Spinning two plates -> Turn one into an LTR

AwakenedSovereign · 2017-10-09T00:01:06+00:00

Yes, you should wait for them to bring up exclusivity. That's their job. Your job is to allow it or not. They want to capture you and put you in that cage.. make em earn it. If you fly into the cage it's boring.

Do not talk about anything first, really. If you haven't talked about it yet the default assumption is that you are non-exclusive.

Also realize that your status of non-exclusivity is a big part of the attraction. Preselection and competition anxiety are a potent combo. Even if one of them comes at you to get serious, and that's what you want, don't rush into it. Good timeline is 6mo of plate before she is even eligible for an upgrade. Anything less than that and you risk getting into a relationship with a person you have not had sufficient time to really get to know.

Also, why are you so eager to get into a relationship? You're in college. Keep your options open and focus on yourself. Enjoy them and their full sexuality with minimal investment. Doesn't mean you won't have feelings for them, and them for you. But it is all temporary. People come and go. These girls will come and go. Making one your girlfriend will not change that.

_the_shape_ · 2017-10-09T00:05:05+00:00

Should I just continue plating both until one of them brings up being exclusive?

If it doesn't interfere with your grades and you're having fun having both of them around, then I don't see why not.

Should I also mention to both we are not exclusive currently?

Doing that is essentially another way of bringing about "the talk", and it negates remaining silent about the point above regarding exclusivity. I keep it firmly implanted in my head (frame) that everything is going about just fine, we get along great, everything's cool, no need to start bogging each other down with the 'seriousness' of labels, so the exclusive talk never ever arises from my end (and speaking of "ends", if whatever we do have comes to a halt, then so be it - there will be more)

You always wait for them to bring it up. If you wish to yield and devote yourself to only one girl at that juncture is up to you.

tsargorgi · 2017-10-09T01:15:42+00:00

You're shitting where you eat really hard with the HB7.5. Recognize that. I get the feeling that you think it's better that she's the same major as you and in all your classes. This has the potential to blow up in your face. It did for me when I didn't know anything about RP, and the general advice here is to stay clear of situations like this. Maybe you can handle it if you know enough RP, idk.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-10-09T09:51:18+00:00

Why would u want exclusivity?

beermagnate · 2017-10-09T11:49:01+00:00

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Title	Spinning two plates -> Turn one into an LTR
Author	REDDlT_ACCOUNT_MAN
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	October 8, 2017 11:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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