Saying things behind the back.

realdev · 2015-03-19T03:10:49+00:00

Who knows what she meant exactly, or whether your bro is being 100% honest.. I would forget about it unless something comes up again.

stickfiguresk · 2015-03-19T03:33:11+00:00

Are you buying her shit on this date? Because that'd make a lot of sense. change it to the park and ask her if she has money for x.

You can spin plates in HS. I didnt because i was a loser in HS, but i knew a few dudes (and a lot of girls) who did. Why is this a problem? If anything, everybody is a bit more spazzy, but I don't see any other difficulty there.

Guys like to pretend their problems are bigger than they are when they say they can't spin plates when really they just don't have the frame for it yet. It is almost shitting where you eat, but you can't get fired, so not really.

Axoc · 2015-03-19T06:40:17+00:00

Pale girls and blue eyes are my jam so this is for sure biased but if you feel like your current plate is giving you too much shit and this chick is your fallback, there's a reason she's your fallback.

The only reason you keep resources (whether they are prospects, plates, cars, money, houses) is to use them. If they aren't making you progress at all, you need to start looking for a replacement. If they are dragging you down, you need to cut them off before they drag you down deeper.

Obviously this doesn't always apply. If you have a 9/10 LTR, are 10/10 yourself, a multi-millionaire with your ideal house, car, etc, then you don't need to look for replacements unless things start to drag you down. But in a high school where your social status keeps you from spinning more than one plate, yeah you gotta get rid of shit that hurts you.

Think of it like cancer. Ideally you don't want any cancer. Every now and then you get a benign tumor that doesn't actually cause problems but it's still cancer. You take a while to deal with it, since getting rid of it might cause more trouble than it's worth. Suddenly you get a malignant tumor that will kill you. Don't think "damn guys should I get rid of this?" cut that shit OUT.

sheridork · 2015-03-19T21:35:26+00:00

You heard it through the grapevine, from a tertiary source it sounds like. It seems like you're looking for an excuse to drop her and go for the new girl you're into. If that's the case go for it, just be honest with yourself and your girl about what's going on here.

AlphaAsFAQ · 2015-03-19T04:11:37+00:00

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8675309c · 2015-03-19T19:28:04+00:00

doesn't matter what she says, true or not

Title	Saying things behind the back.
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Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	March 19, 2015 2:47 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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