Looking for some opinions on Revenge Fantasy both pro and against. I eventually will write a theory post in the Red Pill on the subject which I'm drafting now but going through previous post on the topic I see a huge divided and have experienced both sides of it in myself

Pros: When my ex broke up with me a few years ago and I found the Red Pill. I went back to school, got my degree, got a great job I loved, started lifting, changed up my fashion and overall improved my life. There's no doubt it was a great motivation for me however there is a "but" that leads me to the cons

Cons: When you use that kind of "I'll show you" motivation, you're basically living your life for that other person. Then being the core motivation for everything you do. It's like I'll show you I can be better and then you'll regret leaving me or even worse thinking it will make them come back to you. It becomes the central thought of all your actions and your motivating factor. It's like the nerd in high school who thinks when he gets rich from a good paying job he will teach all the girls a lesson who chose the jocks over him when really he is just beta bucks to them now.

Thoughts? I have a lot I want to write on this subject right now because I'm seeing how it's is and has effected a lot of my life and is apparently common in all men by my seeing how many times this exact subject has been discussed here but I would like opinions from my fellow men here so I can better organise my thoughts hopefully.