TRPers who got into self-improvement: Do you compare yourselves with others?

TheKingGray · 2015-11-05T18:10:52+00:00

We all compare ourselves to others. It's natural and anybody who says that they don't is full of shit.

The trick is to not get carried away. Some lessons I've learned:

There will always be somebody taller, richer, better-looking or with a bigger johnson. What matters most is your progress and journey.
Just because you're better then somebody at X, doesn't mean that you can't learn from them in Y.
If you're the top of your pack, consider finding a new pack. This is how you'll keep growing.
The ego (usually) makes you think you're better than you are. If you think you're on par with somebody, they're probably slightly better than you. If you think they're better than you, the gap is probably larger than you think.

BluntMFer · 2015-11-05T17:31:19+00:00

Nope. I compare myself to my former self.

fnordsnord · 2015-11-05T19:21:52+00:00

I don't. Oh, sure. I envy the guy in the squat rack who looks really cut, or even the chick who can get on the treadmill and go at a slow run for 40 minutes without stopping.

But I compare me to me 30 - 90 days ago and know that I'm BETTER than I was.

falafin · 2015-11-05T17:32:28+00:00

well, what is the point ? you wanna make yourself feel better?

I compare myself mostly with myself, in this way I see whether I make progress or not, whether I am becoming better, improving myself and achieving my goals or if I am wasting my time

do I care that other people, my college friends and acquaintances still smoke, drink and party every weekend? why the hell should I care ?

TRPdating · 2015-11-05T19:35:04+00:00

No. Anyone who says yes ITT is FAR from taking the red pill.

You can always judge a man by his reaction to another man's success.

[deleted] · 2015-11-05T21:57:49+00:00

Yes. I'm a hater and want to beat everyone. I want to be the best and walk over the bones of my defeated enemies.

NeatMcGee · 2015-11-05T23:04:13+00:00

Comparing to others is natural. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to do so. The wrong way:

Look at that guy over there, he lifts 500kilos. He must be ripped, I'll never get that way. Then you give up on trying

The right way:

Look at that guy over there, he lifts 500kilos. He must be ripped, I only lift 200 kilos. But, in time, I can use this picture as a goal to work towards, over time.

The numbers and units are pulled directly from my backside. I've not seen anyone lift 500 kilos at the gym and don't lift 200 kilos myself.

J_Dizzle1000 · 2015-11-06T00:00:01+00:00

I compare myself to those in my social circles all the time. Everyone is betrer in some way or at something, so it helps me stay motivated. And for the friends I have stuck in bad habbits I try to lend them a hand to help them better themselves. I have a few close friends that took the help and now I'm growing my pack the way I want it to be.

Title	TRPers who got into self-improvement: Do you compare yourselves with others?
Author	Myrpl
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Comments	16
Date	November 5, 2015 5:10 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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