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JinSantosAndria/r/TheRedPill08/07/18 07:20 PM
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Just remind yourself that the hurt and pain comes from everyones own perception and wishes, not from external actions. Just stay cool, act aloof about the topic and state your intentions (or lack of) but come back with some warm small talk to ease the topic afterwards. You can try to catch them in their disappointment but only so far. Ensure they understand where they are; so you can act correctly when they try to break out of it again.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 07:24 PM
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AWALT is about typical social behaviour. If you enjoy a physical feature, thats up to you. The thing "in control" of those features, their appearance, their choice of style and featuring specific attributes is up to the person still under influence of all established social constructs. You like thin and petite? You still have to deal with the person. You like nerdy, busty? Same shit. May it be "genetic lottery", hard workouts, surgical support or die hard nutrition. It's a mental thing that allo…
/r/askTRP23/06/19 03:34 PM
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You've done enough. Find other women, other plates, persons who are actually interested in meeting you. Hard next for me, she did not respect your time, did not offer any explanation and it's not the first time. Also your wall of text shows you give a fuck too much about this whole ordeal.
/r/askTRP27/05/19 07:13 PM
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> we barely texted but that's always how it goes. cool, so that's your boundary. Otherwise you would've talked about that with her. > She got back and then rejected me 2 days in a row Her grandma got sick, she didnt feel like preparing stuff and you judge her for that. Nice. School is not that important I guess. > I went radio silent on her for a few days Oh well, she goes radio silent, you go radio silent, maybe writing letters is a better way for you both. > What should I do? Be a man, do shit…
/r/askTRP24/04/19 02:59 PM
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You could've gone with A and just do whatever you like without the girl if she is not into one-on-one anway. This way you have alot of action, need to invite all the people, handle the invitations and cancellations just to get... in range of the girl?
/r/askTRP12/01/19 06:21 PM
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How about getting over the anger phase instead of fueling it?
/r/askTRP10/01/19 06:10 PM
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You challenge yourself. Not having to fight for your daily income is nice, but thats how many people start defining their goals. You have no necessity to do so you need other sources of challenges. You know exactly what you're doing wrong, your list is correct. Come on, you now what needs to be done and its not that hard. Bank your cash and start new. Find new people to do work with, new projects, set new goals and become a better version of this lazy ass person you're right now.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 05:10 PM
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Well, they did not. You decreased your SMV because you talked about stuff that you have no authority over. The talk was about empowering women, you tried to invalidate the topic while being a man. As I said, no one cares and you clearly expected something out of it. Did not happen, people judged you by your words. Live with it and maybe the girl will turn around (because of time, not because of things you said). But who cares, you create an abundance for yourself, become outcome independent and …
/r/askTRP03/12/18 03:48 PM
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Yes you fucked up. Back to the sidebar and also dig through the 48 rules again, esp. rule 3, 4 and 38. Shut the fuck up basically if your too lazy to read those. No one cares that you are thinking in special ways. Deal with the colder side, get used to it, find other girls.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 12:48 PM
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So, if MFF, BDSM, raising another mans kids, managing finances together and you fucking other women besides your self proclaimed "unicorn" do not raise any red flags, congrats. You two found each other and as long as no other "thing" happens that shifts the balance in her favor, you will be fine.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/18 04:34 PM
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but she'd never cheat uh, you mean you're not giving her the base to do so. There is no reason to risk it all, loose the bf and you when she escalates... but you know, she would've nothing to loose if you would escalate.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 04:28 PM
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You have two paths: One to be responsible for and fear any step she does and tries to harm herself. Another one to call authorities and her parents and do you best to prevent the worst from happening. Last one also requires you to leave this LTR because nothing good comes from the past and she was never your obligation. Honestly, I would recommend the second path. It respects everyone and is pro-active. The other one will lead to nothing, not even a cure.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:19 AM
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Please keep in mind what the red pill means in the greater scope: A sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. You can try to combine it, but its not related. Eating healthy, being fit, stoic and positive and driving your goals to the finish line is not TRP specific, its just a core component of rising your SMV. It's common knowledge that you easily forget when you're at your limit, count every penny and get discarded by the "better" half of society. In my chi…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 09:11 AM
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You are her customer and at this rate thats all she will ever see in you. You want to find out? Just make a date and announce you're not going to pay for that and see how it goes.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 08:35 PM
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You are looking for girls with a serious mental issue, not "suicidegirls" commercial shit. If you think you can just fuck and leave, good luck with that. You are looking for a person that is not attracted by dark triad traits but lives with them. Whatever cluster b disorder you're looking for, just dont. They do not share the same understanding of "limits" as you. Once you get used to them (if they do not break you), they are like a drug and you do not want to become an addict to something that …
/r/askTRP11/11/18 03:18 PM
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No, its better she does not know about things she has no right to know. We must she know that you have an "open" relationship? Do you think that an open relationship makes you in any way less slutty? You either stick to your girl or you fuck around, normal mode being fucking around. Sex is a game. You can either play it and everyone has fun or you leave and lift. Just think about what you are saying there, maybe put yourself into the perspective of the women: I invited your over, got a good reas…
/r/askTRP30/10/18 08:13 PM
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Because your still a human being and "love" is not some myth. It's a simple reaction of certain things leading to this not-so-bad-feeling that you love someone. Just a stupid question: You talk about some "I just love the idea of love" and do not see any problem with it. You can dream of things you like, if finding love is your stupid mission, go for it. Otherwise see it as a byproduct to loyal and good girls (if you ever meet one on your mission). I do not see any reason to stop this as long as…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 03:11 PM
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Oh boy. ... I told her I felt like kissing her ... didn't want her to feel like I had gone there just to fuck her, ... I also didn't want to admit that sex was also in my mind from the start ... I just conformed with having half the battle won and left ... After that night, she texted me and we talked about it. ... She told me Did you read anything in the sidebar? Maybe it might be a good idea to go back to reading the sidebar. You already get some of your errors, you also put emphasis on "FEELS…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 02:57 PM
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Uhm okay. The first part sounds like you're an orbiter trying to get sex from her, yet she denies it as she has much better options (canceling you, inviting the better fuckbuddy). Whatever she tells you by 9pm doesnt matter, her actions are important, not her words. Solve things as we need to fix our marriage? All I read is that you annoyed her, she went out with another chad, fucked him, sent you over a hook-sinker-line message to keep you orbiting. You even accused her of exactly that and anno…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 03:13 PM
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Look at the sidebar, read through "there is this one girl...". Understand your problem, become an improved version of yourself and game other HB9s. Do not get stuck with your past, your failings or any other thing that you cant mentally deal with. As vandaalen said, game other girls.
/r/askTRP26/10/18 12:06 PM
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So what was the fuckup? Killed her mother? Spend her money without her agreement? Fucked a friend? Ordered pinapple pizza? Depending on that there are different ways: You do no appologize because it doesnt matter, its not a good idea or it would even further brake your frame. There is also the case where an apology is the best way when brought up correctly, down to the point. Never apologize because others want it. Do it when you know that you were/did wrong and either do a simple apology becaus…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 12:00 PM
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Depends on your type. Remember that this is not a game, this is about your mental health. After any interaction take a step back, calm down, put yourself first and look at what you gain by doing anything you want to do. If it does not benefit your long time goal, why even do it. Go no contact and by that I mean you block her, not some cheap shit "uhh I'm just answering her". You block her, you do not interact with her, you concentrate on yourself and your goals. Expose yourself to new shit, like…
/r/askTRP25/10/18 12:28 PM
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Get back on the track. Do something for your mental health by forcing your body to do any kind of sport you are able to accomplish. Improve yourself until you become content, never again make your daily well being and mood dependent on women. Be yourself, improve, meet new girls on the way.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 11:14 AM
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Stop overthinking. If both agreed to a date, everyone commited. Now see if she flakes on that agreement, then start thinking.
/r/askTRP24/10/18 02:32 PM
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stop wasting time. spend time with women who are interested in you.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 01:14 PM
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Asterisk creep talk is a hard no. It's a money thing, they have no need to move, because having 500$ more is serious cash. Makes it easier to filter those girls out.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 02:42 PM
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The end goal is to become a man, living a life you chose. To implement a stoic world view, avoiding common traps laid out by society and apply the best strategies to become a maker, not a consumer.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 01:03 PM
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Sure he does raise a valid question. But the question also tries to relate to marriage, not dating. The given example of preselection is never based on cars, there will be several fucks in between, dates and whatnot to qualify herself. Women are not stupid, she will evaluate the lifestyle of the male and see if he has money, can work with it and spends it generously (and supports his woman). I've never encountered a pair that married just because he had nice cars. Has nothing to do with it. Why …
/r/askTRP22/10/18 10:23 AM
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which guy the girl will choose for marriage none of them. marriage material is not defined by the car, thats a typical blue pill thought. Cars to not directly increase your SMV, its the people you drive with.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 12:00 AM
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The other coach was winging by removing the girl's phone from her. what the fuck. You cant even flirt up a girl that has a mobile phone? That sounds shady as fuck, whats next, drugging her up? Ah sorry, I forgot, she most likely was already as her body puked the shit out just before that. Great work, maybe its not PUA that you're doing but downright forcing yourself? No wonder the court wasnt having any of this.
/r/askTRP20/10/18 11:15 AM
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You are downplaying the keypoint: You are not present. It's your fault in the first place to keep a "relationship" while going long distance. What was your train of thought there, that she will "forever" wait for her prince to come back? You are giving a a fuck over a long distance while having absolutely no control over anything. She can smell it and any action you take against her living her life in a way she wants to is just a nail more into the coffin. She will do whatever she pleases as wil…
/r/askTRP20/10/18 11:10 AM
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Like he said. It's a validation machine and you are the perfect part. You really ask yourself why they send it anyway? Because it validates them and you consume.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 07:19 AM
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I think you are naive about this. She is not the saint (no one is) you make her. You make your intentions clear, where your boundaries are and if it does not fit, so be it. What you are doing right now is justifing her actions for her. Get her of the pedestal and treat her like a human that has the will and right to live his own decisions, contrary to the new fuckboys wishes.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 10:20 AM
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Ah, the daily office wars. You have two options, get out and persue some kind of unicorn job where this shit does not happen (and will not happen in the future) or get into the right frame for this kind of deskjob. Always leave a written trail of correct behavior and actions behind on any step you do in any company that has a deskjob. Always confirm shit via email after a verbal agreement. Always act in the interest of the company, not risking the higher ups money and budgets for stupid things. …
/r/askTRP09/10/18 07:30 AM
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Maybe you did not read or understand it, the content of this sub might be highly offensive to you, but that alone gives you no right to harass any member or call dem degenrates. Continue to follow the reddit rules, stay positive, stay healthy and be open minded and understand where people come from. Best to you and you can be better than that.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:23 PM
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You mean she broadcasted the image to everyone on her cuck list.
/r/askTRP16/09/18 12:41 AM
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So, she behaved bad, you canceled the trip and now she wants to pay for it. What are you, a male whore? This is not about the trip, this about her bad behavior. What is your price to be "fine" with it?
/r/askTRP31/08/18 06:57 PM
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The only reason i dont have her blocked is cause she has a $1000 phone in my name and i want it. Forget it. No amount of the upcoming drama will be worth this money. Do not spend play money on volatile stuff if you might miss it, this is a rule with money in general, not only chicks. Your LTR broke, you had no seconds to spare when it came to a new plate, now you can choose between drama or block.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 04:50 PM
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So this is basic flaking, is it not? You were either the backup plan or she just lost interested and sees no reason to end things (why should she, you still give her attention i bet). She started playing games you do not want to play, you want to good old back but it seems this plate is done with that, with you. Might happen again, if you just soft next her and use your time to find new plates. There is no reason you should sink in a single thought into this because of your options.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 08:50 AM
