She clears her chat history often

Has some odd chats with men.

Treats me like shit. Doesn't give me gifts (not even on bday), doesn't show appreciation for my gifts or for me.

Wants to boss me around and gets mad if I don't comply. One time she got very upset because I didn't turn the fucking bedroom lights off. Whenever I refused to do her whims drama would follow.

Gets angry at petty stuff. Be it going to uni together with my dad, making a comment she doesn't agree with, watching a program she doesn't like (Rick&Morty).

She is not the girl I began the relationship with. That girl would do anything for me. She wanted to understand my life, join me in my hobbies, be in the good side of my family. That girl only lives in my memory, she was never real, I started a relationship with someone I barely knew and I made up facts about her. The real girl tried to achieve my expectations, but failed and it is not her fault, she is who she is. She also didn't knew me and created expectations for me I also couldn't achieve (several jobs, hard working provider) - This isn't me, while I can maintain a job I don't see it as part of my identity, but this is who I am.

My blame in this was looking for a relationship with someone I barely knew. As the months passed my expectations were slowly shattered (and her`s as well). Leading to uninterest, lack of affection and infidelity.

There was no trust from her. Trust is a fundamental pillar in a relationship. At first jealousy played a part in cracking this pillar - I felt uncomfortable when she was with or talked about her only gay male friend, but I never checked her phone or let her know how uncomfortable I was. She, at the first sign of another girl, would get desperate, wanting to know who they were, what they meant to me, what we talked about (most of the time I had to show her) and demand I stop talking with them (and I did - which was completely wrong).

I don't trust her now. For more than 2 years I never distrusted her, even in my worst moments of doubt I would rethink the situation and trust her, I never caved in to searching her phone, I never accused her, I never demanded to know where she was or with who. After the mistreatments started and I felt more and more angry, frustrated and sad at the way she treated me and how I was so weak and uncapable of standing up to her bullshit I knew I couldn't trust her and so I looked for advice elsewhere (redpill). Now I'm certain I can't trust this woman, she lies, she gaslights, she looks for attention from other males, whatever position I occupied in her mind a year ago I don't anymore and never will again.

There was cheating (among major red flags). Texting males while I'm away, clearing chat history, not doing anything for me, angry at anything I do. There is no interest anymore, only a perceived obligation. It doesn't matter if there was carnal cheating involved, the emotional cheating is much worse (seeking validation from males that aren't you). I don't blame her, this is just common and natural for any person who isn't interested in his or her current partner to seek the feels in someone else. But I wasn't cheating phisically or emotionally, I had many chances, but I didn't take any of them. I still follow some of my core beliefs, which among them are always be honest and don't cheat. Because I value myself I want a partner that has the same principles I have and I don't and won't stay in a relationship with someone who I don't think has the same principles. This is why knowing the person before committing is important and I might had avoided this situation if I had took some time to know her.

She gaslights. Gaslight is emotional abuse. My gut feelings told me something was off, after she knew I checked her recent odd chat with a male (because any and all chat with males was coveniently deleted) she confronted me and after I told her what I knew, she, instead of reassuring me and calming my nerves, used the opportunity to call me jealous, to make me feel insecure, an asshole for checking her phone, said I should have confronted her (with little to no information) instead of hiding It from her. I felt weak, insecure, like shit, I began apologizing and talking a lot, while she remained cold and silent. In hindsight I know what she did was a tactic to paint her as the good victim and me as the insecure asshole and she wouldn't have managed to do It If I had left first.

So, to all brothers out there, I'm breaking up with her tonight, am I being rash?

Edit : I ask this because today was hell, my mind keeps hamstering the issues away and I needed to hear a more objective opinion. I also wrote all of this because I don't want to forget. I don't want to go back, but I can't stop this hamster in my head.

Edit2: Thanks everyone. I've followed trough with the break up. But I don't know why I feel so little, maybe it's going to get worse. I felt sad before the breakup and I still do, but at that moment I felt empty or as if I wasn't there like if I was watching as an observer. In my last relationships I felt broken the moment after the breakup, but now I just feel nothing. Time to improve myself and learn how to get and spin plates until I get to be with someone who deserves some of my time.