Verbally abusive dad

communistcontrolact · 2019-06-21T02:03:54+00:00

Call him a faggot

freakpowerparty · 2019-06-21T00:16:07+00:00

Yeah man...that’s clear cut verbal abuse and neither your mom or you deserve that...my suggestion is that the next time he says something to her...calmly tell him “do not talk to my mom like that”...if it escalates it escalates...but I have found in past experiences men like that are bully’s and cowards and cowards hate confrontation...good luck op...learn from this and break the fucking cycle.

millioneuroextreme · 2019-06-21T01:19:24+00:00

Don’t argue. Get through college first.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-06-21T00:45:09+00:00

Threaten to put him in a neglectful nursing home when he gets older.

And when he ends up asking a nurse for a warm glass of milk, he will be in for a shock.

send_it_for_the_boys · 2019-06-21T09:12:31+00:00

Me and my dad work on projects and cars and thing together and when something’s not going his way he loses his shit and throws things and at times has even messed up all the work I had done. I just ignore him and tell him I thought you were supposed to be my dad teaching me to not be a little girl, not vice versa.

ATRP2019 · 2019-06-21T05:39:51+00:00

Don't do the same thing when you're older. Break the cycle. Most people who are like that had a parent do the same thing, usually a lot worse.

The stats on domestic violence reflect my statement.

hazelstein · 2019-06-21T10:43:18+00:00

I don't know about that too much, but when I fuck up, my Dad used to call me out. I think it's alright as he is the elder, you should respect him as you respect your mother.But as far as him calling things to your mother, You can go and tell him politely and in a friendly respectable manner that you don't like it, you feel bad or something like that.

When you don't respect someone, the vibe is all over the place. He stuck around 18 years for you. You should be grateful not to feel like it's his duty. I am just saying this as when you will become a father, you wouldn't want your kid to think that you are an asshole. Kids do think like that because they are emotional.

For you, it might be a simple thing, but if I see the same thing being wrong and not how I want for 18 years even though I do everything, I think I might complain as well.You need to be more understanding of your father.Just A thought, Women do things to trigger you. They might be small but over time they seem like a big deal.
And Also remember a man is always open for criticism, its an art to tell someone they did something wrong without disrespecting them or making them feel bad.

Throw83736282 · 2019-06-21T13:42:24+00:00

Don't outshine the master (aka as your dad). But don't take his shit either, stand up for yourself.

Terdmuffin · 2019-06-21T04:05:57+00:00

These are tough battles because people like this lack the self awareness and empathy to even realize how they're acting. You're going to have a very difficult time changing his behavior. Focus on yourself and your own reactions to his behavior. Just get out of the household as soon as you can.

Title	Verbally abusive dad
Author	imtrynaclapnocap
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	June 21, 2019 12:09 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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