text game, did i do this right?

tombreck2 · 2014-11-05T16:57:44+00:00

Always go by a girls action and not by her words.

Texting should be logistics only because you can't read her actions when you are talking.

Ask her out for a drink to find out where she stands

SkorchZang · 2014-11-05T23:55:46+00:00

That was coming on too strong, to the point that it's like "ok guy, it was funny the first time, but now you're just being a tryhard".

You want a dynamic where she's jumping up and down wondering when you'll call and where you'll take her next time. Can't get that if you're pushy right from the start; there needs to be an element of laid back and carefree to you.

She needs to feel you truly don't care if she responds or doesn't. Not from you telling her so in words, from the way you are not in pursuit of any one girl, yet just ambiently working on them all. All at once. Then whichever one bites the hardest, you rope that one mermaid into your boat and have your way with her.

Not the end of the world, she might think it's kinda cute... definitely don't be apologizing or anything for saying what you said. If it comes up, answer something "haha, I was wasted... what else did I say?"

R4F1 · 2014-11-06T11:54:07+00:00

I've been in this position, and what I can tell you, if you're making sexual jokes and her responses are either neutral or playful, then cut it out. Chances are you're going to be friendzoned. Especially when you're going in with the mindset that you're going to get freakky and she isn't. Because unless you create a sexual atmosphere all on its own (from scratch) in person, all that playful sexual banter on text doesn't matter for shit. I also second the other users' comments, it makes you seem needy (and nerdy).

Title	text game, did i do this right?
Author	gqtrees
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	November 5, 2014 4:42 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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