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Why the fuck do you care? You are her orbiter since the day you thought she caught feelings for you and then went on a date with two other boys. You care. You are hurt. You have onitis. Hard next, cut her out of your life, there is NOTHING to gain here until you work on yourself. Work on yourself, get noticed by all that hard work and keep on working. Girls come and go on the way to your life goal. They are never your goal.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 09:11 PM
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I don't care that you do not prefer easier, independent and challenging forms of engagement. I just call them lazy. They invite drama, create unnecessary dependencies and an unprofessional climate around you and the ones involved with you. This is about sexual strategy, not a toolbox but a perspective correction. Go to pua when you need real hints how to fuck the next colleague that has almost no options to go out of sexual harassment on the workplace.
/r/askTRP07/07/18 11:34 PM
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Using your slightly higher SMV to catapult herself up a level to another, higher, SMV male. Oh and by the way, who is gonna raise the child of both of you have a job at the same company?
/r/askTRP07/07/18 09:49 PM
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You dont reply to this. Just dont. You wait for the authorities to contact you regarding a rape accusation and then lawyer up. This is shit that should never be communicated through anything else that leaves a clear paper trail.
/r/askTRP29/06/18 08:26 AM
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Maybe unrelated but The streets of Silicon Valley are full of RVs and campers with homeless former engineers and former managers is accurate nowadays?
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 05:58 AM
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Same here. He made the mistake to not fight for his right to see me during my adolescence, so there is just no connection. We see each other, he might have topics and stuff to tell and teach me but there might never come the place and time to endulge in this. He is lost the same way I am, no one gives a shit and in the end he just might to try to enjoy the time he has left. He is seeking forgiveness for many errors back then, but I have none to give, because he made the decisions and he has to f…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 12:05 PM
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Ah yeah... next post: I know my exboyfriends username and found out he is an alcoholic. No wonder he treated me so poorly while we were together. I dodged a bullet, everyone. Just stop opening your mouth if you cant grasp the basic concept of a group and its fucking source of origin.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/18 11:50 AM
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That was a single step away from a very bad imverysmart post. What do you expect them to be? Neither of you have much life experience and fun is still something to strife for.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 08:29 PM
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I would say we grow perfect BBs. We also have very hard alphas and most of them own a business. So it's a very good place for both, because at some point you end up training with the upper managment at Pfitzenmeier (or even higher) while the hot shit leaves Vanice Beach (lower class gym of the same owner).
/r/askTRP07/06/18 08:25 PM
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> LTR for convenience sake alone what the fuck is this shit. LTR means work and common goals, respect and a solid foundation. What is fucking convenient about that?
/r/askTRP05/06/18 12:32 PM
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She will indicate interest. She did not. Move on. Nothing mattered, she just isnt into you.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 03:28 PM
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then I casually moved her arm towards her to touch her boob again, you did more than that.
/r/askTRP23/05/18 04:47 PM
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Holy shit. You want a go signal from internet strangers that she wants her titties sucked by you because she couldn't evade a person that just touched her back? What do you do when she hits your legs, brush hers like a little molester?
/r/askTRP23/05/18 03:52 PM
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Police or hard next. Only two options. You support people as long as they play along with your plan to help them, if you decide to help them. Leaving them because something happend to them outside of their control, is also ok, as we do not moralize it here. Just undertand that this was a crime that happend, any other action then calling the cops is shady.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 02:56 PM
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All of them. Seriously. What's your goal? Stick with the next one and loose any traction?
/r/askTRP16/05/18 06:31 AM
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Well, that sounds unfortunate. That shit happens when you work alongside others, at least I can't see a malicious intent in your description of events. Keep your cool and be social for a second. Just laugh and agree & amplify, stay cool, have a good but concentrated workout. If water flies your way, joke about it and ask if thats a new official way to get a date between guys. I know this internal-mini-rage, but the more power you give it, the more others can notice how weak your frame really is.…
/r/askTRP14/05/18 01:35 PM
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Keep your cool. What are they doing, because taking the weights of a bar that you're waiting at should be pretty impossible. Otherwise stay stoic and remind them that the bar is taken. Then escalate to the reception. Do not waste the time of the receptionist, just make it clear that there are people that do not respect other members and fiddle with equipment while its being used. Maybe they are dumb, maybe this is just a misunderstanding, maybe they want to fuck with you. As you seem to have a v…
/r/askTRP14/05/18 12:20 PM
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If something alters your state of mind and behaviour, you can either rely on that or learn to reach the same without the altering substance. Latter gives you complete control over benefitial effects, former make you dependant while experiencing negative effects as well. Up to you what you want.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:17 PM
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You became dependant on the outcome somewhere on the road. You mention the one woman who truly cares about and invests in you, yet this shit happend. Did you understood the place and modus operandi of women if this happens to you after 4 or more years? Please see it as a simple question, not trying to scold your for it. Did you not go through an anger phase? Did you not see and pass through the shit that leads to TRP in the first place? This whole thing is depressing and looking at it drains any…
/r/askTRP09/05/18 02:13 PM
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As someone who doesn't give a fuck you sure are unsure about logistics over SMS. Be a man and message her a place and time to meet up and gauge the reaction.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 06:47 AM
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Well, it's your GF, not a plate. Listen whats up, decide for yourself if its worthy of your time and if she needs help or just wants to vent. Sometimes people need to vent and turn to the one they spend their life with, can happen. You can either listen or ignore it and proceed. Sometimes they need help and you might have the correct tools to help with that. As with a plate, just fucking ignore this shit.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 12:05 PM
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Open a brothel, so you can fuck whatever employee you have and see how that turns out. Just reading the drama that unfolded because you shit where you eat is amusing. If you just met a normal chick outside of work, none of this would've happened this badly.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 09:46 AM
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You don't. There is no reason to cope with it at all. You are not her caretaker, not her sugar daddy and you have no obligation to accept or deal with her shit. You can, but you don't. Surround yourself with people that enhance your life, not add additional burden to it.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 07:24 AM
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he also had one or two divorces despite his success and being something you could picture a perfect fit for a power couple.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 03:13 PM
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I know none and I would be thoroughly impressed if they could work. As the fiction already suggest, you either love each other or you function and complement each other but never both. Choose one, partner in business or partner in love. Both will betray you when it benefits them. You want to read up real stuff? Read about Elon Musk and John Cena for example, stop putting your time into fiction.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 01:45 PM
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I get aggressive when I drink. So stop drinking. You already know what amplifies it, so act on it.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 03:08 PM
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Why care, you need to stop it with this girl. You are an orbiter to her, consumer her validation posts without any action. She is not interested,she is fucking someone else. Block her, game other women, gain something called abundance and game chicks fucking worth your time.
/r/askTRP12/04/18 04:44 AM
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You care too fucking much. You have so many tools here, why not use something like AA to have a good time? It will eventually lead to a situation where she can no longer touch you with this topic without making herself looking incredibly stupid.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 11:07 AM
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Think about it. I'm at the best time and place to get laid while I'm still young and idealistic. And I'm failing. Uhhhh no. It's a nice time to get gaming experience. It's neither the "best" sex nor the "best" time for this shit. Though not so distinct, same principles apply as always. SMV and AWALT. If you cant convey that you are on your mission, have a certain value and are able to display it, why should they get wet for this nobody. Get yourself out there, find your niche, be the "guy" that …
/r/askTRP04/04/18 11:02 AM
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Positive sex, negative gains. If you dig gym girls so much, just spend another 50$ for another gym with much hotter chicks and go there to game only while displaying results without any effort. So much people go to gyms because of the company, not for the improvment, that includes alot of girls humping the biking section while not knowing how to program a climb on the damn machine. As for your main gym, go there to improve. Do not get distracted.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 07:31 AM
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Why cant you play with headphones, esp. the ones that can cancel out loud noises "perfectly"? Wouldnt a reduction in loudness, even in volume (that is controllable by yourself) in there environments be the optimal solution? You might be some strange dude rocking the guitar with some kind of contraption/equipment on the head, but as long as you play godlike...
/r/askTRP03/04/18 04:36 PM
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Beethoven sends his best wishes. Does your sound sensitivity make it impossible to play guitar at all?
/r/askTRP03/04/18 04:00 PM
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Just skipped over the text, but maybe one of these things might fit your bill: You get high on the feeling that you can depend on someone. You thrive to be not responsible for your own wrongdoings, esp about yourself. You want to share your worst with others not your best. You talk about the sad stuff and connect through pain. You hope other people will do the same and the bond will stick. So depend on feelings that did not solve a single thing in your life but instead make you so miserable that…
/r/askTRP14/03/18 03:35 PM
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If "Are you alive?" is an inside joke, how the fuck should we know? Sure, just go all autistic-no-fun-allowed guy and go nuclear, thats one way to waste your time to achieve nothing. You can just answer with "alive and kicking" and see what she really wants (next message should be a meetup if desire is involved, otherwise get yourself out of that fucking orbit and block her).
/r/askTRP14/03/18 03:27 PM
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Excluding girls and mating, what's your mission?
/r/askTRP21/02/18 07:24 AM
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What exactly are you looking for on his devices and "why"? What kind of repercussion is he expecting when he violates the "review"? I do not want to jump ahead but this stuff needs very careful moderation, because when he knows the rules he will already be violating them. Not doing so would be a severe warning sign for me.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 08:02 AM
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It shouldnt be that hard to grasp how it was in various stages. Look at the animal kingdom, how the different mating and social bonding happens. Depending on the difficulty and risk of getting food and staying alive there should be either shit tests (luxury of being already fed) or pure dominance (beggars)
/r/askTRP25/01/18 07:45 AM
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Then fucking stop. Text for logistics, don't waste time typing useless words into messengers.
/r/askTRP26/12/17 09:25 PM
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You already are. You are texting her in a time where she is not available, not sure why. Maybe you still think that "reminding her about you" will accomplish anything. Texting is used for logistics not much more. Why would you make yourself more available through texting when you should be the price? She will fuck someone else in the meantime, as should you.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 08:00 AM
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Hold on a second. You can't handle a girl girlhandeling you? Get a grip! Better lawyer up and solve this! Seriously, if it's disrespect towards you, leave?
/r/askTRP13/12/17 07:53 AM
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Basic stuff: look at how she behaves not what she says. Currently she keeps you perfectly in orbit. Why are we talking about her when you already know there will be no sex until new year? You gonna wait for her, buy a ring and hope for pussy? Game a new girl today. Nothing to loose, so much to gain.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 07:45 AM
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What drove you to the conclusion that you need to keep contact all the time? She has no time and most likely no further interest. Women make it happen if they want to. Date other girls send a last message mid January and keep dating other girls.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 07:39 AM
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No and it shouldn't. He has to change this shit for himself. Self respect is the most important thing after showering.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 07:36 AM
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Holy one-to-one hands. Get a grip. Build a frame. She was touchy with a guy during a LDR? Guess what happened anyway, you think she went sexless all the time? Then she came home to you and bragged about this one guy, showed you a fucking picture and you just sat there and "talk about those things"? Go to the sidebar and stop behaving like a chicken. I expect no less then 10 pictures of you touch 10 bellies of other girls within the next 3 months.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 07:25 AM
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Why do you care? Just date other girls in the meantime. No reason to run after her.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 07:30 AM
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The words ltr, class, sex and first date lead you to this decision? How about dating for a month and see when she gets bored of you?
/r/askTRP11/12/17 07:29 AM
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Experience life. Develop yourself and be yourself. There does not need to be a value attached to every group member. People tend to spend time together because it's fun, not work. If you can't be fun, work on that.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 07:27 AM
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How is this a tricky situation for you? All I see is how you try to mateguard and make sure the other guy "knows". She should tell him if the need ever arises, she had a relationship with him, not you.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 04:40 PM
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Where is the part about how you got invited in the first place?
/r/askTRP04/12/17 03:40 PM
9

