Severe PE

xX_NanShanker420_Xx · 2017-04-25T05:07:32+00:00

Doctor?

gg_s · 2017-04-25T05:39:02+00:00

I had this problem. It wasn't PE, but had trouble getting/staying hard. You just need to work through it and not worry. So what if you can't perform, just try again and don't worry about it. I thought fapping was the issue too, but it's more psychological than anything most likely. Cut back to once or twice a week, and be strict about it. Dial back to less hardcore shit if you're deep in the rabbit hole or get off videos completely. Not releasing for long periods is very unnatural, and it won't solve anything.

Your dick wants pussy, trust me. Focus on the experience, enjoy the woman, and you'll feel great.

Frigzy · 2017-04-25T06:41:32+00:00

This is usually in your head. And tinder makes it worse in a sense because from the get go your mind is oversexualizing these women.

The problem with PE in my case at least was that my brain was worked up towards sex, regardless of whether or not the girl was even worth having sex with irl. The fact that I already knew why I was there and what the goal was, combined with a lack of sex with other women completely geared my entire body towards cumming. Again, regardless of the different other indicators of attraction. Only one thing mattered at that point. See it as a form of overexcitement.

What you can do is meditate on your state of arousal. And this starts even while swiping or simply thinking sexually about a girl. When you notice yourself getting hard, try to relax and breathe. Use your PC muscle to soften up. If you can't already do this, know that it's actually possible and learn how to do it. This will give you a great sense of control over your own arousal. Cumming is also a form of muscle tension in general, so relaxing your muscles as much as possible, breathing slowly and applying to pc muscle technique will put you in control of your orgasms. Obviously not from the get go, this takes practice, but it's well worth it. Yes, pc muscle exercises can help, if not just for learning how to work with them.

The idea behind the technique is simple. The hardness of your dick is caused by blood running into it. You can see this as contained by a certain barrier which opens or closes usually unconsciously, however it is connected to your pc muscle, which you can control. Overall muscle tension will also be a factor, but you get the idea. You will feel you can contract or push out your pc muscle. Contraction will keep the blood there, pushing out and relaxing your mind and body will release the blood, giving you back control.

It also doesn't hurt to start noticing the moments where you oversexualize the idea of certain girls. Try to be honest with yourself there and not place the sexual emphasis on them if you can. Put their personality first for example. Meet them to evaluate them instead of prematurely validating their pussy.

Last but not least, the best long-term solution is simply to have more sex, because this is the most effective way of removing all the tension that you currently experience before having it. Simply because it just isn't a big deal anymore. Obviously this is easier said than done, but it's the final step.

This is how I got under control, so I hope it works out for you as well.

wessyy · 2017-04-25T05:01:24+00:00

Dont worry too much about it, i sometimes come quick aswell. Just go down on the girl to make her cum first (learn this if you cant!). Then when you cum quick just compliment her on being sexy or whatever and own it like its no big deal.

Its only a problem if you make it a problem.

barhum2017 · 2017-04-25T08:38:06+00:00

Have you researched the start-stop method (it really does work)? Just remember to stop before the point of no return and then resume the fun. I also find that letting the girl know that you might ejaculate fast the first time takes the stress out of it (just mention it right before you are about to stick it in). You can always always go for a second round a bit later.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-04-25T12:34:19+00:00

You've got some work ahead, but you're not the first guy with PE.

The most common approach to addressing PE I've seen around is to practice controlling the E. Masturbation and edging. Edging forever. You will eventually understand your dick better, and be able to control it.

I don't know your triggers, but start with basic stuff. If staring at some ridiculously hot girl's pic and fantasising about fucking her makes you come, start with that.

Also, maybe you come in 10s, but can you get up again? If so, just accept a free orgasm before you get going!

Raikkonen716 · 2017-04-25T13:32:57+00:00

Hey dude. This is not pathetic at all, it's perfectly ok to want to be always better, and i know PE is one of those things that bothers A LOT.

