I broke up with her 2 months ago because she had a drug and alcohol problem. Took her shit while she was visiting her family and left it at her grandmas.

Re-initiated contact 1 month ago after she moved to another city a 2 hour ferry away. We start talking and eventually it was like we were back together and nothing had changed except that we didn't see each other and didn't fuck. We'd talk on the phone twice a day and we'd cam and she'd make me cum on the phone, etc.

So she comes over last week and she's playing all hard to get about how awesome her life is and how well she's doing and how she's seeing some new guy. She brings some coke over too but I abstain because I don't do it and one of the reasons I kicked her out was because she was a party girl. End up having sex with her her until 5 in the morning. Probably one of the best dates we've ever had. Just getting along, etc. I ask her what she wants out of this and she says that she wants to "go with the flow." I drive her to the ferry and don't hear from her at all for about a week (and I never initiate contact - only she calls me/messages me on FB).

Next week she phones me and says she wants to come over for a few days. I accept. She takes the 2 hour ferry again, comes over, gets a little drunk and asks me if we can have sex before we go out. I start eating her out and she's starts talking about how the new guy she's seeing was eating her pussy and how her dog was trying to lick it too. It irks me and I lose my boner. I try to get it up but I just can't, tell her it must be the weed she gave me. The vibe isn't great. She picks up on this and asks if we can just go out and get a drink. I oblige.

We get drunk and the night goes well into the hours of the morning where we hop from bar to bar and she starts conversations with people and always lets them know that I am her ex-boyfriend who is trying to get her back and that she still loves me. We don't have sex for the duration of her stay even when I try to initiate (gives me lame excuses - "my body is sore," etc.) . When I drove her back to the ferry I haven't heard from her.

What does she want? She's 31, I'm 30, her new guy is 25 who she described as a spoiled rich boy that works as a cook. The first time we met she told me he had a small dick and she didn't like him that much. Told me she didn't want to get back together either. Is she keeping me on the backburner as a provider in case shit doesn't work out?

What do? I don't really want to get back together with her for a lot of reasons (she's still the same person she was when I broke up with her - drinks, smokes, parties, self-centered, self-entitled, just too crazy and too many problems) but she's really sexual, really hot, we get along real well and I do love her still even though a LTR with her will never work out.