Sidebar, ASD, LMR, thats where you messed up the first time. The rest is "this girl" keeping you in orbit.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 10:57 AM
6

You are not the reason for anyone to be anything. You chose a suicial girl. Now date up, not down. Be with the people that you want to be with, not be with the people that stick to you.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 10:39 AM
27

You are working around the limits of what you have no control over, so you will gain nothing by it. Either IDGAF your way into your room or do not even try it. If your parents try to sabotage you it might be time to move out.
/r/askTRP04/12/17 10:25 AM
2

Stop going to the subs you visit and do something productive with your time. That would be a great start!
/r/askTRP04/12/17 09:52 AM
3

How about gaming one of your plates in the meantime? There is nothing to gain here. "this girl" is just robbing your time right now.
/r/askTRP01/12/17 11:35 PM
2

Read again what the person wrote. There is no way out of the friend zone and stuff like a mercy fuck are stuff of books. She is fuckibg someone else just right now while you fantasize about how good she must kiss. Get real, if she would be interested she would fuck you right now, but she is not.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 04:57 PM
5

So cut the others off already. Good friends will support you in this decision.
/r/askTRP15/11/17 08:13 AM
10

Why do you label them as friends when they clearly take advantage of you?
/r/askTRP15/11/17 07:37 AM
1

What time frame? A week : eBay. A day: local Bazar app but you'll never get a price worth your time.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 07:30 AM
1

Then post about it and make it clear that you do not want to talk about females and sex but whats important to you?
/r/askTRP13/11/17 01:31 PM
6

The sidebar is your friend.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 12:28 PM
5

Well, she told you. If she didnt let you know, she is with someone else. Do more important stuff. There is no reason for you to message her.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 12:26 PM
3

If Brad Pitt did one of these things, he would be in for a ride as well. I do not buy into some kind of status that makes you impenetrable to these topics. The thing is, there are people that go to work, get stuff done, buiild connections and make it their project and then there are people that just cant keep it to themselfs. Doing a bad job and running around sexually harassing people are two very different things. If you leave a clean trail that connects your job with your private stuff this s…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 12:24 PM
3

Communication is key here, if you really want to go there. After she invistes the girl over (let it be her final decision then) begin the probing. Talk about what her fantasies / fetishes are in the domain of a second girl. What she wants to experience, how she wants to experience it. Look at how she reacts while she talks about it. Most of the time its 1-2 things that make her visible tingly even talking about it, other fetishes are just decoys to bring the weirdness down. Define a stopword. Ha…
/r/askTRP07/11/17 02:59 PM
3

In the end it depends on where you draw the line for yourself. It's nice of her to ask and involve you, on the other hand (with no information available) she might plot drama. But I suspect she isnt. Maybe you are better off just to AA your way until it happens, just in case it's some miserable test to see if you would hop on the first occasion with another girl. For me it's a red flag, but only because I understood long ago that two women are double the drama. You invite all kind of bad behavio…
/r/askTRP07/11/17 02:41 PM
84

Remember, after reading this picture book post, that if you do not have the confidence or visible value, do NOT try this. It only takes one girl in the gym to report a single sexual harassment after your second try if the first approach didnt work out. That will happen if you do come across as creep, not socially apt and do not have enough connections inside the gym to have a common "everyone knows him" label attached to your social standing. If you depend on your gym as you might depend on your…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 11:09 AM
4

Relationships and distances do not go hand-in-hand. You can have one, but not both. As you already said, AWALT to its full extend, meaning "away for a few months" means a new sexual partner because no one wants to go dry for a few months. It will happen, because it has to.
/r/askTRP07/11/17 09:37 AM
3

She is not into you. She is fucking someone else and you know it. There is no big connection, the only thing you have is the thing in your head that makes you live the illusion that there will be more. There wont be more. She is seeking your attention. She keeps you in orbit. Remove her from your life, in every aspect. Dont play her games, do not even try to play her. And read the damn sidebar, it's there for a reason.
/r/askTRP07/11/17 07:49 AM
1

You aware of your anxiety and it's your part to either embrace the fear or do become better. HIV does not require more thought then to be aware on how infection happens and how to prevent it. Same goes for any other infection you should know about. Some of them also incureable and much easier to transmit like herpes. But as you already know, you are too fixiated on that topic and it has a almost-serious impact on your lovelife and behaviour. Fix that.
/r/askTRP06/11/17 12:05 PM
1

Honestly nothing. The overall theme is that interested women activley chase their prey. Yours does not chase you so why run after a women that shows no interested in you. Divert your time to other women, the ones that activley seek your attention.
/r/askTRP12/10/17 07:44 PM
1

Ah yeah. I hope you do not take entertainment scripts as serious as it sounds. This was thought up by someone who sold you something. It did not "work", it is made up.
/r/askTRP12/10/17 07:41 AM
4

"but it's only my carefully crafted facade :("
/r/askTRP12/10/17 06:23 AM
2

Is Django the fictional character in a story? Just forget about her, she will come by again if she wants and the circumstances allow it. There is no way to assume that you were the reason she did go silent, so just dont do it. Spin other plates and stay on your mission.
/r/askTRP12/10/17 05:51 AM
1

Never trust anyone, no matter the color or if they are family or not. You can agree with others to walk a path together for some time with a shared goal but thats all you can agree on. Everyone will divert from your path sooner or later with the tools available to him. Sure, a clean business breakup with contracts in order are a dream come true but thats so rare.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 12:08 PM
1

They are still your coworkers that can get you fired even out of workplace. It's not a sign of anything. We are humans of action, not of emotion.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 11:59 AM
2

Another example, I can let her manipulate me if I can get what I actually want in the end (but in reality, I'm just acting to be manipulated). Here is a different view: If you let her manipulate you because you want to negotiate a trade in your favor, you still get manipulated. You fell into her frame, because they can do it to you and they know exactly how to bait you. They perceive you as someone they can do it with and your frame can not handle that. It might happen again, maybe the next requ…
/r/askTRP09/10/17 10:07 AM
11

Numbers are for action, Instagram is for attention. Might be different sub 25.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 04:03 PM
3

Yeah, go on and find a new adventure. Other option would be to get married, have three children and pay child support and lease a house until you are 48 and stressed out of all your cool liabilities. Honestly, LTR when you are under 25-30 are stupid ideas you have no clue of.
/r/askTRP04/10/17 11:22 AM
1

So your inner child is throwing a tantrum because it doenst get to live the dream world it heard of. You are lying to yourself, it's not defeat, you shift your inner perception towards this to not loose this dream. Understanding a thing is not a defeat but it requires you to change everything that is connected to it and adapt. Thats what you do. Stop lying to yourself. Adapt and change. Use it and integrate it into your (sexual) strategy to get what you want and what you need. You can find a cut…
/r/askTRP04/10/17 11:17 AM
1

did she propose a new time and place? no? too bad.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 12:55 PM
3

Well, if you want to gain experience, you gotta do something. Just rejecting stuff is easy if you are the target and not the other way around, so you could also just enjoy what the day offers as long as it is not offputting. If thats not your case, fine by any means. Stay sexless for a year or ten. Also remember, unicorns do not exist and scales that go up to 10 have no 12. If she was a 10, then by all means, find a new 10 because this one will get older fast (as will you). You did not even have…
/r/askTRP24/09/17 05:03 PM
13

Oh a LTR in a LDR that has no sexual activity for two weeks straight. Sounds about right. You do not reply, you look for a new plate. Stop pursuing and acting needy.
/r/askTRP19/09/17 07:47 AM
2

Well... just go with her? Time to find a new plate right there!
/r/askTRP13/09/17 07:11 AM
1

No I don't. You won't do better with the children, why should I care? You made the first formative years into TRP, now go suck on another titty.
/r/askTRP11/09/17 10:03 PM
1

Bullshit.
/r/askTRP11/09/17 09:59 PM
9

Well, even if it is family, stuff should remain on a need-to-know basis. You mother is an emotional being, there is no reason for your attempt to solve her feelings on a logical level, except you like trivia shows. Tell her you love/respect her if it makes you feel better, but there is no reason to tell her about your current relationships if you do not want that topic to backfire sooner or later.
/r/askTRP08/09/17 01:19 PM
45

Cancel the contract, make your own. Visit your mom when you want to see her. Do not involve parents in your fuck-plans and most importantly, do not tell them that you come by for a bit then go railing your GF in a hotel, what the fuck is going on in your head.
/r/askTRP08/09/17 12:15 PM
1

Hm, complicated market, most people I know revert to template sellers and then invest a small amount for customization (or use the one dude they didnt fire yet). Maybe look for smaller tasks on fiver or something like that?
/r/askTRP06/09/17 06:42 PM
1

What is the question here? You can not control people. You need to order them around. Who gives a shit? You do your awesome stuff all day, have a plan, know what to do, what you want to establish for yourself, how stuff works and what you need to do to get there. That will not change people. You need to accept that she is a party slut and that sluts do their thing. If people want to be part of your awesome life, they need to know who leads your life. That would be you. Cant let a slut or friend …
/r/askTRP04/09/17 09:03 AM
1

