"Sleepovers" with LTR

DennisReynoldsAMA · 2016-08-13T04:34:45+00:00

Go lift, if she says she doesn't want you too, go lift. Don't be nice to her unless she's looking hot. If she's not wearing makeup shes not trying to impress you anymore. Ignore her, stop giving her attention. Soon as she starts wearing make up and looking better then You can reward her with your attention, tell her to workout more, would give her an idea that she isn't good enough. If she's over your house, leave, go somewhere without her, and go home late. Just confuse her and play with her emotions until she gets that she shouldn't sleep over and should start trying to impress you again. Sex is not something to keep her over for, is that and cooking all she offers? Get a bang maid.

RedneckInternational · 2016-08-13T11:09:14+00:00

You've kind of got the wrong idea about this. Here are a few points:

Aside from relieving my morning wood and cooking me breakfest

That's her doing her job

I start getting irritated and pissed off and it affects my frame

The act of getting irritated and pissed off is losing frame, which is the crux of the situation

and starts cutting into my gym time.

There's no reason whatsoever that this should be the case, and it's your lack of frame that's causing it. Nothing is keeping you from your routine but you, even if she stays over

She also doesn't "get ready" for these sleepovers and looks super complacent (no makeup, hoody and sweatpants).

That is getting ready for a sleepover for an LTR, and you need to accept that there are going to be times when she isn't going to be looking 100 percent if you want to have LTR, otherwise you need to break up with her and spin plates instead

but I seriously cannot fathom the idea of cohabitating with women EVER.

Nothing wrong with that, but if you're going to have a girlfriend, it's part of the territory for her to want to stay over occasionally. It really sounds like you would be a lot happier with plates/fwbs, but you definitely need to figure out what your frame issue is with feeling like you can't do your shit because she stayed over

tempusers · 2016-08-13T05:17:11+00:00

|I don't get a good night's rest because she snores

I feel you though. Last LTR broke up with me over the exact same because I wouldn't let her stay over anymore until she saw an Ear Nose Throat doctor to see if it could be relieved.
I was a bit worried she could develop sleep apnea. I tried to tell her I was concerned. She said I was just selfish. It was a bad situation all around because I do sleep really lightly and I need to have quiet to sleep. My discomfort or inability to work and be mentally productive the next day after her stay was not considered on her behalf. Quite ~~solipsistic~~ only concerned about her need for a place to stay closer to work during the week.
It flat out sucks, but that's just the way it is.

RobertCarraway · 2016-08-13T04:46:53+00:00

You are either:

A) extremely narcissistic

or

B) Not really that into her

It's probably a combination of both. Yes, it's weird. If you "taper her off' of one sleep over a week, you downgrade her to plate. You're breaking up with her. So either break up with her or stop being such a whiner.

Try these words, "You irritate me when you sleep over, so we're not going to do that any more." - That oughta to keep the bitch out of your house.

RedSkeller · 2016-08-13T12:05:33+00:00

Had almost the exact same situation, I'm an only child, GF started staying over without make up - snores/gets up 2x a night. I think it stems from not having enough down time. You need to recharge your batteries and ultimately you come first. As for the gym thing, I don't see anything wrong with teasing her or pinching her fat. Things only really go down hill from here so make her shape up or... you know.

FrameWalker · 2016-08-13T12:47:33+00:00

Would you be okay with her sleeping on the couch? Give her a nice hard fuck, then tuck her in like a little child. Pillow blanket the works. Maybe even a bedtime story. Kiss on the forehead to complete the act.

MattyAnon · 2016-08-13T13:42:06+00:00

whenever we spend longer than like 8 hours, I start getting irritated and pissed off

You're assessing the value of your time, the quality of her company against the value of sex.

(no makeup, hoody and sweatpants)

She is taking you for granted. Time to reduce her privileges. Drop the stayovers for a bit.

Is this normal?

Yes, women are like this... they're often not great company.

How can I taper her off of these sleepovers?

"You can come over, but you can't stay the night... I've got an early start and an important meeting, I need to be well rested". She will test you HARD on this. You must not crack under any circumstances. After that sleepovers are with agreed permission only. The default must be "no sleepover". She'll agree to it, but you MUST NOT WAVER.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-08-13T19:29:36+00:00

I don't get a good night's rest because she snores, talks in her sleep, and hogs the blanket.

there was some science behind men and women sleeping (as in actually sleeping) together, you're not an unique case.

Thizzlebot · 2016-08-13T22:16:44+00:00

Naw you are just an introverted person and you want your space. Set it up so she's not spending the night unless you invite her.

htbf · 2016-08-14T01:51:48+00:00

This is gold. This is why I love this sub.

Title	"Sleepovers" with LTR
Author	philxd395
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Date	August 13, 2016 4:12 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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