Self loathing

Rodent9 · 2019-09-17T11:13:04+00:00

Your life is a series of problems. Write them all out. Sort them from easiest at the top to hardest at the bottom. Start at the top until you’re the man you want to be.

saladon · 2019-09-17T11:52:58+00:00

You’re replaying psychological drama to feed your egocentric concept of self. You’re living in the past. You’re making the habit of recurring past-based negative thinking into an identity. That’s just an action. This habit is just an action. Your thoughts are just an action. They are actions. Thoughts are no more who you are than the action of picking up a spoon. Thoughts are conditioned by external phenomena. They come from outside. But what is inside?

Are you aware that you are choosing this negative thinking habit? Are you aware that you can choose to stop? Does it scare you to stop? See, it’s not really a “oh I’ll just stop”. No. It’s a habit. This is the answer:

You need to look at your thoughts, without being identified with them as “you”, and you need to do so constantly. Every thought you think, you look at and appreciate it in the same way as a cloud in the sky. It’s a transient thing, it comes and then it goes, and the thing that saw that happen, and not thought, but the thing that SAW, that thing may be said to be you.

And you can observe how these thoughts link to emotions. Emotions are similarly not who you are, they are from outside, but what is inside?

For more, read The Power of Now.

0io- · 2019-09-17T12:35:07+00:00

Hit the gym. Lift weights. Have to rebuild.

krizzywizzy · 2019-09-17T11:10:33+00:00

i agree with the guy who said about stoicism.

but i would tell you right now is to ACCEPT what happened.

a while ago bro, i felt extremely ashamed of myself... i have this plate in UNI, i tried to tell her to be my girl.. even tho its extremely against my principles. I was caught in the moment, especially with my ADHD. As i expected, she lost interest.. she didnt blew me off, but i see it in her eyes (wait a minute.. i thought this guy was the man). So i feel crushed and embarrassed for myself as fuck.. luckily it took some time and breathing to come back to my frame.. a guy who's on his grind/purpose. Now i feel better.. and that was a while ago bro. I can still recall the agony! to feel peace starts with acceptance! dont fight the feeling bro. accept it

plus: it helps to have a purpose. do you have that to begin with?

Rx_Red · 2019-09-19T17:36:00+00:00

Remember how this makes you feel and also realize that one day you won't feel this way anymore if you keep improving.

Think of it this way: the pain and discipline you have now will propel you to be a phenomenal person in the future. Know that this will be the feeling you look back on and not one that you'll be stuck on forever. Memorialize this time as the fuel you needed, rather than the situation you're drowning in

sarwin-reddit · 2019-09-17T11:02:21+00:00

Read about stoicism and practice it.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-17T13:04:41+00:00

What are you doing to better yourself?

How are you improving on your failures and insecurities?

Title	Self loathing
Author	RivenHalf
Upvotes	11
Comments	11
Date	September 17, 2019 9:33 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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