Shit-Texting Tinderella

OmLaLa · 2015-10-20T19:48:04+00:00

Very, very well played. True RP text game gold is what this is.

Please, allow me to provide some insight:

M: 5 miles away... Stalking me already?

This is a very good opening in my opinion.

T: Yes, I am definitely the stalker type (A little playful back and forth about stalking/hiding in closets)

T: So how does this Tinder shit work? I just got it today and it's just a bunch of creepers who wanna fuck. Are you a creeper?

M: There's only one way to find out - meet me for a drink and decide for yourself

This is good as well. A bit wordy but your intentions match your texts all while being effectively coy. Another good response.

T: Am I going to get kidnapped and raped and chopped into little pieces?

M: Only if the date goes well

Three for three. I can tell you've done this before.

T: Ok sounds good

M:You know where the ___ bar at __ is?

Logistics-focused, very good so far...

T: No. I live in ___ . I'm not too knowledgeable in the bar scene in ___.

M: I bet your phone does. Meet me there at 9:00

Wow, very good. Maybe I should take notes from you.

T: You go out to drink every night with a new tinder girl?

M: Yep. Sometimes two in one night

I love it. Make her hamster sweat a bit.

T: How many are showing up tonight?

M: Depends. Can I add you to the tally?

Here's where it gets a bit shaky.

This response is your first step into her frame as you've basically asked, "Can I count on you showing up?" I know it seems small, but this makes her question the authenticity of the rest of your remarks as your existence haven't yet been perceived by her.

A better response might've been "2. 3 if you show up." There's still hope for you yet, though. New RPers could learn for a collection of responses like these.

T: Pencil me in one of these days where I'm the only one showing up

Oh, a shit test. Possibly in response to what I've listed above.

M: Well I could make an exception for you this one time. Gotta be tonight though. Can't keep my tinderellas waiting...

No, no. You were doing so well. You've started dropping frame exactly here.

Here is where you've established that she's worth more to you than the other women you've mentioned. Women don't want a guy who values them higher than other women, especially a guy she hasn't met yet.

T: Tonight I can't so invite as many as you want. I'm sure they're all anxiously waiting

And as predicted, she begins to back away. "Maybe he's not the Alpha I thought he was."

Remember, because she hasn't met you yet, all of your Game is conceptual to her. When she sees the body in action with the frame is the only time you can afford a drop like this. Perfect execution is unfortunately a prerequisite.

M: Give me your number so we can keep in touch until you're ready to take that leap of faith

Ah, another small step into her frame and a drop of yours. She begins to back away and you step closer by asking for her number. Thats kind of like flinching when someone throws a fake pass at you.

The correct response is to back down or put your other options above her. That's what shes expecting an Alpha to do.

You have you see this through her eyes:

"Here's this guy who has his pick of all these women, sets up dates with multiple women at once and is attractive, and yet he's seemingly pining for my attention without ever having met me."

Your legitimacy is currently in question, hence her sudden raincheck and rescheduling.

T: As long as I'm saved as #1tinderella

M: Yet to be determined but the position is available

Again, over-investment without having met her. You're offering a stranger a position in your life which isn't something an Alpha would typically do.

Remember, perception trumps truth until you've met in person.

T: Boo. What does one gotta do to get the position?

M: Beat out all the other applicants, of course. I'll be sure to put your resume at the top of the pile

First, you complimented her i.e. validated her for the first time in this exchange over something she didn't earn; you're offering her a top spot in your team without meeting her.

Also, while I can see this is an attempt to come off as under-invested, it's a poor attempt at doing so.

Lastly, and this is more of a broader note, you can't say how under-invested you are in her, you just have to be under-invested. On that same note, you can't tell her how many women you're considering or have options with. She has to see it for herself.

Saying things like "I'll be sure to put your resume at the top of the pile" does the opposite of what you're intending; it portrays over-investment.

This could be perceived as humblebragging and your intentions are all to clear, synonymous with the guy at the bar who "causally slips in a remark about his new BMW every chance he gets. Note that I said "could", as it all depends on how she perceives it.

Women want a challenge. They want a guy whose interest they have to fight for.

She now knows from this text and several others that your interest in her is already grounded and available, whether or not your comment on "multiple resumes" is true. And regarding multiple women, most women will find that a man who has his pick of the litter wouldn't have to announce his abundance.

Consider the guy with his new BMW. If he constantly talked about it every chance he got, you'd probably see it as some form of compensation for something else (i.e. an unattractive trait). If he never spoke of it at all, and you found out about it as your group walked to the parking lot where he presumed to brush it off as "just another thing", you'd hold him to a much higher level of admiration. The same applies here.

Women want to be "just another thing" to you. When they begin to become a centralized asset in your life is when they begin shying away.

T: Works for me. (#-close)

Haven't texted her yet.

I got a little harsh there to make a point. You have soo much potential to become a Tinderina lady killer. Your messages were superb, one of the best I've analyzed thus far. And I've analyzed a lot of texts.

I've offered my advice as a means to fine-tune your very-capable abilities. Work on those, and I foresee a lot of promiscuity in your future. And I don't say that often.

All in all, well done. Wait a day or so before texting her.

floppymammarygland · 2015-10-20T16:58:13+00:00

well played...

mr_nate_ · 2015-10-20T20:54:15+00:00

Who is this texting GOD?? Do you hold a Class of Tinder Game or some shit? Where can I sign up homie???

Just reading this I'd revoke all of my sexuality and fuck the shit out of you.

stickfiguresk · 2015-10-20T18:46:06+00:00

You go out to drink every night with a new tinder girl?

Shit test.

yep. Sometimes two in one night

Passed, but with unnecessary elaboration. Less is more.

How many are showing up tonight?

Shes challenging the frame of being in a gaggle of hoes competing for your affection. The idea turned her off.

fuckemorfuckem · 2015-10-20T15:47:53+00:00

Mayyyyybe a tiny bit too forward with the admitting of multiple tinder dates per night. Don't deny that you are a "player", but don't come right out and state it IMO. Let her hamster build you up.

I think you did a great job personally. Now just text her in a day or two saying "My schedule is open tomorrow night, let's get a drink."

One other note, I have had little success setting up dates in the exact same night. I have much better results with setting it up the next day or even further out. I think this is partly because showing that you are looking for a date tonight comes off as overly eager/desperate. Second, women have fickle minds, and the whole game is basically getting them to not find any good reason to not get a drink with you. If you are going for a date in the same night, chances are she already has some plans, even if it's just laundry night, and it will be much easier for her to say no. If it's a day or two out, it's much more likely she doesn't have any plans worth turning you down for. Third, it feels rushed.

EDIT: Furthermore on the pushing for a date on the same night as you first start talking to them, keep in mind that women will generally want to groom themselves a bit before the first date as well.

RPLEAN · 2015-10-20T21:07:55+00:00

Numbers mean nothing. I literally have this conversation 4 times a week on tinder and I get a tinder date 75% of weeks and less than 25% of those end in f closes or day 2s

verify_account · 2015-10-20T22:44:35+00:00

Holy fuck that girl is throwing out shit test left and right and OP is just handling them like a champ. Nice work OP.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-10-21T02:56:24+00:00

T: Boo. What does one gotta do to get the position. M: we haven't even met and you're already discussing positions? I'm not that that easy.

Just what I thought after that line. This exchange is the exact type of breezy banter required for any conversation.

Apexk9 · 2015-10-20T15:46:21+00:00

Cringe worthy

Shit-Texting Tinderella

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Title	Shit-Texting Tinderella
Author	GlansInYourHands
Upvotes	25
Comments	35
Date	October 20, 2015 3:37 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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