struggling with the red pill

failed_singingcareer · 2019-12-25T06:20:53+00:00

It all starts from within. The moment you choose to become decisive, talk to everyone you meet, have the discipline to work out, is when you'll feel yourself becoming a man. Everything is relative, there are 8 billion people in the world. Don't get discouraged because 1 rejects you. Rejection has been the key for me to become socially confident.

Anything else is all bullshit, and there is no answer to your question.

Focus on knowing and understanding yourself. You will be able to handle the rest from there. The definition of success varies from person to person. Just know what you want out of life and then go get it, there is no right or wrong answer.

theUnBannableHulk · 2019-12-25T09:30:07+00:00

If you aren’t actually out in the world APPLYING what you learn You’re never gonna be red pill.

Sucks but it’s true

ThinSpiritual · 2019-12-25T06:36:55+00:00

How long I took is irrelevant to you.

The way we internalize new knowledge is to associate them with a pre-existing memory. That's basically how cognition works. So if you don't have a lot of experience, reading theories may not help you that much (and, did you even read?). The key is to practice, to walk the path (and less talking about how you know the path) until you doubt yourself, but you keep walking anyways until you have enough dots to connect in hindsight.

So why don't you go to the gym and do those workouts? Nobody can help you become the "man" you want.

TecnoParadox · 2019-12-25T06:57:01+00:00

Rome wasn’t built in a day. You are trying to become fit, charismatic and successful simultaneously over night and that just won’t happen. Working too hard or trying too many things at once will simply overwhelm you. Pick one activity at a time then, when it becomes natural, add a new area to improve on top. Rinse and repeat.

It is the same issue people have starting working out. They have the all or nothing mentality, wanting to starting off working out 5 days a week and giving up after realising it is too much. Start off at 2-3 and work your way up at your own pace.

Habit is what makes the man.

It took me 3 years to become happy with the man I am today but the grind never ends as you’ll always strive for more. All I can tell you is those 3 years went by in no time.

Sooner than you realise you’ll be halfway to become the man you want to be.

strongsovereign · 2019-12-25T10:46:23+00:00

It certainly depends where you start from. Moreover, it also depends on how experienced you were before you educated yourself on the matter. Thirdly, "success" is a subjective term that receives many connotations from many people.

Your definition of "success" may be farfetched from mine as a result of our different set of conditions, bias, and aspirations. With that being said, if you are looking to compare yourself to other people, and then feel substandard because they digested the philosophy faster, you have it all mistaken and that in and of itself is BP.

TRP is not a game one-upmanship, it is a game of mastering yourself.

EpicPizzaMaster · 2019-12-25T07:55:21+00:00

Take as long as you need, as long it gets you there. This is not a competition, and tbh I don't understand the people who try to take it as one. Focus on yourself, not where others are, cause that's what matters.

Well_hung_Yakuza · 2019-12-25T14:18:18+00:00

People are different. You can try the MBTI to get somewhat of an idea of what type of guy you are. If you are an introvert it's gonna be different than if you are someone who is naturally at home as the centre of a party. Yet I know a lot of introverts/nerds who get laid regularly.

Gym should be a top priority. Go today.

xoxuv · 2019-12-25T14:51:03+00:00

is how long did it take you to digest the red pill and be a success?

The rest of your life.

You will never stop improving and finding new stuff.

AA7 · 2019-12-25T16:00:31+00:00

Social skills are a meme dude. Read the charisma myth, and like switch.

renfsu · 2019-12-25T22:03:45+00:00

I'd say it took about a year from first reading trp to no longer needing it. The big thing is to understand that the red pill is a guide, it won't work for every women, and not everything would apply to you. What has worked wonders for me is lifting to up my confidence and not being too invested in anyone.

Title	struggling with the red pill
Author	BananaGains
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	December 25, 2019 5:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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