What should one focus on first when trying to improve themselves?

MrEiffel · 2018-05-22T09:49:09+00:00

In order of importance:

Sleep (7-8 hours a day, with the exact same rhythm)
Food (no junk, nothing processed)
Fitness (lift 3+ days a week)
Mind (read 1+ books a week)
Financial (get a job => career=> business)

Everything else will come naturally.

Thunderfin · 2018-05-22T05:53:33+00:00

Personally, I'd go:

financial / school
mental and spiritual, can be combined
social and physical can be done simultaneously

I think it's important to know one's priorities and have a clear mind before trying to "game", so to speak. Other things you can consider are extracurricular passions (picking up an instrument, learning a language, cooking, etc.) and reading to gain more knowledge (can be anything, from sports to philosophy).

abudun79 · 2018-05-22T06:33:06+00:00

No one on the internet can tell you that.

You should focus on whatever YOU have the greatest difficulties with or what YOUR biggest deficits are. And pick low hanging fruits immediately, you will have a direct benefit that will help you sustain in the more time consuming or more complicated improvements.

If you cannot figure that out, ask trusted friends or a brother.

JAAM510 · 2018-05-22T12:46:05+00:00

I agree with everything said above. You should be focusing on getting enough sleep every day, improving yourself physically(eating right and lifting), and stimulating yourself with books and other things you are interested in.

As for picking the lowest hanging fruit, you should absolutely start by cleaning your room first right now. I was listening to a podcast between Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson the other day and Mr. Peterson offered some insight on this. He advised that you want your room clean so that everytime you go in there, it tells you to be better than who you are.

So look around your room right now. Physically think of some small things you can do right now that will take less than 10 minutes to do. Start there and do it. I can personally guarantee that every time you go into your room now, you will notice how kept it is and that you made it that way. Let your own work inspire you consciously and subconsciously to be better. And when your room gets messy again (and it will), you will now notice this. Since you have been holding yourself to a higher standard by cleaning it before, you will be disciplined enough to take action and make sure the room stays clean again.

Start small and let your self discipline of this simple activity trickle into every aspect of your life. People aren't demigods. Those who are successful just understand the importance of doing little things every day to make them better in the long run.

Papi189 · 2018-05-22T11:49:32+00:00

I’d say health first, followed by financials

S_90_3 · 2018-05-22T12:37:05+00:00

That's really up to the individual, where are you lacking most? That's where I would start. Getting a good routine going and working out will help everything else though, you will feel better, mental condition and self esteem will improve. Spirituality is important to some people and not so much to others. Financially I'd say if you can afford to eat, live on your own, pay your bills, and drive a car you are doing well enough and should focus on yourself first, but again that's really personalized, are you in a job where you can easily move up? You can increase your earnings without sacrificing the rest of it. If you need more schooling or something to do what you want that might have to wait.

resnine · 2018-05-22T15:01:58+00:00

The first thing is sleep. Your exercise and diet can suck and you can still get by but when your sleep is off your whole life will not function properly. Fix your sleep first then work on all other aspects.

hbPUA · 2018-05-22T19:19:19+00:00

How would you rate each of your categories on a 1-10 scale? Start with the lowest to get it good enough. And keep your highest at maintenance. This is hard, since what you are good at , will be easier and produce more result.

Yet life is more fun if it is in balance. Harvey Weinstein could have been in a better position if he had improved his game. Although would he then been Harvey Weinstein?

And raising game from 4 to 10 might not even be possible. Maybe it could only go as high as a 6 or 7. Then you have reached good enough, and well above the average beta male and could use your other strengths such as looks and assets.

chadjugo · 2018-05-24T09:51:18+00:00

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Title	What should one focus on first when trying to improve themselves?
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Date	May 22, 2018 5:08 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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