[UPDATE] I need some advice.

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-09-15T13:56:12+00:00

she came into the cafeteria, she sat down next to me,

A good sign.

didn't even bother looking at me,

Immaturity at work.

I went alpha and said "hey, how are you this morning?"

That is not alpha, that is boring.

She said nothing. Awkward silence.

That is pretty damn rude towards you. AND that is where you can be a full person. A full person does not try to keep conversing. They say something along the lines of, "Hey, I just tried to start a polite conversation with someone who crossed a room to sit next to me. And you are pretending like I don't exist. So next time, find someone else to sit next to."

THEN you return to whatever you were doing before she showed up, forget her forever, and (this part is important) go ask someone else out for this very weekend. Someone who will be thrilled to have you talk to them. Take that gal out. Have a great time. Be amusing, diverting and slightly cocky in an easy-going way.

tombreck2 · 2014-09-15T13:51:55+00:00

You already succeeded because you made a decision to talk to her and you followed through with it. No matter what her reaction was you took the initiative and stepped outside of your comfort zone. Good work

frankferri · 2014-09-15T14:51:19+00:00

Are you sure she heard you?

alreadyredschool · 2014-09-15T14:29:02+00:00

That sounds really weird. Is she some special needs girl who was homeschooled?

lonGterMgoalS · 2014-09-15T14:46:47+00:00

she sat down next to me, didn't even bother looking at me, I went alpha and said "hey, how are you this morning?" She said nothing. Awkward silence.

Aside from your "I went Alpha" remark this seems all good.

Does this girl have friends? Does she ride to school on the "special" bus? What do you know about this girl?

Don't take her actions as a failure on your part yet. If she has social issues than this would explain her weird behavior.

jf286381 · 2014-09-15T19:10:15+00:00

She's not interested.

Read her body language bro.

SkorchZang · 2014-09-15T14:34:43+00:00

Bro, the answer is, so far you're doing everything wrong.

You don't grasp how to be a man yet, which is the same problem 95% of dudes have, even way into their 50ies sometimes.

Nice try being bold and talking to her, but you still fucking sucked and that's a fact. This girl thinks you are a loser, and so she can do whatever she wants to you, including ignore you.

The good news is, as soon as you start acting like a man, girls will instantly notice you and they don't care how much you sucked last week, girls only care about right now. They just can't help themselves.

If you want some insta-advice for the situation, then do nothing with "your" girl for a time, maybe a week or so. Don't even say "Hi" unless she says it first. But if she does, then you're all cheery and happy to greet her back.

Meanwhile, talk to some new girls, your goal isn't to get anything, just tease them and make them laugh. Extra Alpha-as-fuck bonus points if you can make this happen while "your" girl is somewhere nearby so she sees/overhears you. Or sees you with another chick around your arm, randomly. You get the idea?

Here's a quick example for you, what we mean by teasing. What RP you might've have done... So girl comes over and sits next to you.

You: "Hey"

Girl: ignores you

You: "Cat got yer tongue?"

Girl: "no"

You: "prove it"

Girl: "what?"

You: "show me your tongue, I wanna see"

At this point she's trying to hide a smile even if she's a giant grump who also has a raging case of da PMS. And off you go, you keep teasing, challenging her, charmingly bossing her around, making her jump through hoops and prove herself to you. Then just as she's really laughing and having a good time, you leave - 'cause you're just like that. Busy bringing that special sunshine into lots of girls' lives. Outraged and infuriated, she falls head over heels in love...

Title	[UPDATE] I need some advice.
Author	Taazokaan
Upvotes	2
Comments	17
Date	September 15, 2014 1:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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