I posted something a few weeks ago how I keep getting laid then ghosted. Basically everybody chalked it up to me being bad in bed. Since then I pulled a new chick, mutual friend set up date, 1st date short make out (I pulled away), 2nd date=sex. This is now the third chick in a row that has ghosted me after sex lmfao and I am trying to figure out why. 1st girl sex my performance was verrrry bad. 2nd girl, performance was decent. 3rd girl, sex was fireeee. 3rd girl we were both a lil drunk and I could not cum but she for sure did. She was allll sorts of impressed and cuddly after. Telling me “guys usually only lasted 30 seconds”... ya da ya da. Pillow talked for awhile and sobered up, then I drove her to her car.

I have read a bunch of conflicting info on what and when to text a chick after the first time banging her. Blackdragonblog and others recommend a “sweet” “super nice” text the next day telling them you had a good time. I used to not do this, I’d wait for them to text me or idk I wouldn’t give a fuck. The last two girls I texted immediately the next morning as recommended.

Last text convo went as follows:

Me: Hey you made it home right? Her(1min later): yeah I did :) Me(5 min later): Ok good, I had a fun time last night

Nothing after, added her on Snapchat 2 days later but she never added me back. (I know this was stupid). Also I get that she might still hit me up and I’m prob over thinking it. I’m going to hit her up in a week if I haven’t heard anything.

I would still like to hear some opinions on post-lay texting.

I think my issue is these morning after texts. Makes me seem like I’m chasing them. The only other thing I can think of where I fucked up is, kissing them when dropping them off. This ghosting is a new problem for me. 25+ n-count and have never had this issue but also these last 3 girls were hotter than the majority.

TLDR: What’s your move on texting post-lay? I think waiting for them to text/call first is the best move but the majority of advice I see is to text them 1-2 days later.