So I had a thing with a girl for 4 months. Pretty serious, she was older, early 30s and I am on my late 20s.
It fell apart but even when it was very good the first two months, I always felt that we met, we achieved greater intimacy\connection\bonding than last week, but we were back to base until next we meet. Or we only climbed a 10% of what we achieved during the time spent together.

TLDR : I always felt that I and her were “forgetting” the things we “achieved” the week before and we were back at performing again. The facades dropped only for some intimate moments. Why did this happen?

1)Did we both hide our core?
2)Was it because she was always a bit emotionally unavailable and generally unattainable, is this this answer?
3)Or is there an error in my handling?
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