Using tinder is so fucking depressing

648262 · 2016-07-03T21:24:22+00:00

You have bad pictures probably.

I've had more success with unique pictures than with just being handsome. I'm not very handsome, but I know a thing or two about photos, which helps.

You don't actually have to be very visible in the photo if you manage to make it a talking point of sorts.

Interesting photos will make girls open you on tinder.

SpinPlates · 2016-07-03T21:24:28+00:00

I've been on Tinder since the beginning. Ive had 5000+ matches and ive only slept with 10 girls from tinder and I'm a tall, fit white guy with a strong jaw and blue eyes. Its just a validation Machine for women

TheElite3740 · 2016-07-03T19:23:22+00:00

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appleisfine · 2016-07-03T19:22:17+00:00

Yea I have a similar experience. Only got like 3 phone numbers in a week, from like 5/10's, and one 3/10 was throwing herself at me.

I've been told when I dress well I'm an 8. Maybe it's my baby face.

EDIT: My tactic is to just get ripped and revisit Tinder in a few years' time when I have the body of a Greek demigod. I hear it becomes easy mode then.

slurmfactory · 2016-07-03T20:03:08+00:00

Ill help you tailor your profile if you want.

Kwantuum · 2016-07-03T21:50:26+00:00

I'm a mix Italian-Arab

This is your problem. As fucking dumb as it is, the prejudice against arabs in Europe is akin to the one against blacks in the US. If you want to use Tinder effectively you'll need very good photos and to make sure that you look very classy. No streetwear, no pictures in suburbs or any background that is even remotely associated with riffraff, that also means no picture with "the gang". Have the cleanest bio you can come up with, make it look like you're driven and trying to be successful. There was a post on the main sub recently about using Tinder when you're black, the guy was from the US but most of the advice applies to you.

I know it feels really unfair and you'd probably have way better success if you met all the girls instead of them just having to swipe but that's the sad reality, if you want to have success on Tinder you'll need to work way harder. Depending on your situation it might not even be worth the effort since you'd meet just as many hot women by going out.

returnofthemack2 · 2016-07-03T21:56:19+00:00

I don't even understand the obsession with Tinder. Go talk to girls everywhere you go and it's much preferable. Unless you're in the top ten percent of attraction, Tinder will work against you more than help. Fact.

v0rren · 2016-07-03T22:03:40+00:00

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GainzdalfTheWhey · 2016-07-03T23:05:09+00:00

Tinder is looks looks and looks, if you aint got it, you'll have a bad time.

Fuknmods · 2016-07-04T02:32:44+00:00

A lot of people talking shit about crafting a profile but why is no one mentioning that online dating is a womans game? Go get yourself outside and hit on real women insteaf of online pictures ffs.

Carpiem · 2016-07-04T08:58:36+00:00

year and half ago after my break up and I was kinda desesperate to meet women I installed a online app (in my city tinder is a small thing). I managed to get a date which I believe to be one of the most attractive girls I saw in this dating app.

She had a really cute face but her body not so much. Once I start pulling girls IRL I immediatelly deleted my online profiles and I really doubt I will ever out one again.

Get this straight in your head! If you want hot girls you have to get your hands dirty! Do you even know how many guys message girls on tinder or on facebook?

One time one plate showed me how many friends requests and how many guys messaged her online. Hundreds! In online I'm competing with hundreds of guys with no game. In night game my competetion is way less and the reward is way higher. The dowside? You have to got balls!

2016-07-05T01:46:22+00:00

Look into Tinder elo ratings, it could be relevant (from blinding swiping uggos), and also you might just have bad pictures

v0rren · 2016-07-03T20:20:23+00:00

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fuzzyface1980 · 2016-07-03T19:25:16+00:00

I'm in Germany for now. I don't go to WWII concentration camps to have a good time. Are people capable of horrendous shit? Yes.

Can I go to a bar and have a fucking decent time please? Yes I can. You do that too. Have a decent time with people. Fuck these cognitive bias that keep you from awesome shit. You in the anger phase or fear phase?

MyTrapsCauterize · 2016-07-03T20:01:29+00:00

I'm kinda proud to be mixed.

This is the dumbest shit I have ever heard. You're proud of something you had no control over and just happened to you 9 months before you were born?

Indicates a mindset issue.

Title	Using tinder is so fucking depressing
Author	v0rren
Upvotes	6
Comments	37
Date	July 3, 2016 7:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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