Although TRP is a strategy and this is a place where we meet, it's for the lone man. You do not need a group of people to rock your life. You do not need some kind of religion or support group to realize the stuff you dream about. We do not want to change the world to make it a better place. This is basically an anti-pattern to an even worse pattern that is working against us. But practically you can and need to apply it alone, as it is about you, not two, not a group of you.
/r/askTRP04/09/17 05:22 AM
1

I rarely interract with women. No supply of opportunities. So expose yourself more would be my first advice. Experience in this field is only and solely earned by expsoing yourself to women all the time. You will learn how they tick and see that they are not that different in person but very different in their behaviour. You mean you do not have any opportunities to do so? Not sure how to handle it, might be country or culture related I guess? First rule would be to move. Move interests, move ac…
/r/askTRP09/08/17 07:01 AM
1

I see your point but again: What's the point? Sexual tension is much more potent than a casual and friendly atmosphere that you nuture with friends. If you ooze sexual tension they can either accompany on your way or leave? Not to be rude or so, but what is on your mind while you escalate and why do you recognize it as something not "casual" and friendly? Sex is fun, sex is nice, sex can be rough and still be fun! Sure, we could cook a meal in the kitchen and have fun all night, but even that wo…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 08:56 AM
1

People paying other people to adverstise their location. Business in short.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 08:19 AM
1

I want intimacy without sex or without any commitment. So is your intention sex or just preheat them to go somewhere else to deplete the pressure tank because you do not persue them actively? What use is stage 4 to you? You seem to want to make it a ritual that satisfies some of your social pressure/urges/limits but that again would be a fetish. So the question would be: How can I make women dripping wet, at my home, without me thinking about fucking them but fiddle with my painting brush a litt…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 08:07 AM
2

What the fuck. Is there some contest running where you have to deny your urges to a point where you just "do not want to think about it" but if it comes to it, your down? It's a stage. It leads somewhere. Without the goal to reach stage 5, what use is stage 4? Do not irritate people by initiating stage 4 and then lay back and watch them squirm because you do not follow up with your actions.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 07:56 AM
8

TRP way? Do more with fit people and chicks. If she does not up her game, leave with the fitest beast that drives you crazy?
/r/askTRP08/08/17 07:51 AM
1

What about them? They have their own subreddit.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:58 AM
2

I agree. The truth will show anyway as long as he can stay aloof and handles the situation in a TRP way. I'm just very sceptical because of her behaviour. It takes some special kind of stupid to go to a place where this stuff seems to be expected (no one made a fuss about it it seems), get kissed, break down, tell my girlfriend what I did and also tell her I'm sorry (about what?).
/r/askTRP17/07/17 04:32 PM
5

Of course not, women are as loyal as it can get to each other /s. It doensnt even have to do with the guy. If one of the other girls has something to gain by it, even if it is just putting on some pressure. Maybe something else might leak through other channels.
/r/askTRP17/07/17 04:29 PM
3

Could be but I do not assume so. Women are very social beings and doing such an act (or any variance of it) while other possible prospects are around often ends in a blame game. It's much easier to believe that she has a vivid fear of getting blamed because someone else might tell him. I do not assume that the whole situation shook her very foundations. That aside, every girl I've known has a very simple and clear reactions to stuff like that, because it happens so often you would'nt believe as …
/r/askTRP17/07/17 04:26 PM
4

Well it sounds like three people tried to make it a comfy evening for her. Nothing wrong in not escalating with a starfish expert. She should've just excused herself when the time was right instead she stuck with you and expected something you both never talked about. Not your problem at all.
/r/askTRP17/07/17 03:22 PM
59

Holy shit no. Keep it in mind, look how she behaves, what happens. Do not activley pursue that matter. Normally this would be a simple awalt/softnext/hardnext thing, but it's an LTR, so decide for yourself where you draw the line. The second you do no longer trust her, esp. when she betrayed your trust, you should redirect yourself to more important matters.
/r/askTRP17/07/17 09:59 AM
55

Look at what she does, not what she says. If he forced himself on your powerless GF she would be enraged and her friends would be aswell. Hysterical crying isnt the natural reaction of a person that has no guilt in the matter. Maybe she got pressured to tell you "something" before another girl tells you. Maybe there are photos of stuff that requires this story. But well... she wanted to get exposed with her girlfriends, what other reason would there be for a five day women-only trip. She got wha…
/r/askTRP17/07/17 09:48 AM
1

And proving everything in a even more grimming way is going to ease her day? I guess her unhappiness is based on her unsuccessful hunt of a prime candidate so there is only one way to help her there. She will not "just accept" a SMV unworthy person. How could she? Would you just stick to a HB4 because you could? No. We improve as should she.
/r/askTRP16/07/17 12:32 PM
2

You don't. There is nothing to win, for both of you. What is the end goal for her in your opinion? Pair up with the next beta chump that will die of heart attack due to no bodily activity and bad eating habbits? The wall will happen, if she knows about it or not. Even if she finds the best partner up until then, she might still be dumped. From what you listed, she understands social gaming much better than you. According to you she is looking for the best buck, keeps her n count low, doesnt fool…
/r/askTRP16/07/17 07:57 AM
6

Expose yourself as much as possible and learn from it.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 06:37 AM
1

Is that a question? Do you want to play or win? Or as Aurelius once stated: "If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." Death is not something you need to take care of, plan for and measure in any way. You have almost no control over when it will happen. Yet here you are and put all the weight on it.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:35 AM
6

Don't chew more than you can swallow. Be yourself, be honest, stick to your frame if you have one yet and enjoy the party. Learn from it, there's are alot of cringy stuff to experience. Do not drink too much, stay in control.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:29 AM
4

Send flowers, wait at her door and call her at work? /s Nothing. Just go on with your life, if she will ever get the urges again, maybe she will remember you and give you a call.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 04:53 PM
22

Take it in. It might be depressing at first but it will also enable you to understand all the grim stuff. It's a change in perspective and everything might gain or loose substance, for example many movies and so much entertainment just fucking boring, irrelevant and written to feed the unaware. Change yourself, abuse the cracks in the system, because it's against you anyway, liberate yourself from all the time wasters and become something that accomplishes something. It's not the easy mode at fi…
/r/askTRP11/07/17 04:06 PM
2

I cannot. You are not sexually active, you do not intend to be. What is there for you? Keep improving until you meet that beautiful wife, than be the provider for her. If you want to have the most beautiful wife (that also stays a virgin until mariage i presume?) good luck with that. I never experienced this working in any way possible myself.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 12:14 PM
3

You are a man and you want to get rated in pussy-scale? 5. Did you even fuck anything in your "list" of things or are you still a virgin?
/r/askTRP11/07/17 11:29 AM
1

Being coldhearted should not be an excuse to not want the best for you and your partner. There is no gain in constantly critizing your "best" part. Praise and aloofness are very important tools that you need to learn to use if they do not come naturally. You should be the rock and teasing her should be a fun endevor in the long run, because after one or two years of this bullshit you just throw the towel and do not even say goodbye because enough is enough. Even you wouldnt want to work under a …
/r/askTRP10/07/17 05:17 PM
1

Oh there is but that's very specific stuff that requires alot of... yourself. Women notice change in people they deemed worthless over time, but that is very advanced stuff. Just assume that this girl is gone. Do your stuff. Maybe something happens when you keep improving but never expect it.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 11:50 AM
4

Uh yeah, who doesn't like an asshole as a partner. Nothing brightens a day more than a partner constantly reminding me about my destructive past. You need to lead people. Show how to improve, not how to hurt. Show that past doesn't matter but future decisions shape. Lead her along the way you walk anyway. As long as you can keep it aloof, fun and teasing it will go along way. Sure, nuclears are there because there are times nothing else will fix the situation but they must be the last resort. On…
/r/askTRP10/07/17 11:45 AM
1

What you see, most of the time, are other young couples that have the typical preemptive lockdown of a beta provider / almost hot chick relationship. Other guys do not give a single fuck if they are single or have a LTR with someone else. At your age LTR is something that does not provide much. What is there? Waking up to the beloved someone you know you will hold in your arms for the next 45 years until you retire and die silently? Creating some new life that you neither can pay for nor support…
/r/askTRP06/07/17 11:11 AM
6

Ignore and simplify. Just tag along, do not much more, not much less. You might not always be at this job and at your current position you do not have much to loose. She might not be always at this job and good contacts are worth more than not having them. But never the eat/shit thingy.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 08:05 AM
2

How about never? the "make it" part is about yourself, improving until you fulfill the role that you faked. Don't have enough money? Still living at home? Not having a good job? Not having the convidence to express yourself freely? That might work and is achievable. In bad shape? Only one leg left? Eating shit? Being an introvert? Having depressions? This is hardly or not fakeable at all in person to person contact. You are sabotaging yourself there. Accept it, let it become a part of your chara…
/r/askTRP05/07/17 02:54 PM
2

You know what could happen. Are you incapable of working around stuff you learned about women or adapt your expectations to diminish the bad effects at all? It sounds more like you cant handle the depression phase and accept women for what they are. Easiest way to get out of that phase is by getting burned, fully aware what TRP offers and what could happen, confirming everything you did'nt want to accept.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 02:41 PM
5

Drop her. There is no reason to deal with any of this if it isn't even remotely benefiting you, your health or your mood. There is no real repercussion if you drop her as well. PS: Attractive and pre-wall women will almost always act like kids.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 02:36 PM
1

You just described TRP by studing and exploiting female psychology. If the exploit is to improve yourself or fake it till you make it does not make a difference if your goal is a plate. The key to TRP is understanding what works against you and why, providing means to alter it. It is there to deliver a sexual strategy. That's all there is to it.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 02:32 PM
1

I could easily get a nice looking hooker for the price of a 6h car ride. Also I would never do it just for a girl, have a plan B ready at the location she's at.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 02:25 PM
4

Call in sick on an urgent deadline, switch over to your new job that you found beforehand. Otherwise make it clear that he can only have one of two: Your deadline or a mixed deadline for the same amount of money. Otherwise he is your boss, it's his call what he assignes you to for the payment you receive.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 02:45 PM
8

You could've gone with any available TRP tool like amused mastery or agree and amplify but you did go the no-fun-fuck-yourself way. Now you gotta live with it. There is no apology for being a dick, your chance is gone.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 02:37 PM
1

Sure why not. Just keep in mind that she probably fucked two other guys in the meantime. If she would be interested, she would make herself more available. Just message her a place and time +7 days in the future, but do not assume she will not flake. Proceed to have fun anyway. Soft next, hard next, move on and have fun.
/r/askTRP30/06/17 06:33 AM
3

How about using the communication for logistics, do normal pickup stuff, whenever you fucking want and if she flakes, move on to the next one?
/r/askTRP30/06/17 05:42 AM
3

