Shit tested by a dude..when is enough, enough?

throw_em_all · 2015-07-22T19:16:08+00:00

Getting shit for being a manwhore from guys is great advertising, if you get laid a lot it sure has to be a reason right? Agree and amplify ad infinitum my friend, don't get personal though it's your workplace after all, even if you're involved in a scene, you don't want to be the one making it.

"there he said the biggest slut of the hospital."

Hospital?? Bitch please, don't insult me, I'm the biggest manwhore of (insert area code).

OmLaLa · 2015-07-22T19:16:46+00:00

Or even some of them say "they can tell by the way I act around/flirt with women.

Bingo. People can tell by how comfortable you are around women that you've slept with multiple women. I'd see that as a sign of good frame.

He said " you never change your such a flirt and all this shit".

he said "there he said the biggest slut of the hospital."

Beta jealousy. That's all that is. Congrats, you've gained your first "hater"! Maintain frame and brush him aside.

My first instinct was to say. "You're moms been telling people?"

No need to confront someone in envy of you, as you'd be stooping to their level. That's what he wants.

Wear the "player" card he keeps giving you proudly as pre-selection is THE strongest attractor for women.

BrunoOh · 2015-07-22T19:38:51+00:00

Practice your wtf-face better.

In that situation: "Aww, did I break your heart?".

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-07-22T20:52:55+00:00

It's great advertising, but it's clear the dude is beta snapping on you.

Back in the day you could just ask this dude to step outside and then knock him out. Today, you can't do that. Maybe tell him to stop. You have to do that before you go to HR and file a complaint.

Whisper · 2015-07-22T22:31:47+00:00

Jealous betas attempting to cockblock you is some of the best social proof there is.

Just smile and agree.

chockle · 2015-07-22T21:39:32+00:00

sounds more like a cock block attempt

The_BeardedGentleman · 2015-07-22T19:05:09+00:00

I'd probably just throw the banter back with "someones gotta please your bitch", but I'm a spiteful little shit.

He does sound slightly gay as fuck. Depends on the tone of "your such a flirt" because thats totally a chick line.

throwitawaynow589345 · 2015-07-22T23:26:49+00:00

Hospital? Are you guys in the same department? Different or related? Him calling you a man whore in a professional setting is extremely unprofessional and can be construed as creating a hostile work environment. Record instances when, and if you can, get corroborating testimony from coworkers about his comments to you. Yeah, build your case for HR, because any HR department worth their salt will not want the spin of x employee quitting their job because of relentless name calling on subject matter outside the workplace. Also, you can make a show of it, of recording when and where he calls you slut/manwhore, if you want to warn them and establish boundaries. Otherwise, just get them fired for creating a hostile work environment.

You should also be creating an atmosphere or reputation that while you are at work you are AT WORK.

This would fall under the 5th law of 48 laws of power. Defend your reputation.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-07-23T01:13:03+00:00

You know what? You've obviously banged or impressed someone with whom this dude is in love.

Tell him if he doesn't stfu, you're gonna put it in her butt.

zeny_two · 2015-07-23T01:17:15+00:00

Agree and amplify.

Nobody has said it yet, which is a little concerning.... Shit tests from men should be handled the same as shit tests from women. Agree and amplify. Amplify to the point of absurdity so that he knows you're not taking him seriously. Don't get defensive, retaliatory, angry, or annoyed. Laugh because it's funny.

stillnoturday · 2015-07-23T04:27:29+00:00

Sounds like he is peanut butter and jealous.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-07-22T20:51:50+00:00

No, don't ignore this. Just play it off. Like others here are saying, throw this back at his face. Don't feel scared of offending his emotions, because he clearly doesn't care about yours. Seriously.

The others are saying great responses. Use them. If he escalates about not being gay, just interrupt him and say "no, no, that's ok, i'm down with the rainbow. I have a few gay friends. Maybe I can introduce him to you." Stopping him before he can answer makes it that much funnier for the audience.

If he makes fun of your slutty behavior, just laugh out loud and just say "yep. one day you'll understand.. one day.." laugh again, and start singing "like a virgin.. touched for the very first time, like a virgin" and point at him. This requires a high level of cockiness and confidence to pull off.

Or if he makes fun of sex in general, play it off seriously, and say with a straight face "hey. Exploring one's sexuality is a critical life's experience. I would never tell a girl she can't have sex. Shame on you." Twist his words just like he is twisting everyone else's.

Title	Shit tested by a dude..when is enough, enough?
Author	Deanb1307
Upvotes	1
Comments	19
Date	July 22, 2015 6:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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