Preparing for Divorce - 5 Year Plan

random_1135 · 2016-01-18T14:13:26+00:00

You can walk out smelling like roses if you are willing to spend the next few years doing a few things that while not illegal would be very un-ethical.

FarfromaHero40 · 2016-01-18T06:01:16+00:00

I think for the best advice and deriving conclusions from plausible scenarios, consult a family law attorney. Just a consultation at this point. Pose it as a hypothetical. "If I were to go about divorcing my wife, how would I proceed?" Explore the grounds on which to file divorce, i.e., fault or no fault. Also a much more reliable figure to your question of alimony will be ascertained.

Jttoo · 2016-01-18T19:32:36+00:00

You will need to get 'depressed', lose your high paying job so that you make as much or less than her, and acquire a 'gambling' problem where you 'lose' (hide) that $200k. Also take out the maximum in home equity loans and lose/hide that too.

When your combined assets are all gone you can then pull the trigger.

Letsbeserioushere · 2016-01-18T05:15:22+00:00

Hit up /r/marriedredpill

atticusfinch1973 · 2016-01-18T09:37:22+00:00

You also might want to head over to r/divorce. You're likely to have a hefty alimony payment for at least half the duration of your marriage (there is usually a buyout option) and definitely losing half of any assets which includes your house and any savings.

Ask yourself if it's worth it. There are ways to manage an unruly wife, and if you make 250k and sex is an issue, you can afford to pay for it or have an affair.

Also, do check out r/marriedredpill, it has helped a lot of guys manage bad situations and turn them around.

disgruntledearthling · 2016-01-18T13:29:48+00:00

I agree with the family law attorney. That should be step 1. Step 2 should be moving cash out of the family account and into your own private accounts or even cash in a safe-deposit box. You should be able to accumulate a fair chunk over 4 years. Step 3 is strengthen your relationship with your daughter. I did this - mine are 16 and 20 now. They haven't been poisoned much by the ex and they seem to know who's the straight-talker. Do this and the cash thing - the rest will fall away (property, assets) but they aren't really important anyways. You decided your kid is so focus on that.

Rasalom72 · 2016-01-18T14:55:14+00:00

Start hiding assets, take a pay cut/ lower paying job.

David949 · 2016-01-18T17:15:05+00:00

Here is your biggest problem. How long were you married. If it's over 10 years in California you will pay vaginamoney for the rest of your life. I was in a similar situation and I got divorced at 9.5 years and we fought about the divorce date. I wouldn't concede it was after the 10 year mark. I got 50/50 custody of our 11 year old daughter at the time. It was the best decision in the world to do it early. I'm a better man today, learned the red pill after and my daughter knows I am happier

Whatever you do talk to an attorney first and figure out a game plan. Start hiding money now but in a way that is not discoverable in the divorce discovery. Maybe fund your daughters entire college fund now? Another thing that helped me extremely well when I got divorced is that the recession hit. I went from 90k a year to unemployment. If you can swing it maybe it's time to reduce your income because that initial hit from the judge could set your support payments for a long time

RedBigMan · 2016-01-18T17:41:23+00:00

Consult a Lawyer.

If you can move the family to a jurisdiction with more favorable divorce laws if you're in a jurisdiction with crappy rules that even more greatly favor the wife.

Start hiding assets and/or locking assets down in such a way that a divorce will not be able to open them up. I think setting up a trust for your child and/or immediate family is a good way to go. Again consult your lawyer. If you're clearing $250k/year you can afford it. A trust is better than just having a college fund because you can put stipulations on how money is paid out for example you could state that the trust fund can only be accessed by your offspring to pay for college expenses or say to put a down payment on a house or whatever basically preventing your future ex-wife from raiding the college fund for living expenses or whatever.

theultmatecad · 2016-01-18T18:00:29+00:00

I have similar plans but am serving a sentence longer than four years.

See a lawyer and he will guide your plans so you can get out as lightly as possible. One of the things he will certainly tell you is to get your wife back to work. This will significantly cut into your future payments.

throw_em_all · 2016-01-18T18:20:09+00:00

Separate the money for your daughters education and put it in some sort of bank account, with withdrawal conditions if you think it necessary to avoid abuse from her mother.
Evaluate the possibility of setting up a figurehead thing of sorts, so that money can't be touched in the divorce settlement or whatever.

For the other questions, seems to me that you should get a trustworthy lawyer and start planning with legal advise.

itsbooming · 2016-01-18T04:29:02+00:00

Hitman.

Title	Preparing for Divorce - 5 Year Plan
Author	RedPillPreparedness
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Date	January 18, 2016 3:51 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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