I’m (23) in an exclusive relationship with a girl (23) for 5months. Things were going well (no drama, sex 2-3 times a week [dont live together]). But she started getting too comfortable saying no to sex as I made it seem like it was okay because I wanted to seem unaffected.

Now it is backfiring, we haven’t had sex in two weeks. She has denied me four times in the past 3 weeks. One because she wasn’t in the mood, second Bc we had sex twice the night before and the last two Bc she’s on her period and my parents were home (even though we have done that before).

After the second denial (two weeks ago) I started to apply dread. After I tried to intiate Thursday night when she first got her period I was rejected and withdrew attention and affection. She was annoyed and the next day she asked if we could talk.

She said how things have felt “different” last two weeks and wanted to know if we were still on the same page and if I still wanted to do “this” and see if anything was wrong or on my mind. She was clearly upset. One of the things she was thought could be bothering me was She said how she feels bad saying no to me for sex and she knows I get annoyed sometimes. I simply said I do get annoyed sometimes. I thought about saying how I’m tired of the sex denials but I know you can’t negotiate desire so I just kept a smile on my face and was mildly laughing saying how I didn’t notice things were different it’s just because we both have been very busy and I did want to continue doing this.

Last night we hung out and I initiated again, using the sex god method (still on her period but again we have had great sex on her period before) After some foreplay, I started to rub her pussy. She looked and smiled (I knew what that meant) and I got off her. She grabbed me and said “stop don’t do this again”. I withdrew affection that moment, then as she kept kissing me and holding me trying to comfort me. I didn’t touch her or kiss her the rest of the night except when I said bye. (I let her stay a little longer so I didn’t seem butthurt).

The sex denials have been killing me. I feel like shit now even tho I have a top 15% physique and consider myself a high value male. I hate the feeling that each time I intiate I will get denied and it is slowly but surely destroying my confidence. (Boners are rare and I have high testosterone).

Blackdragon blog emphasizes keeping women around for regular sex so I want to continue to do so. Although she is submissive most of the time, she never gives in when I want to have sex it’s always on her terms (I’ve never denied sex) i expect her to give me head if she’s on her period or something.

Our schedules have been reducing our sexual time together but it’s been two weeks since sex and I need it psychological. Like I said, we used to have sex on avg 2-3 times a week so I don’t know if it’s just because of poor timing with our schedules and I’m over-reacting or this is something that will persist.

We usually have sex in the mornings before I go to work ( I work late every other week) so since we have sexual time this week I figured I’ll wait after this week and if she denies just once I cut her off unless you guys think I’m overreacting.

However, I am starting to get so distraught I don’t even want to invite her over so I don’t even giving her the chance to deny me. I am being a beta bitch or what?

TL;DR: getting denied for sex. Cant tell if this is the start of a new trend or just a result of poor timing.