hello,

I'll try to make this short. Roommate told me that his gf will stay with us for a "few days" (few months ago), after that nothing was communicated and she's been staying at our place the entire time now. It's very uncomfortable for me to stay with them during the lockdown, feels like a 3rd wheel. They're also sometimes spooning in the living room couch.

I've dropped a couple of hints to the roomie that she's overstaying, and he made a "few" small changes, in that they went to her place for a week (way smaller than ours and 200 km away). We are paying the same rent, I even let him have the nicer room because I thought they would be here "occasionally".

I don't talk to either of them a lot now, I've expressed that I don't like this non-verbally. The gf probably knows that I don't want her coming over (I'm not sure). Recently, she even disrespected me infront a group of our friends. Calling me an idiot and one or two other things, which I didn't react to. But I plan on telling the roomie to get the her the fuck out of the house this week (I wanted to stay polite infront of others). Question is, how do I go about this? They're gonna badmouth me to others for sure after this. Even tho, they've been staying over here for quite a long time. I also don't want to ruin the relationship with roomie cause the house contract is still for months.

TLDR: Roomie's gf staying at our apartment for months, have expressed that I don't like this. Minimal action taken, gf also disrespected me recently infront of some friends.