It's not about how they pull it off. It's about destroying your options. You can have your wife at the same job as yourself. You could also, as a company director, entrust your financials to your wife and employ her in the same company. But you don't do it. You are not stupid.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:18 PM
1

Love you truly? Like your mother? What you described is the exact line between beta bucks and alpha fucks. Can a women marry someone because of love? Maybe they are capable of that. Can they stay faithful for the rest of their lives? No. I can't, how could they. The value of yourself is determined not only by your health but also by your capability to earn a standing and uphold your lifestyle. A successful career is the foundation to financial independence no matter who perceived it. Applying it…
/r/askTRP26/06/17 01:17 AM
2

Why would you even be interested in the preferences of betas? TRP is a sexual strategy and AWALT a core concept. It is not about exceptions, it's about common behaviour. If you fail shit tests, the same patterns will lead to a negative change of your perceived value to any women. Are there exceptions? Sure. Do we need to talk about them? No, because this is about strategy and you always prepare for the worst outcome that is AWALT. Even when a woman is an exception, she still knows about the comm…
/r/askTRP26/06/17 12:55 AM
1

Ah they come from different states. So if you get labeled a yerk and you raped a girl of the group on day 3, what are you gonna do? I'm a worrywart though. Traveling in a group falls under the same rules as the workplace or family for me. You depend on people too much as to taint it with them. Also girl-only groups tend to be a gossip-hell.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 04:15 PM
7

How long are you grouping up with them? Do not start anything with a girl of the group, use them as accelerators, become a player for them but do not start anything with them. Tease them and meet after the trip, but a group of girls is very bad news if one of them accuses you of something or they make you out as a bad guy.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:24 PM
1

So how many women did you have the last year and how can you fix that?
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:20 PM
1

Set milestones, make them smaller. If you can establish that you will be missing deadlines escalate. Nothing hurts more than overpromising and underdelivering. Tighten your control. They need to see that you know what you do and that they might trust you with your position. Reward them for every three things they do right, withdraw affection / niceness and rewards as you see fit and make it absolutley clear why you do it. Be very verbal. Make sure you understand to never overestimate a women at …
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:16 PM
1

Yeah and please, never hate on the boss. At the end he pays for all the shit, for your presence, your talking, your break. He might suck at something, but at least it's his company that you work for. Get out of those "meetings" as fast as you can.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 02:06 PM
1

Oh my, LTR, half a year and you're 18. Do you plan on staying with her until you are 29? Your impulses and hormones will work against you for the next 4-6 years, right now everything will fuck you over when you force a LTR while fumbling on the knees of other girls. The only thing you should respect is yourself and the person that puts trust in you. If you feel that you need to experiment end things that hinder you, because otherwise it will be your fault and you have it on your young conscience…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 01:39 PM
5

Whenever I have a talk about work and people start the gossiping I fall back to the same question: Is there something to gain here and now? If there is nothing, I excuse myself or stay positive. Remember the persons who gossip and treat them carefully, they are usually the same kind that want to drag you down with their imperfections anyway.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 01:31 PM
1

Well, now that you have that desire, use it. What would be a small gift token / service for someone you want to connet to, without any dependencies? That's the start. It will be very hard work, because the older you get the higher are the barriers all around you and others.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 01:28 PM
1

Then cut it out? There are no drawbacks and if you find some, you might want to address them anyway. There is no reason to make any references to Trump, because he was not born into an impoverished family. Take Helmut Schmidt for example, he is the worst kind of chain-smoker I've ever seen and there is only so much footage of him not having a smoke. Yet he had success. There is no direct correlation there. You can abuse substances in two different states: Under your control or being controlled b…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:35 AM
1

I'm not implying she cheated, I just wanted to point out that the location and the time do not matter at all. You said "never been out before" which is simply clouding your own judgement. Every day they meet at the gym the "are out" of your view. If they want to fuck, they very likely already have. If she shows active interest in this boy, you know why. AWALT, always. There is no shine middle-grey scenario when it comes to attraction. "I just want you to meet this cool guy from the gym that has …
/r/askTRP21/06/17 07:50 AM
1

If it's that much more, maybe just get your own equipment and space nearby / in the same house?
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:51 PM
2

I use social media for work. Don't care for it personally. I never excuse myself for topics I have no active interest in.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:49 PM
2

She left you, because you were weak. Yet here you are, being weak again and hoping that a person that left you once out in the rain might be a good choice for your life? Stop that shit. You invested, she threw away. She has a problem spending a life with you. Stop that shit right there. You should be nothing, why do you even care! Meet more women, gain more experience, understand that nothing you see and hope here is of any substance.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 01:57 PM
1

Do they sport fancy stuff like closed off toilets, a parking garage, solariums or closed off "chill out" zones?
/r/askTRP20/06/17 11:02 AM
1

I can tell you enough stories of men and women in the same gym. They do not need to "get out" to somewhere, you could just fuck at the shower without anyone giving an active fuck. Even the most simple gym here has a bar with coffee and sweets (fuck that anyway) and a nice lounging area.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 10:49 AM
4

I don't care. She can have her own opinions as long as she knows when to shut up and be respectful for a visit. It even makes it easier to plan ahead when you know about problematic relationship. The moment she tries to mingle in family affairs and play people against each other though, she will be shut down. You need to play those games together or it will become a shitshow in an instant. As you can't choose your heritage you do not fuck with it. Roll with it or become a nuisance to everyone.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 11:56 AM
1

You know there are people that fall into a not-a-hot-babe category right? We do not mention them, because why the fuck would you. HB2 is still a hot babe, just the worst of her kind. Then there is the WM, or walmart babe. You do not need a scale for that category.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 11:41 AM
6

Listen. Both ways. Just pretending to do so, humming, then repeating the same thing I just told / was told leads to pure rage sooner or later. If you have only smalltalk topics indicate that if possible. If you do not have time to listen, make it clear. Do not interrupt when the other one is talking, if you can avoid it. The one person with the healthier money spending habbits decides on the budgets. Both parties get a hobby-fund granted if required. Both parties need to review their last months…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 01:42 PM
1

Just make sure you can pay the ~100k the next 18 years without hassle. Everything else is your decision, if you are on good terms with her. If you are not, try to get there. Otherwise it will be hell and stay there.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 08:25 PM
6

You betrayed your GF, fully aware of it. That makes you a person without a GF, but with a plate. You lie to yourself and to the person that still assumes your loyalty. Tell her it's over, because that's what it is and ask her if she still wants to come over for a fuck, because that's all there is to it. You have to own your actions, not navigate around possible implications.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 03:39 PM
6

So, ditch you GF and fuck around, whats the problem here? No reason to try to keep your GF around if you're really only looking for plate.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 03:25 PM
1

Also make double sure that you get IOIs and not the standard friendly smile, because girls need to earn some money as well and a requirement is to be friendly and girly to attract customers.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 10:30 AM
1

It's only tricky because you want to keep your reputation as a helpful guy. Even an asshole can solve problems others cant solve, but with a different mindset. I'm not telling you to go nuts, just that you can just say no a specific person without having to explain yourself. If they try to shift the blame that you do not want to help out, ask your superiour straigt: Is it my job now because I got stuff to do. Even then, you should be able to handle a bit of rejection and disappoinment from other…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 05:32 AM
1

Acting like a man, at least for me, begins with acting responsible towards yourself. This is why TRP exists. Many do not have a male role model, even had a dad or a goal to strife for. You read the sidebar, you read the topics, you gain an understanding of the difference between man and woman. You derive what you need to do, lift, get some valueable hobbies, drop porn, drop games, drop movies/tvseries/anime, drop time wasting, gain confidence, decision making, flirting, how to gain in SMV, whate…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 11:24 AM
1

And there you have it again: Do not give a fuck. You deserve nothing, nothing good, nothing bad. You did not miss anything. Noone cares. You have a screen, vaseline and 4 walls. I have almost 40 years of bullshit on my back, a screen and cup of coffee. Shit is not even whiny. You can change that anytime, even if youre in your late 60s. You do not need "to look into ideas". You need to start acting. I seriously doubt you know how to handle ideas and break them down into actionable items because o…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 10:54 AM
1

Because you are the price, not the cave you're currently living in. As long as your new house is not floating on clouds and your new girl is a disney princess it will do nothing to your SMV except boost your blue pill rating. You want to attract some LTR material that you can have kids with? Thats the way to go then. On the mortage: Do not do it. You do it for the wrong kind of reason.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 10:16 AM
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How long would it take you to come up with a new flat? If shit hits the fan you will have two parties against you. You already stated, this is a high risk scenario, is it worth the price then? Can you not meet a 43 amazing looking girl by easier means?
/r/askTRP06/06/17 10:09 AM
1

I do not know anything about your situation, but searching people that are like you will provide only confirmation in your own findings. It's like talking about alcohol with long time addicts and how to get out, it will just not work. Not sure what the source of your mindset is, but you need to change that source. Whatever induces this train of thought needs to be worked on. You seem to depend on others for your own well being, which must change. Looking at your family members will only reflect …
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:46 AM
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First the good news: You are not a 7. Deduct 1 point because you do not know when to quit drinking. One more point because you are fucking stupid smoking the weed and getting kicked out of a bar because of it. That takes skill. One more point because you did not have any self control and thereby lost control of the situation fully aware of it. Last point you can deduct is because you started something with a coworker. So given you are a 3 and she is a 3, you might even match, so do not take it h…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:15 AM
1

Well, there are countries that prohibit the things the IT guy was doing, by law. You cant just take screenshots out of context, measure a persons browsing behaviour and walk to HR with it. If the company allows private usage of the equipment, like checking your private emails, this gets even more complicated. If a union is involved, the hell gets even hotter. In germany for example you need to uphold the personal rights, then the basic rights of informational self-determination (not sure about t…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:07 AM
2

You better learn to say no to people that ask nicely then, ASAP. Not sure you do not have some kind of idolized view of your workplace and coworkers, but you get there because you get paid for the job you do. You job is not to help others. If helping others cuts your work short, you can not provide your full potential to the hand that feeds you. It's fucking simple and by helping her you undermine your own job. Just say no. If it escalates ask for a higher up to assign you to help her. As long a…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 08:57 AM
4

Because they know that they lack the resolve to follow you. You could just ask back what they did that day to improve themselfs and make their lifes better, but that would be rude. I would get a shirt printed, a caricature of me, more ripped, with a very small head and print "still better looking than the rest of my family" just to mock them every day.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 02:49 PM
3

It's your perception. TRP ist not about having a kids. You can only derive a mindset from it, skip the bullshit and improve your life (and the life of your children) by becoming the best version of yourself. You left her, so what? You have kids, you take care of them in the best possible way. There is no direct harm in having children experience a breakup of their parents. What harms them more are adult people that have no clue how to handle it in a good, respectable way. So they see both parent…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 02:44 PM
2

