expectation was hers.

SolluxCaptor2 · 2013-08-22T04:16:13+00:00

How do you fight the oxytocin induced betaness? It's worse sometimes than others and seems to have no correlation with the quality or duration of the sex.

So, by your own volition, there is a point at which we are biologically programmed to be beta? Interesting.

Title	Post-sex beta-ness
Author	jazida
Upvotes	7
Comments	12
Date	August 22, 2013 12:56 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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1, If you have to ask... sorry.

2, If I do ask, I usually ask in a positive tone. "You came hard, didn't you?" This usually sets them off giggling thinking about it. It's less of a validation and more of a statement of prowess. I don't recommend doing this unless she was obviously loving it, you might come off clueless.