Trust issues

RPEdmonton · 2021-05-08T16:45:18+00:00

Hope for the best, expect the worst. Assume your gut is right but keep your cool.

Based on what you’ve said not sure she was LTR material for you even by your own standards.

And check that oneitis, I hope you got a couple of plates on deck.

Wish you the best brother

Simple-Craft-9577 · 2021-05-08T17:00:13+00:00

It’s not normal but very common. I’m assuming that you’re ok with her past hoe phase and that is why decided to LTR her. Hence I won’t go into that.

But if she has given you no reason to not trust her and you still feel apprehensive of her actions, it could possibly be stemming from an OCD that you have. Have you ever felt OCD about other stuff outside the relationship? Over obsessing about stuff that doesn’t necessarily seem too harmful ?

319Skew · 2021-05-08T18:33:37+00:00

If you value yourself more than your girl then you'll never be worried about her cheating.

You'll just smile at your turn being over, toss her shit out, delete her contact and upgrade by dating a hotter woman.

When you get to that mindset then you get a gut feeling that it's over, you'll know.

Otherwise, when you don't value yourself, you put her as a prize, you'll try to hold onto her. You'll be paranoid about your shadow.

drakehfh · 2021-05-08T17:18:07+00:00

If you can't stop thinking about it, it means you have the problem not her.

As soon as you get into a LTR, you will always have trust issues. You can learn to manage your bitch better so you can trust her a bit more, or get the hell out of the LTR.

Vegetable-Ad5980 · 2021-05-08T19:59:48+00:00

Personally with all those red flags I would’ve dipped just lol your still treating her as dating material. Stop being desperate and move on

Alittihad01 · 2021-05-08T16:46:33+00:00

You think the bitch cheating = the bitch is cheating

these thoughts usually come from the discomfort in man's mind and the reason is the bitch obviously has a complicated past and has lied you and you fount out!

best way is not turning them into girlfriend , just use em as plates. bitches will eventually cheat , but some use all you have and dump you , some do cheat and you cheat too , some will be too obsessed with you than they don't do it for a while

what matters is being detached and ready to leave.

mchief101 · 2021-05-08T18:17:33+00:00

Trust the gut man

Intrepid_Artist · 2021-05-09T01:13:28+00:00

Your mindset is wrong.

Girls cheat, cause they are sluts. Cause they can. Cause they want. Not cause another man has higher SMV.

Statiscally over 50% girls cheat. Your gut is correct statiscally.

Who cares, what they do

Train your thoughts. What works for me, when i start think negatively, is to force myself into diferent direction. I imagine how i game close colleague, how we have sex, every detail.

Generally in life, you can influence but not determine result.

Variance has it's share and sometimes luck is not on your side.But often it is, especially when you do things right. Keep that in mind and accept how life is

Cpupcat · 2021-05-09T03:45:31+00:00

You have trust issues. Her past is the past. Don’t let that ruin the good thing you have now.

iwiml · 2021-05-09T04:38:39+00:00

You meet her on tinder and it's not a food delivery app

Abadalta · 2021-05-09T18:05:54+00:00

Don't EVER "LTR" a one night stand, there are higher quality women out there. This is a plate at best. You've been warned.

Title	Trust issues
Author	_Ding
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	May 8, 2021 4:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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