They don't give a shit if you get their games, they offered you a low effort way out of it anyway and you could'nt just accept it, even the lowest effort possible, the stupid "k" answer, is based on taking this way to serious. But maybe the world would be a better place when our plates would answer our "not ready for a relationship"-answers with "k" and "lol" because they get our games.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 02:16 PM
1

Just don't overdo it. From experience, trying to establish more than 3 habbits at once will lead to failure in all three. Money is money. If you are in the luxurious position to earn some with alot of fun and nice job, good for you, but 80% of us untrained, undiciplined people are not in that position.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 12:56 PM
1

You should improve. You are miles away from starting game if you do not put yourself even out there and gain control over your life. Being in control means doing shit, whatever is necessary to stand on your own feet, create your own home, accomplish or fail at your own goals and bit by bit involve others that might join you on this journey. You play games, stop that, but use what you learned from them. You know exactly what the next steps are to improve, you feel it every day you have live with …
/r/askTRP29/05/17 09:48 AM
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What you are looking for does not exist. That's why we get into the angry phase, because we realize that it's all a big pile of bullshit that has been fed to you. You tried to reach that and you know exactly how it worked out for you, yet you still try to achieve the same thing that is not under your direct control. You need to change your mindset, you need to see what things are, not what society is trying to make them for you. Your friends are having babies, thats not hard. Ever dared and aske…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 09:42 AM
6

Oh well, handing out rape cards again. She has two options and you have made the right decision so far. She has to report it and solve it, because you can't help her with that. There is no reason for you to get involved, neither as bait, nor as trophy at the end. The only real way out of it might be making it up to you by reporting it to the police and get the hell moving to prosecute the crime correctly and with full force. Any other actions, even waiting a day, is a big red flag. It's like a s…
/r/askTRP28/05/17 01:07 PM
1

Why do you care? It should not worry you, because she is not your GF and you should have enough plates and options to actually not worry about it. She is not broken yet, but she will break eventually. Just because you say that she should not worry, does not mean you should behave that way. She disrespected your time and your agreement and therefore you assume that the next meeting will just a flake as well, so have other options in store and make it balantly clear, in a positive way, that you ha…
/r/askTRP28/05/17 12:55 PM
1

Well, it's your decision. Demote, spend less time with her, more time improving instead or looking for other options. It's not impossible to make it up to you, but it aint easy as well. Or just cut her out of your life.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 01:55 PM
1

You do not need to give her anything. If she can't offer it to herself, she will come up with all kinds of nasty stuff on the long run. Next up would be her inability to handle the guilt in her LTR, then she needs to save her ass, next up rape accusations because she sees no other way. This is not worth your time, go to other plates and tell this one it's her problem, you have other options.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 02:09 PM
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Ok so end it. Soft next at least. Meet again in august if you like, see where all the drama went without you. There is no reason you need to stay involved in whats happening right now, because you are not even there. Live your life at the location you are at. LDRs will never work.
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:55 PM
2

You need a refresh on amused mastery. That was the worst way to handle it, by all means. Also please be aware of gender differences when it comes to BF, that alone could've saved something at least.
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:53 PM
1

I'm with refusewool on meditation, though it can be hard as a 22 year old. Refering to older posts that I liked, there should be five phases: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Not knowing you and just assuming you are still in the real "anger"-phase, how is your game? Did you understand that principles by now that you can still get laid by all the hard work you already did? If you have, did you realize that this shit is depressing in the end? Did you come to the conclusion th…
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:46 PM
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We are having a LDR atm. There, just end it already. She would've joined you already, but she did not and you did not force it. You have a long distance, but no relationship. Everything that happens right now springs from this.
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:39 PM
1

No. The TRP quarrel is with yourself, not with others. No app can help you with that.
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:36 PM
6

If you live in a country that considers you fit for alimony simply by being there and accepting/providing for the kid, it's more than an absolute rule. It's a law. The child is young, so you will become the dad, you will root for her future, you will pay for the tuition, for the sicknesses and everything else. You could have your own child if you want at that point.
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:31 PM
1

It's the easy way. You stop improving yourself. Next thing is the stuff around you, just stop improving that. Be content, tell yourself thats it, settle with it. It's a mindset that you can live easily. Until the stuff, that you no longer have under control, breaks down. You get diabetes. Your wife divorces. Your kid dies. You loose your job. You have to fire all employees. It's important that you notice those mindsets because they also have a very specific way to interact with you. Most of thos…
/r/askTRP09/05/17 12:03 PM
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So you decided to break up 6 months ago... and you're still at her place? What the hell man, do you like to torture everyone around you? She knows she cant improve, she also sees that you do not improve yourself or change... hence you're staying at her place I guess. It will get better... once you get yourself and her some space to breathe.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 12:57 PM
1

The 2nd one is very long compared to the first, it also has a very different tone to it. First one is a booty call, the second one is a negotiation for desire. The simple answer is you cant and you should'nt. Just don't apply persistence into text. Call one of your other girls, easy as that.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 12:53 PM
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Just send her 2000$ a month and she will give you the satisfaction to see her every other week. And she will also lie in your face, so you no longer feel the pain of having a oneitis. It's a long distance and you do not do relationships over long distances. Never gonna happen.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 10:41 AM
3

TRP is about self improvement. Sure, men cheat as well, but they do "love" differently. A man is, in most cases, raised to radiate authority, has to act responsible and should hold true to his word. Nothing of that is part of how most women are raised, mostly. This is neither good or bad, it's what it is. That's why the introduction text of this sub is "The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.". There are ALOT of different mechani…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 09:41 AM
1

With hard work or a very good idea and realization of it.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 01:48 PM
1

Well, you will not automatically get 2000+ by the end of high school. Money does not care about age.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 01:37 PM
3

So you are a detached motherfucker who does not give a fuck about anything or anyone in his life. No idea how you landed there, everyone has this phase, yet you are not even angry at yourself. So you are either pretty bored to death with yourself and the company you chose or have no idea what brings a real spark into your eyes, fuels your motivation to be come better than this. Girls come and go, they will not help you through the things you mentioned here. The only change that you want to do ri…
/r/askTRP21/03/17 01:28 PM
4

Good for you that you took a glimpse into something that confirmed alot of stuff to you. Now fucking stop it. There is nothing new in this, nothing to gain and so much to lose.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 01:20 PM
5

Whats the problem? Plates break. This one did.
/r/askTRP20/03/17 04:25 PM
1

Look at your day. Do you get up early? Is your room/loft clean? Do you have any self-respect when it comes to clothing, work and hobbies? Do you distract yourself with stuff that will not improve your life? Do you distract yourself with the thought of pussy? Start growing up. In a few years your life will be about work, financial independence, working on your abundance and the time to hang out with people that you like to hang out with. You will meet people on the way, even women. Every step you…
/r/askTRP16/03/17 03:06 PM
2

Yes, of course! All materials in the side bar suggest that she will be the perfect fit for you!
/r/askTRP16/03/17 03:02 PM
2

You have no power here. She no longer has any respect for you and she does no longer support you. Your turn is over. Let her be, get your life back to a state that is enjoyable, because she will not help you with it. You might meet her again but please be careful when it happens.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 02:58 PM
2

Start posting naked photos of yourself, just visible for yourself. Then, after a week, signout all devices.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 02:51 PM
1

Well, there are things you can do and can try... but why are you so focused on this girl? You should radiate abundance, not look for ways to get a very introverted girl (at least from the public perspective) to like you. She either craves you or she does not. If she does not, you are trying to negotiate attraction, which will never work. Display your value through actions instead, not directed at her. That's one real chance to drive things forward.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 04:09 PM
1

Well, those might've been IOIs, but nothing serious, not enough, not strong enough. You react manly, firm, strong and with confidence. You show that to her by dating others. She will come to you when she wants you, she will give you an opening you cant miss.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 03:41 PM
2

That's what the lawyer is for. To make sure, to prevent and to be proactive about anything that could happen to you in this case. It's not about who goes to the police first.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 12:52 PM
1

Ignore her. She obviously has no interest in you. Keep your positive attitude, find people who show interest in you or IOIs.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 12:49 PM
2

Well, depending on your personality I would suggest telling him that he did wrongly, where exactly and that will not be tolerated. He then either has the possibility to make up for it or decide to drop you, ball is in his park. You could also just cut him off, but that would be too much too soon for my liking. If he makes it up to you, never give him full trust back, not until he entrusts you with something important to him multiple times.
/r/askTRP12/03/17 10:33 AM
2

Ok, so calm down, step down, look at it the easiest way possible: You are unwell because you care about her current behaviours. It directly impacts you, I would also assume it impacts every aspect of your life, which includes your income and how you handle your work/clients today. That's alot of power you granted someone who is not yours, never will be. Most of those feelings are the reason why we are here in the first place, why we try to understand TRP, why we read the sidebar. Never entrust t…
/r/askTRP09/03/17 10:45 AM
2

Breathe, "hit the gym" and so on would be the normal advice. Do what you need to better yourself. Abundance, you need to live it and you need to live IDGAF. If she does not want to attend the weekend or disrespects you enough to make you question the whole "ordeal", just quit it, say you got other plans, you cant make it to the weekend, it's off and enjoy your time then. As I said, she needs to keep up to the standards and boundaries you set or she makes herself redundant. Do not complain, do no…
/r/askTRP08/03/17 08:43 PM
2

No worries, as long as you can see those things clearly. If she acts on it, drop her, no problem right? You should always work on yourself, concentrate on your career and stuff, it's the most important thing. She has to keep up with you.
/r/askTRP08/03/17 03:39 PM
3

Well, do you feel respected? Would you do the same to her in the same situation? If not, you know what to do. If you are just in for the sex, be sure she has other men as you should have other women. So you both seem to not know when to stop drinking, because loosing control is nothing we strive for and far from improving yourself. You could've stayed in the same bar, enjoyed yourself and take any other women with you instead of the same chick. Instead you were raging through different places, e…
/r/askTRP08/03/17 03:29 PM
2

You think that you will never find another 22 year old in your life? Come on, people are born by the second and there will always this sweet woman that hits the spot. Stop telling you lies. Your career is getting started and that's it. You use the word lockdown already, so you know what's up. Do you want a "go" from TRP to justify settling down... Like your blue friends... With 27?
/r/askTRP07/03/17 07:37 AM
2

I know the perspective you have right now. Don't get angry at all the replies calling her this and that. Most of us came here, seeking for help, not knowing how women or the sexual market operates. I can only praise the inner values that you have, that you want to spread into her domain, into her life. But know that she does not care about that. If she would, she would've had her way long ago, but she actively chose not to have her way with you. She even TOLD you explicitly that she wants none o…
/r/askTRP06/03/17 02:59 PM
1

You are not even in the same shop. There is no deal. If she would like to fuck you, she would by now, but she chose to fuck other men all those years. You became an orbiter, you never escalated, you never made your intensions clear from the beginning. This is not a love story, this is a drama story; you are the only one suffering right now, dreaming of something you will never get, being the person you are right now. Watch her actions, not her words. Words mean nothing. Does she caress your body…
/r/askTRP06/03/17 02:32 PM
2

