Should I Stop Cheating?

Clint_Redwood · 2016-02-08T16:17:31+00:00

killed most of those emotions off a long time ago.

No one has pointed this out to you yet.

You seem extremely emotionally driven too me.

Most people think "emotion drive" and picture a chick going apeshit over some bullshit that doesn't really matter. Most people don't realize that our emotions ARE the drive for any action, even logically thought out ones. Most of the time, logic is used to explain action after the fact.

I recently left a woman who was very good to me, and I can definitely confirm she wasn't cheating on me. However I continued to cheat on her regardless because fuck it. And she gained weight over the years. And I punished her ruthlessly for it. I don't have much empathy left nor guilt as the bitterness killed most of those emotions off a long time ago.

The girl I left was basically someone I consider to have been one of the best friends I've ever had and made countless sacrifices for me and even put up with my TRP / Cheating mentality. Eventually though it got to her of course. Took about 6 years.

We actually had a lot in common and she never betrayed me to the best of my knowledge.. and yet I treated her like a fucking dog. Who does that to someone they consider to be a friend? This girl was not like the others. She seemed happy enough just to be obedient.

Almost half of your post is how logically awesome this girl is. Your question is a no fucking brainer.

I think your answer will be found the more you dive introspectively. You definitely did not kill your emotions off long ago. You are pretty much being driven solely by your emotions right now. You logically knew she was awesome and rare yet you let your emotions and past experiences of being burnt cloud your judgement and hamster away your actions.

Oh and just to state, i don't give a fuck about cheating or it's morality. I prefer polyamory but your issue isn't morality or happiness, it's you letting your emotions dictate your actions instead of logic.

You need to stop making excuses for your cheating. It's all hamstering. Line out what you want out of a girl, if she meets it, keep her, if she doesn't, NEXT. Don't risk fucking it up with shit like cheating.

Cheating should fit your lifestyle and what you want out of it. If it doesn't, stop fucking cheating, simple as that.

You seemed to want a lifestyle of not cheating, but then you cheat because emotions and girls suck and you got burnt and shit.

awkwardtouching · 2016-02-08T15:02:33+00:00

Not everything about TRP is about spinning plates and dating advice. I've told friends of mine from both TRP and PUA that plate spinning is not really an end game. It's just a tool we use during the meantime to grow as people, learn new skills, expand our social networks, and experience life to the fullest so that somewhere down the road we are in better control of our lives. We are getting good at aligning what we want, with what we get.

But that being said a lot of dudes are so focussed on getting ass, they forget to ask if they should? There's more to life than pussy. And ignoring obvious red flags on women will get you cheated on, an std, in debt, divorced, etc.

You are trying these women out in the mail room of your life so that someday they get a seat at the board. But still, in some small way you are probably sacrificing yourself to be with them. Having 15+ plates doesn't impress me, it just makes you seem not very discerning. If every girl you meet can get spun, then maybe up your standards. You really only need 5 quality girls at any time - and they should be ones that you could legitimately see yourself in a LTR with someday (if they play their cards right).

Hope that helps and doesn't sound to harsh.

Mildly_Sociopathic · 2016-02-08T14:07:00+00:00

I hate fucking kids too.

You might wanna change that.

cdtCPTret · 2016-02-08T15:23:30+00:00

Damn I could totally see Eminem rapping OP's entire post as is. It flows well. Sorry I don't have anything else to add.

StarDestinyGuy · 2016-02-08T14:28:37+00:00

I recently left a woman who was very good to me, and I can definitely confirm she wasn't cheating on me. However I continued to cheat on her regardless because fuck it. And she gained weight over the years. And I punished her ruthlessly for it. I don't have much empathy left nor guilt as the bitterness killed most of those emotions off a long time ago.

So was this a LTR?

If you're in an exclusive LTR with someone who is very good to you, don't cheat on them.

You need to get over this mindset of "fuck it, I've been cheated on so much that I'm going to cheat on every woman I'm with." There's no honor in cheating.

EvolvedA · 2016-02-08T13:35:52+00:00

You are changing! You yourself, your goals and also your values. Like in a project, you should take some time to think and to adapt to those changes from time to time.

So my advice is to grab a pen and a sheet of paper and write down what you want from life and what you would have to do or sacrifice for it and find a concept that feels right for you.

RP is all about finding the right thing for you, no matter what others think. (at least for me)

When you wrote about the girl that sacrificed a lot for you, I sensed some regret - go after feelings like that and find what is important for you and how you can achieve what that is.

You should no one let judge you for your decisions! Maybe you decide that you want to spread your genes and want to have children? family? Most people die alone anyways, even with family/children so fuck that, but to not spread your genes?!? Is that really a solution for you? Is to father a child and not caring about it a solution?!?

Just keep the RP truths in the back of your mind (be careful, stay the captain at all cost), you might want to look over to /r/marriedredpill how a LTR can work and what are the problems that come with it.

(35, discovered TRP while in an LTR, by far not past the anger phase...)

David949 · 2016-02-08T17:07:58+00:00

I'm 43 and have 2 girlfriends. One knows about the other, the other does not. Most of my friends know about both of them. I too would get tired of spinning plates but I can say right now I am happy with 2 women in my life. You could try poly but that would open it to the women sleeping with other guys

Ultimately TRP is about making you happy. You need to look inside and figure out what you want. If you want to avoid relationships and just get laid for the rest of your life do that. If you want a relationship go do that

bonerfleximus · 2016-02-08T17:30:59+00:00

Pursuing your goals in life should be your primary source of personal fulfillment. Women should be secondary. If you're serious about spinning 15+ plates at a time, I'm going to assume women are your primary source of life satisfaction. The same way someone who over-indulges in their favorite food gets tired of it so will you with women. An LTR won't fix this, nor will spinning more plates. Your source of fulfillment should be something else with women being a byproduct / secondary source or at least in balance with other aspects of your life.

FRedington · 2016-02-08T18:05:24+00:00

UnluckyPenguin · 2016-02-09T00:52:46+00:00

I hate fucking kids too.

Until you have one.

Trust no woman.

TRP explains AWALT. You can obviously read a girls body language. Definitely don't trust a woman's word. But you can trust their nature. You can trust them to act exactly how you enable them to act. Nothing to be bitter or angry about.

We actually had a lot in common and she never betrayed me to the best of my knowledge..

Human's strive for companionship. Life is so uncertain that people often find themselves behind a leader (you), even if that leader is not the most gracious individual.

Of course it feels empty hooking up with all those women. Eventually your memories are just going to blend together, so you need to make each memory unique. You should try spinning only zero or one plate, and be honest to those around you. It will put your mind at peace.

If you're spinning 15+ girls at any given moment, when do you have to do what you actually want to do? Like hang out with your close guy friends or go on a motorcycle ride or go backpacking or on a cruiseship vacationing around the world?

drqxx · 2016-02-08T15:00:36+00:00

/r/marriedredpill

Another perspective.

TheReformist94 · 2016-03-18T12:06:25+00:00

What a top post mate.every single girl cheats.without fail.good on you bro

Title	Should I Stop Cheating?
Author	djcr0nix
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Date	February 8, 2016 1:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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