I had PE since i was a child. It wasn't sever as yours, but it was still pretty bad. Let's say that i could cum in 30 seconds if i wanted to. In a way, i still have PE, because potentially i could still cum very quickly. But with time i learned to control it, so i can last much more in bed. I never tried to count, but i think i usually have sex for 20/30 minutes.

I'll tell you what worked for me:

Understanding that PE is not a problem in your penis, is most probably a problem in your head. Very often, it's just a case of being "Turned on" too easily.
Breathing: Most probably, when you ejaculate too fast you are not breathing slowly. You are breathing quickly, or you even try not to breath. Try to change it. Learn to always breath deeply and slowly, shift your attention from your penis to your breath. This will have a double effect. You will be less turned on during sex/masturbation and you will feel more relaxed, that will lead in needing more time to ejaculate. (Mediation helps in this regard).
Relax the muscles: I noticed that in my case (and i read it in many others cases as well), PE was associated with a tension in muscles. Identyfing what are the muscles varies from person to person, but the main point is finding what are those muscles that you tend when you are horny. In my case it was all about leg / ass muscles. When i'm horny , i tend to tense those muscles, and in result i feel more turned on and want to ejaculate faster.

How can you exercise in order to last longer? Simple, with masturbation. Like i did, i suggest you to masturbate (without porn - Porn is really bad in regard of PE) and pay a close attention on how you feel. Just lay on your bed, start to masturbate, and try to notice every change that happen in your body. Remember to breath deeply and slowly, and give a sense of relaxation to your body. Your task should be to trying lasting as much as possible.

Try 1m first, then 5m, then 10m and so on. Remember to not ejaculate, if you feel the need to cum then stop, wait a bit, and then try again. This way, your body will get used to that stimulation, but you will learn to stop that feeling of immediate turning on. This is called edging. Search for it, and try it.

I hope this helps, i found all these info on The Red Pill (if you search, you should find the old posts that i found). Rememeber that you can beat PE, so stay relaxed and do your job ;)

P.s. I wouldn't recommend no fap. I would recommend No Porn instead.

LewisCross · 2017-04-25T16:15:45+00:00

You using a lot of porn?

juunnioorrr · 2017-04-25T19:38:23+00:00

Try meditation as this helps you live in the moment and not worry about future events such as coming.

I've had this problem as well and found out after meditating for an average of 5 minutes everyday, that i helped as I do control my breathing when I'm with a women and try to focus on the experience in the moment rather than the future gratification.

MattyAnon · 2017-04-25T20:12:05+00:00

Unfortunately, I have severe PE with a little bit of ED. Like, cum before anything can happen. It suck

See a few girls, get it out of your system.

nofap will probably make pe worse. tone down the porn though. lift heavy things to increase T.

am I basically stuck waiting until pe goes away to see girls or should I just get real good at eating pussy and accept the humiliation of not being able to do more?

haha just practice, jeez. see a girl, see another until you get it right. don't expect your first (or next) time to be perfect.

I know this is a little pathetic but after inspiring me to change literally every other major aspect of my life I was hoping trp could help me out here.

I'm writing an article about all this. It's going to take a few days. Nudge me if it's not done soon.

SkylarBar · 2017-04-25T09:49:37+00:00

The way i dealt with PE was ordering Priligy (dapoxetine), quick-acting SSRI. Mix 60mg of it with 25mg viagra (sildenafil) and you are ready to go for however long you want, actually congrats if you cum. Most likely you will became dehydrated and exhausted before reaching orgasm. Both are prescription drugs but be a smart boy. I advice you tho, sex gets boring on dapoxetine, you get weird "out of it" feeling but if lasting long and banging girl hard is more important than your climax, then go for it.

Blaat1985 · 2017-04-25T07:09:25+00:00

Nofap makes PE worse. By not having sex you make your penis more senstive, which leads to faster orgasms. Stop doing that.

Title	Severe PE
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Date	April 25, 2017 4:51 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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