The LTR or not question

CopperFox3c · 2017-02-01T21:49:05+00:00

Here's my theory on LTRs. You really have to take the TRP mantra "She's not yours, it's just your turn" to heart. LTR means a "long-term" relationship, not a "forever-term" one.

If you choose to go down the LTR route, realize that at some point it will probably fall apart. May be sooner, may be later. But like everything else in life, all things are ephemeral. They come and they go, either thru leaving or death or something else. You cannot hold them. Cannot possess them. Enjoy your time with them, but never put anything on a pedestal ...

The other thing to keep in mind is that there are many things in life you can find great pleasure in, despite the fact that they are all ephemeral. The value of a thing does not depend on its permanence. You should not view your relationships any differently. If it adds value to your life, even if for only a time, then it may be a worthwhile option. But only you can decide that.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-02-01T21:53:36+00:00

"where is this going"

Reply: "Into the bedroom." Then scoop her up, take her to the bedroom and give her a good rogering. That will buy you about a month, on average.

Oh, and have you looked at Are we exclusive? Handling "The Talk." over on yonder Sidebar?

But there are red flags.

"When there is doubt, there is no doubt"

-From "The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev"

What are my options?

LTR or not. If not, then you might get dumped, or she might hang on as a plate. Eventually, plates fall and break. So to, do most LTRs.

You might agree to an open (on your end) LTR. On a trial basis. If she's really into you, she might agree. But the problem with commitment is you have decided to let one woman determine if you are getting laid tonight or not. It's a problem.

how well/long can I manage that in LTR, knowing there are some red flags?

You haven't mentioned what the red flags are. Are they light red or Dark Red?

abdada · 2017-02-01T21:40:21+00:00

Can you do 15 pull-ups in a row?

brinkleybuzz · 2017-02-01T22:27:57+00:00

I hate the term long term relationship. I prefer month to month rental. Give it a shot, constantly re-evaluate to determine if you're having fun and she's adding value. If yes, extend a month. If not, walk away and let someone else have a turn.

failingtheturingtest · 2017-02-01T22:31:24+00:00

Red Flags like she puts coke in her whisky?
Or Red Flags like she murdered her last two LTRs?

Rorta · 2017-02-01T22:57:04+00:00

In my honest opinion, very, very few Western girls have no red flags. Either they have fucked too many people, go out and get wasted on the daily, have legions of orbiters etc.

The question you should ask yourself is, are these red flags so significant to me that I should not commit to her?

Only you can answer that and as always remember, she's not yours, its just your turn.

GeorgeWallace1968 · 2017-02-02T01:30:43+00:00

Set up a situation where you slam her at her place, play her out for anal then afterwards, get up and say you're going to the bathroom to clean up but actually sneak out the bathroom window and go hard no contact, delete and block on all social media. Go hard no contact for 2-3 weeks then when she inevitably re-initiates contact, everything will be unconditionally on your terms. This establishes dominance of the physical and emotional domains for the duration of your relationship.

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-02-03T04:57:32+00:00

If you can leave her at a moments notice and not give two shits, yeah an LTR is fine.

Mildly_Sociopathic · 2017-02-04T00:46:21+00:00

her IQ is higher than average room temperature.

Ouch.

dammit_redskins · 2017-02-02T01:20:48+00:00

If you feel it's right then go for it. Honestly a healthy relationship is better than just fucking random hoes all the time. If she is good to you then enjoy it while it lasts.

It's better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all.

Title	The LTR or not question
Author	vorverk
Upvotes	5
Comments	22
Date	February 1, 2017 9:36 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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