TRP and analysis paralysis.

MadLionn · 2017-01-03T05:50:45+00:00

Bro. I was you in high school, and to some extent, still am you. What makes you better is practice. You analyze because you don't know how a situation plays out. You take in all the variables and try to make the best decision. Being anxious comes along for the ride as well. You aren't sure on how a situation will end, you are afraid that you didn't take the right variables into account, and you're going to mess up. This is what I think when people say "You get inside your own head to much." Honestly, the best advice I can give you is to fail. Fail miserably and often. Any game of any merit, like say chess not chutes and ladders, requires practice. You practice your skills. Figure out what strategies work, and use those strategies. No chess champion ever won without first losing. No Alpha ever won without losing either. So I say be analytical in determining what strategies work instead of what outcome you want to achieve. The outcome will come with the winning strategy.

blackedoutfast · 2017-01-03T17:52:07+00:00

you can go MGTOW if you really don't want to deal with women, but I encourage you to at least give it a shot first. it's actually a lot of fun playing the game. ignore the posts by the dudes in the anger phase and the guys who have given up or never really started.

being very analytical can be a good thing, but you need to focus on analysis of your real-world social interactions and your observations of others. don't just read/research and think about hypothetical situations and "what if" scenarios. stop trying to memorize every single rule or concept. as you've discovered that can turn into pointless mental masturbation that doesn't accomplish anything productive. go out, try something, and then try to figure out what went wrong and what worked. then go out and do it again.

it's like any other skill. you can sit there and read about swinging a golf club and watch youtube vids of pros hitting balls and think about the process all day long. you'll be overwhelmed thinking about all the different aspects but still not really be able to swing a golf club. you just have to go to the driving range and start hitting balls. you'll suck at first but practice is how you master anything.

quicklogaccount · 2017-01-03T13:33:38+00:00

I know your position all too well.

We tend to believe being analytical prevents or grants optimal results, but you have to bear in mind analysis takes time and mental effort as well. You're wasting this effort if you never act on it.
It's often something we do to excuse ourselves from facing the approach anxiety and acting, though.

Second thing is the bars are set too high. You're plain wrong there. If you're in relative good shape, just start approaching, you're bound to have success sooner or later.

At last, don't worry about the "manipulative women". Some women are dangerous, but since you've been around for two years, you'll spot the red flags.
Very few women actually deceive men. There are very few good liars. What usually happens is they convincing men on fooling themselves by persistence or repetition. Just don't fool yourself.

GerchSimml · 2017-01-03T21:27:45+00:00

Man, give yourself TIME. When I look back at me aged 17 I feel like I was a child back then. Since you say, you know TRP stuff pretty well, you'll probably know that many things are about to start for you.

Don't blame "the society" since it isn't of any practical use for you. It's simply frustrating and will block your progress. Use the next years for education and reflecting yourself. Work on your (practical) skills. But give yourself time and don't waste the one you have on the internet (too much).

Title	TRP and analysis paralysis.
Author	hdrage
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	January 3, 2017 5:05 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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