Background: I suspect my 25-y-o girlfriend is snapchatting with an orbiter who lives in another part of the country. I first noticed this guy when I looked at her IG likes and noticed he likes only (and all) of her pics without me in them and they started following each other in December. She has also liked some (2) of his pics posted since we have been dating. Disclaimer: there is no chance she could be cheating.

Fast forward to last Sunday, and we are watching her snapchat stories together. She switches over to her snapchat messages and opens some vids from her friends. I see at the top of the queue a message from this same orbiter and she opens all the videos but doesn’t open this message while I’m watching.

Yesterday, she opens a video from a dude (I can’t see it, but I hear a guy’s voice). She then sends back a selfie right in front of me. Again, no proof, but I suspect. She also send more texts later in the night – I do not know to whom.

My options:

1) Confront her by asking who this guy is and their history together and why she is snapchat texting him.

2) Accept AWALT, tell her I consider snapchat texting cheating, and let her hide it from me for my sanity.

3) Ghost her for an entire day/night to get the relationship back on track.

4) Next her. She is beautiful (and a model) and even though she has great qualities (anti-feminist, all about my mission, submissive to me/God/her family, feminine), she will never be able to kick her validation addiction (selfies, attention from other guys).