Self improvement while with gf insanely difficult

BusterVadge · 2017-11-28T13:12:26+00:00

If you can't be yourself around her RIGHT NOW it is going to get harder and harder to be yourself around her as time passes. Trust me on this.

Just be who you want to be and if she doesn't like it, then she is not for you.

Son_of_Tzu · 2017-11-28T10:10:12+00:00

Obvious case of Oneitis here. You clearly are not emotionally independant.

We can't help you unless you agree to see the cause of your lack of progress.

chachaChad · 2017-11-28T15:42:58+00:00

I make a little progress but then revert when I spend time with her.

Bullshit. She doesn't blow air out your lips. Set the rule for yourself that you don't use slang or swear and stick to it no matter the situation. This is all you and until you own every single bit of it and stop pointing fingers at someone else, you won't make any progress.

Changing is a process is doesn't come over night. Each day is another day to take a step closer to your goal. You're going to mess up. Fine. Mess up. Notice it then move forward and do better the next day.

quicklogaccount · 2017-11-28T12:36:24+00:00

Yeah, it's a lot like that man.

Girlfriends require familiarity to be comfortable (the same one that kills attraction) and nest, so they oppose you changing yourself, but can't express this opposition because it's "wrong". If you're increasing your smv you're also adding competition anxiety for your resources to the mix, and it worsen things, most women are rather being with a less attractive and less "risky" guy, also assuming they're also less demanding and easier to please.
If your path is intertwined with a chick's, you're bound to never make radical turns, never change roads and drive really slowly.

Something drove you to seek improvement and changes man, and since whining and nagging makes up for shitty relationships I'll bet on an unfulfilling relationship.
The same thing that drove you to seek improvement will cause angst to force you to change and when it does your brain WILL play tricks on you to get you to ditch the chick if she's in the way. If and when you catch yourself obsessing over her loyalty or thinking you're a creep because you want to be single and fuck around, don't worry a lot and just end things.

Title	Self improvement while with gf insanely difficult
Author	thatguywhatshisface
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	November 28, 2017 9:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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