I would assume a basic shit test at first, not knowing the details. She tried to crumble your frame, to question your resolve, to see how firm you are with the things you handle and are around you. You could'nt handle (agree and amplify) her attempts and tantrums, you took it personally? Expect more nuclear shit tests. Expect harder shit tests. Expect her to test your foundation thoroughly. Then just watch her branch-swing to the next guy.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 02:23 PM
1

My sides... she screamed no, you just did'nt listen. She has no sexual interest in you. She likes that you comfort her, but everything else is of the menu FOREVER. Leave the anime club, do something else, get the girl out of your head and proceed to make out with other women, like she does right now with her new guy.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 02:15 PM
2

Sometimes your own thoughts betray you, so do not trust every thought that you have about yourself. You want to accomplish something, so split it into doable / executable goals. Do them but keep a list of things done within a time frame. Review those things in intervals and ask yourself if you have your shit together. If you do, you can learn to trust yourself with time. You can be confident that you have a plan, that nothing derails you. If you fail your own plans, learn from it, become better,…
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:53 AM
1

History of grooming, grooming related to religion, grooming related to human health, studies detailing on medical impact on groomed body parts? Otherwise start with the "best practices" and manual of the thing you use. You could also do the materials used by trained hairdressers or talk to your local barber for more advanced techniques.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:45 AM
3

Get good at shit, stop guessing around. Yeah, maybe you will start with zero skill and knowledge somewhere else, if you loose all your memory and stuff. You think 9-5 is bad? In my business prime I had 16 hours a day, 7 days a week to keep my company alive and wealthy beyond compare. What do you want to do, you want to rock your world or do you want to impress others. Stop calculating, start doing. You cant fit something into every day? Do it every second day then. If something allows you to dou…
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:38 AM
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It bothers you. Get rid of that feeling, that would be a start. Then, as lietruth already stated, use a&a.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:30 AM
1

As abdada said, only with a legally binding contract between you both. Expect the friendship to end. The question alone was a bad idea, now you know how he handles money and family, expect worse for his friends.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 03:29 PM
1

Well, fess up then. If you would've done this with no known people around, you could've just blamed yourself, learned the leason and be done with it. But with friends around, just fess up, be done with it. Keep your frame, acknowledge your error, learn from it, act accordingly in the future.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 03:24 PM
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What makes you think "gaming your ex" is productive? TRP is about yourself, where he also improved alot, which is a very good thing and he should gain alot of respect for that. But then, for the remainder of the very long post, he decided on purpose to inflicted pain into others, just because he thought eye-for-an-eye solves anything. It does not better yourself, it does not cure oneitis and it does not make you a better person in general. It's not even a tale you tell your son when he's ready f…
/r/askTRP19/02/17 12:47 PM
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Hopefully, this ends your anger phase. Because that's when TRP really starts. You wasted a lot of time for some petty revenge. Otherwise, good job on the self improvement part!
/r/askTRP18/02/17 10:13 PM
3

Nope. That's even worse. That's like pulling the trigger yourself.
/r/askTRP16/02/17 07:46 AM
3

Hi, I'm the guy she cuddled with. It was amazing and as we cuddled she told me all the things you would'nt do to her. Also she told me that you would'nt be a problem. Since we met on tinder and fucked, we share the common interest for a very good fuck. Also I do not plan to be her emotional tampon anytime soon. She is not even the only one, and despite all the time she always comes back. Well, thats the story of the other guy I guess, you should know it if you frequent the other sub. She owns up…
/r/askTRP13/02/17 05:51 PM
5

I do everything but 7 and everyone around me still knows I'm an introvert. Which is a good thing. Because nothing I do around them has any importance to me or the person I'm talking to. Once it's business... the true colors will always shine. You can try to fake it, but you will always be what you are and look stale against a natural. Introverts and extroverts need the one another. It's like marketing and development. You get shit done.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 09:00 AM
2

Yes, but not every day. If a part of my dream requires toxic work, I push through it 2-3 days a weak and step back to breath again. The dream and the outcome must not leave me destroyed at the end. Like this fucking desk job. For me it's a pain to develop software for in my late 30s, but it's required. I take days of, reevaluate the outcome, adjust, maybe focus on a different but related topic and then push through again.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 07:37 AM
1

Well, between sales and coding are quite some differences. Maybe managment position, scrum master, project managment or direct technical advisor towards the customer? Otherwise CTO or any other leading position will prevent any free and calm days.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 06:34 PM
1

Job is money, if you have something that pays you better, go for it. If not, why the hell would you just give it up because it makes you uneasy? If you have to go to work every day, driving your car for two hours a day just to get there, to work with assholes and stupids eight hours a day and are in severe pain because of it, yeah, you should change it. But you sound like someone who just tries to combine work with women, which you should never do. It might sound drastic, but you wont get laid m…
/r/askTRP26/01/17 01:23 PM
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Law 38, Think as you like but behave like others.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 04:53 PM
2

That's why you work on yourself and create a frame. Without it nothing has purpose and meaning. Once you gain those pillars you loose interest in things that you do not want to accomplish. Paying someone else is not even an accomplishment, it's like a cheat day during diet: self sabotage
/r/askTRP25/01/17 04:47 PM
2

Srengthen your frame, with or without her, whatever you can accept. It's not about practicing it, more about getting one. Everything will fit into it once you get it. You can learn alot from bad relationships which would otherwise take ages to understand. But you should understand that this girl and this relationship is over, no matter your decision.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 06:17 AM
1

So what's your mission, what defines you? Something can be temporary but can still lead to a greater knowledge and perspective. Like cancer, missing family members, burned down houses and such, just to name some more unlikely ones. Otherwise, r/simpleliving is always an option.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 04:23 PM
1

Something that might help you in a way or another is voluntary work. Gets you outside, connect to new people, new opportunities, no real requirements. Meanwhile look for a good entry position in something that earns you the rent and some food. Once you have the chance to straighten out your logistics and your constant family contact, everything else is just a step away.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 04:13 PM
1

If 10.000 followers can't change your bad living situation, it can't change shit in dating. PUA is what you are looking for, TRP would focus on you and why you don't need Instagram all.
/r/askTRP23/12/16 09:08 AM
6

Wait a minute... she wants to visit your brother and (your?) friend at a specific location, without you, after you agreed to do it together later? What am I missing, because why would she do that? Apart from that, it's not your decision to make, she asked you to get approved in an already final decision (party is already organized right?). Watch her actions after she returns, not her words.
/r/askTRP12/12/16 06:50 AM
1

Nobody learns respect by simple slaps. You could very well learn another lesson like savagedealer already pointed out by this. If you need to force it, because it is threatening, try every other means possible and make god damn sure you have enough witnesses on standby.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 08:25 PM
2

Well... you seem to have a superb time with your energy vampire, because otherwise I could suggest a dozen other energy draining activities that benefit you directly. It's not your job to make her "work" again and there is no reason for you to stick around to find out if it gets better or worse once she does.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 04:09 PM
1

This does not lead anywhere. Believing and improving are two totally different approaches. Christianity will not work just because you do it, improving and lifting will. You're just twisting words right now, wasting time.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 08:58 AM
1

No it does not. How can the will and decision to better your own physique, mindset, though process and analysis of the current social structures end up as "sounding like a religion"?
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:57 AM
1

This is not AskScience nor PUA. Men do not need proof that TRP will work, they get it handed to them by the negative experience of tending to a beta mindset. People will find it, when they re ready for the change.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:44 AM
1

And why would you ask such a thing in a place like this. What good could come of it?
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:26 AM
2

There is absolutely no reason for him to prove something to you. That's part of what we learn here, do our thing. Go ask the president for proof of his last visit to Hawaii.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:22 AM
1

Well there are several things. You are at fault. First of all because you trusted yourself to be capable to have a LDR. You are not, learn from it. Second part is that you were willing to do it and did it. Congratulations,you are not better than any other human, stop feeling pure, because no one is. That's why we are here, to better ourselves. There is no reset to become the shitty self again that was able to betray someone you cared about nor should you let that happen. Have a clear mission. If…
/r/askTRP21/11/16 07:40 AM
1

Not at work, not at the gym. You go there to improve yourself, not to find the next plate.
/r/askTRP21/11/16 06:43 AM
1

You go and have your "flirting at work" experience done, then come back and tell us who is out of touch with reality. That guy seems to know exactly what will work and avoid anything that blocks and hinders his daily workload and progression in that company.
/r/askTRP20/11/16 09:47 PM
3

iPhone might also have iMessage connected to other devices in household (iPad). Maybe written phone bill with detailed number history attached (or invoice email sent to shared account/multiple recipients). Two-factor enabled? Common secret answers can not be guessed by her? Well, you might want to keep facebook, but lock it down. Put everyone you do not trust 100% into the acquaintances list. Never post something to public, friends. Limit it to family, if needed or wanted. Never share pictures. …
/r/askTRP19/11/16 10:33 AM
1

What kind of tech stuff do you have and how did you contact your plate? Well, keep your frame. Don't cave to anything, shit happens all the time, with both genders. Depending on your country and legal situation, you might want to prepare for the nuclear option and check your options in advance.
/r/askTRP19/11/16 09:30 AM
1

Had that as well. Do not fear them, you pay them to get a job done and are sabotaging them in doing so. You don't pay those people in good times. They are there so you can keep your business up and not drown in administrative tasks.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/16 07:35 AM
1

There is no perspective. Everything you can learn from it is in the sidebar. This is about being the best you can be and accomplish the mission you set yourself. Your mission can't be to settle it with that kind of woman or? How does it make you better in any way
/r/askTRP17/11/16 07:17 AM
1

Maybe it's for you, take a look at /r/keto and /r/ketogains
/r/askTRP16/11/16 04:59 PM
1

How are you still getting texts from her, is your block not working? How does "cut her toxic tests out of your life" work otherwise?
/r/askTRP11/11/16 11:21 AM
1

You wrote you got evicted because of others. You lost your job because someone else sold himself better than you. See the common scheme and the missing plan-b? Friends are great, but never involve yourself or support a situation where your very well-being can directly take a hit because of others. You should build the base for yourself. Do not share the rent, try to avoid high compatitve jobs or try to outsmart them, maybe work two low income jobs to support moving to a new city. Always look for…
/r/askTRP20/10/16 04:23 PM
2

Sounds simple. Turn them around. 3, then 2, then A. This time focus on multiple jobs and a stable income. Do not include other people.
/r/askTRP20/10/16 04:03 PM
2

Worked as programmer. Customer filed charges, suspected ~500k in malpratice and fraud. State froze accounts, confiscated alot of stuff. Many years flew by now knowing where to go and what to do. TRP tought me to not care, because it's out of my control. So I lift, educate myself and maybe someday I'll solve this... small problem. I expect it to be unsolveable, but at least it solved all other problems, I will never get married, nor will I have to support or have children of my own. Women run awa…
/r/askTRP18/10/16 09:00 PM
2

