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[–]massageanest 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Refusing sex saying she wants to take things slow citing past shitty relationship.
You should refuse a relationship saying you want to take things fast citing past shitty sex.
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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not "Amused Matery-ish" enough.
[–]blacwidonsfw1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Nah that's not the right thing. Just say you couldn't sleep. Then back off and don't initiate for a bit. Then when you do initiate escalate hard and if she isn't down then hard next and move on.
[–]sellthisthing 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She sees you as beta/orbiter is my guess.
The one good thing you did was to suggest ending it. Do that again.
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[–]sellthisthing 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The not responding is a good move. When she messages for the 2nd time (she will), read it instantly but don't reply for several hours, if not a day.
You are busy, you are desirable, you are talking to other girls and you don't have time for bullshit.
[–]JinSantosAndria4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
"Sorry honey, had to release my sexual tension elsewhere as you are not available."
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[–]idgaf-2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
"Sorry honey..."
IMO it's borderline passive aggressive, sounds like complaining, and it admits a weakness/unhappy state (your aversion to sexual tension, thirst for sex). Also it's probably a lie.
Ignore her for a while, re-center on yourself. If she pursues be straightforward and honest like "I like you but I don't think the chemistry is right between us." Make plans with other girls. If she likes you at all she will not let you go easily. If she protests at all, respond with logistical "Come over/meet me XYZ".
still very standoff-ish towards sex.
It's unclear but your escalation might not be bold enough. Who cares if she's standoff-ish? Are you kino'ing during normal conversation? Are you making out? Is she pushing you & your hands away? After so many nights of no action you're probably a beta in her mind.
would like to LTR this girl
You never, ever think this before several weeks of good sex.
[–]idgaf-2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I've eaten here out she's given me head.
Ehh... that doesn't sound so bad. Post was misleading because a lot of people do consider oral sex as "sex". I'd honestly just enjoy the head. Sometimes I'm having sex, get tired, and I wish I could just lay back and enjoy a blowjob, lol. A relaxing time, no performance anxiety and shit. I think TRP has infected me with thoughts like "oh I gotta fuck her so good she'll come back for more."
IMO keep her as a BJ plate, and get new plates. I'm surprised she can deny sex after getting eaten out. Just enjoy the oral experience thoroughly, maybe practice that squirting finger technique. Make her swallow, it feels better than cumming in a condom anyway. The mutual enjoyment should turn her on enough to have sex. Do push for it each time, but if it doesn't happen it's not a big deal: you aren't that thirsty, right?
[–]idgaf-1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Playful is good but only if it's mixed in with dominance.
Text only for logistics now and if you get with her again be dominant. Don't look for IOIs or anything, just escalate. If she deflects, cut the time short and start seeing other girls.
[–]That_Deaf_Guy2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do it.
[–]bruh_my_jays 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Double down and dread harder. Introduce her to one of your other plates or demote her to plate status. Get it in her head that she will lose your interest if she doesn't put out soon.
And for the love of God: do not give her any more of your time until she is begging you to fuck her.
Why the hell are you sleeping over at her house without having sex?
Just say it. "I want to have sex."
[–]redpillbanana1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Check out this great post: If your question is "there is this one girl", you're doing it wrong.
[–]harkrank 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LTR and getting serious before sex? That's ridiculous. She's playing you for a fool.
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