Why do you want make people laugh? I love a precise hit and laugh, but no reason to entertain others all the time. btw, as a guy with only female coworkers and the one getting all the attention (as the boss is unavailable) let me tell you something: holy shitballs it sucks. NEVER start things at work. NEVER. They might try, but by god, just NO. You want to enjoy lunch? Then fucking enjoy it beeing alone, unpestered. If someone likes to join you, good job.
/r/askTRP18/10/16 07:43 PM
2

Take a step back. Think about your options and your goals. Why even bother with Tinder when you know you're messed up. Use the anger and energy from it towards improvement. If you're fit as stated, educate yourself. Find something that belongs to you and has nothing to do with women. Own it, be the best at it. Set priorities and learn how to avoid those emotional pitfalls. If something can make you this angry and hurt, stop making your personal well being dependant on it. You got onitis. You got…
/r/askTRP17/10/16 01:29 PM
7

No, no, no. Just no. Thats not how any of this works. This is not open-door day where you can get a glimpse into father-kid relationships. The only thing that you will cause is damage.
/r/askTRP31/07/16 03:01 PM
11

As harsh as it might sound, thats how it works at the core. Either you are the dominant part or you play games to her avail. Right now you started playing a text-game that you can't win. Either you choose to spend time with her, if she makes room, or you invest your time at better places. It's your decision to date as many people as you like, why you would even consider the "shut in" problem as something that you need to solve is beyond me (and should beyond yourself).
/r/askTRP16/07/16 12:01 PM
37

Those are words and they mean nothing at all. Hang out again and see how she acts.
/r/askTRP16/07/16 11:06 AM
1

Please read more... about what "frame" is. You could've displayed IDGAF attitude and aloofness at any point to resolve the tension and made her comfortable. But you had to pull the nuclear "I need respect and I deserve a kiss now. You denied me, so go suffer." attitude that makes you what you are... a clueless idiot.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 09:27 AM
3

Just take your urges to your other girls then? If she does not want it and signals it, then why persue it, even by tought? Don't waste your time.
/r/askTRP09/07/16 10:10 AM
1

Can you see the change your lifestyle choices do to you? Did you anticipate them and what is your goal of all the change? There are no ideal days. There are days you dominate and days you get dominated. TRP is partly about change, to be the key part of your own life, independent of others, thriving towards your set targets and own the situations you get confronted with. Of all your daily routine I'm missing what you expect. What do you expect to come out of this? If something is not giving you a…
/r/askTRP27/06/16 02:09 PM
5

"Sorry honey, had to release my sexual tension elsewhere as you are not available."
/r/askTRP18/04/16 02:50 PM
4

How about you study something that is not related to procrastination? You seem to be good at studying, choose something that you want to focus in. If your daily stuff is more online based, try real-world stuff, and the other way around. Reduce your stuff and ability to procrastinate. Boredom will not solve it but the requirement to change yourself will. How's your bucket list doing? Are you fit enough to get to your deep diving experience in Sistema Dos Ojos in two weeks? Working on your diabete…
/r/askTRP17/04/16 04:29 PM
2

Lift, do what you like, focus, find something you're good at. Don't ever make women a priority in your life. They come, they go, some few might stay. Take your lessons about social media circles, learn to (ab)use them, don't ignore them with your age and time, but also don't contribute. Don't ask whats wrong for the 100th time a day. Focus on yourself, become someone who is interessting enough to not fall back to platitudes, drama and unfun stuff. Be content, honest and learn to deal with shit r…
/r/askTRP17/04/16 04:18 PM
1

I've had nothing but good experiences with it. The lifestyle gets boring sometimes. It may takes some tries and modifications to your habbits. I'm on it for over a year now and nothing bad has come of it. Only drawbacks are the limited number of compatible drinks, social gatherings can be a pain in the ass because of the same limits (just don't mention you do a specific diet, tell them you are not hungry, it looks delicious or your doc wants a blood sample the next day). Lifting is no problem at…
/r/askTRP06/04/16 05:38 AM
2

You get your shit fixed and are in control. Why do you have the impression to appear weak? Trying to hide it or play around it would be weak, getting this stuff fixed is essential. Be confident that the surgery will be a success and that you enjoy her company (if you do). It's her decision to invest more time into you, which is a good sign in itself (if they want, they will make it happen). Don't overthink it, keep your cool and tell your best friends about your concerns but not her. If she woul…
/r/askTRP05/04/16 08:54 AM
3

No idea what your limits are, but you could look into r/ketogains. There is some good advice on how to combine the benefits of ketosis and weight training with hiit to battle fat and recomp. Might be for you, or you already hate it, up to you!
/r/askTRP02/04/16 07:24 AM
2

I would'nt be suprised to find any more friends right around the corner.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 06:37 AM
2

Well for me it's important to highlight important information that is unfamiliar with me. After finishing a chapter I write a short summary detailing about my findings. That goes onto my to do list to be reread and reviewed in a week. Only effective way to retain some information in this overloaded world, at least from my experience.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 06:39 AM
16

You like drama don't you? Because you will have plenty of it!
/r/askTRP24/03/16 07:48 AM
3

Look around, find other fish. Soft next, maybe she needs more validation and better plausible deniability to make it happen. She could'nt live up to your confidence and your dissappointment did the rest to kill anything sexual I guess? Stop getting intimate. Enjoy life. Sex will happen in your life, just not tonight.
/r/askTRP20/03/16 11:47 AM
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Read your text again... it's your birthday and you did not get to fuck all day? As you seem to deserve a good fuck on your birthday, did you make sure to have enough options to make it happen? No... you put all your hope into her instead of taking care of the stuff you want. Improve yourself and make sure you create and maintain abundance for your fucking-self.
/r/askTRP03/03/16 06:42 AM
3

Well... you want to use some read pill stuff? Go, lift more and date other women. Stop overthinking stuff, you got better stuff to do, as does she. Keeping youself in the orbit while 1000 miles away is just you in a 1000 miles orbit around that one girl. Don't be fooled, she could still post on your facebook wall while fucking that other guy, other multiple guys, at the same time. One important question here is: Why do you care?
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:40 PM
1

How to stand out if you never asked for a raise? Ask for a raise. Reasons? I can't stand your shit any longer with this pay. Look for other jobs constantly, abundance is king and can be used as well.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 07:45 AM
1

So... tell us why you do not plan on having any plates any time soon? Miss the oneitis-feeling so much? You text came of as butthurt. Of course she is seeing someone else, as should you!
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 06:57 PM
2

Look at you and your frame. You sound like a bitter and old person, complaining at every opportunity he gets, negating any kind of responsibility, trying ignore stuff rather then challenge them. You let yourself go, now fucking go change it. You gave a women a budget for your wedding, that's ridiculous. You complain about your job like an old, depressed man that fears any kind of change to his miserable, daily routine. Right now it would best to pause this red flag ridden thing, because there is…
/r/askTRP12/02/16 06:29 PM
1

Thats why I get this creepy feeling all the time. Damn chicks! #gohomeandgetfat
/r/TheRedPill04/02/16 08:15 AM
7

I favor Todoist and it has been a long journey. Main features that closed the deal: Forward email to task Integrate as iCal (having all due or scheduled tasks in my Google Calendar) IFTTT recipes (YouTube, mark as "watch later" creates task in a "consume" project) Sharable projects, in them you can assign joined persons. Location support (on arrival, on departure of location) Very good developer, fast support, fast deployment, very verbose about new features, very good clients. Most of these fea…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 05:34 PM
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Yes, if something is too abstract you need to decide. Drop it forever right now, move it to an idea notebook (nothing to be done here, so it has to leave the GTD scope) or do the first step and break it down to what needs to be done. The important point is to do it decide during the review phase and be finished with the decision at the end of it. Review of ideas are "someday", for me once a month. I do not see it as some kind of tracking. It's my "Personal improvement box". I look at it and deci…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 02:07 PM
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The most important part for me, about GTD, is that you dump and forget. 1) Need milk? Just put it into the inbox, right now. Forget. 2) Lend a friend some blurays? Make a photo, dump into inbox. Forget. 3) Got a yearly checkup at the doc? Inbox, forget. 4) Must buy new whey? Inbox, forget. 5) A new invoice arrived? Inbox, forget. Than, on a saturday just rush through the things (no hours needed, just 30 mins max) and process them into things: 1) Goes to shopping list. 2) BluRays-Picture go to "W…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 01:28 PM
2

Oh well, let your imagination run wild! Imagine a caricature of that guy. You lift I guess? Well, she wants more of someone like him? Show her how your variation of a camel clutch works perfectly in bed. Manhandle her. If you want to next her, flex her butt out of the window, close it and lift more! Sex can be strange sometimes. If you can get into this and have fun, great times may ensue, maybe not. If a girl is into foot smelling and you are not, how would you react? Don't try to judge. Skim o…
/r/askTRP27/01/16 05:37 PM
1

Well, you could a&a that and own the situation. But maybe not enjoying the moment and overthink it might be the better solution. If you don't enjoy it, she won't, which will lead to you-know-where.
/r/askTRP27/01/16 04:52 PM
1

Why should it not be possible? As long as you have fallback plan, what could possibly go wrong. Make it your mission to plan ahead, secure your spots beforehand and review your results, and keep pushing to your dreams and limits. Look for support, maybe even learn german while being in germany (its not that hard coming from english). Maybe check /r/financialindependence for further advice or hurdles that might come up.
/r/askTRP25/01/16 01:44 PM
1

Do not play any for three weeks. Could you do that without exception please?
/r/askTRP20/01/16 04:55 PM
1

Yes. But please, go to the meeting, watch them, look how they try to drag you into their needs. Don't agree to anything and if your sight is cleared, don't hesitate to say no on the spot.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:43 PM
2

Was in a 10+ years LTR, depressed and blue as fuck. Some thread in depression linked to asktrp, followed up and found out how bad my mental state really was. I don't care much about the women/pua part, but boy, understanding the most basic principles when raised by a crazy single mother is just shattering.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 09:41 AM
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You don't put up with shit like this, why should she? Want nudes, ask for them. Want games, now you got them. Play them and stop asking g why you got A when you said B.
/r/askTRP06/01/16 10:12 PM
1

Any experience with meditation? Once a week does not sound like got past the anger phase.
/r/askTRP15/12/15 07:42 AM
1

I had to force my video game consumption through the same filters I try to apply in any other aspect of my life: How does it improve me as a person. I love stories of fantasy and science fiction but they can only do so much for my overall happiness. Once I understood that most of todays games became totally bland (say lol, bf, cd and so on). I still play, but only things that have something to tell, some kind of experience that has an end to it. Finally I limited the time i spend with them (they…
/r/askTRP15/07/15 03:52 PM
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