What to do if you're genetically "beta"?

Gold_Leaf_Initiative · 2014-02-21T20:21:02+00:00

"I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas!!"

orographic · 2014-02-21T18:47:49+00:00

I know hit the gym gets parroted around here as a solution to most problems but it sounds like exactly what you should be doing. A muscular body looks way more masculine and alpha. If you look at before/after pics a lot of dudes faces look more masculine after getting swole too. Now that you are bigger and stronger than most men you won't be intimidated by them and your behavior changes to be more confident. Not only that, just looking the part of a strong alpha man makes everything you do look more confident.

radicaIcentrist · 2014-02-21T14:35:38+00:00

Squats and oats!

Seriously though you put too much emphasis on the physical. We're all dealt different hands in life so play to your strengths and stop letting your naturally weak points depress you.

"Lord, give me the strength to improve what I can improve, the serenity to accept the things I can't improve, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Hell, look at Obama. Not a physically imposing man at all. He's not the most alpha president we've ever had but you don't get to that position without being overwhelmingly alpha in general. Alphaness is about so much more than your face and body.

[deleted] · 2014-02-21T15:39:47+00:00

Stop crying like a little bitch and start improving yourself. You think we were all born perfect Alphas?

You think like a woman. The men who are better than you are better because they put a shitload of work into it. You can either keep lying to yourself that you're just a genetical beta or you do something about it.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-02-21T17:47:02+00:00

You're thinking of it as though it's a destination. You're saying, "I'm farther from the destination than others, and there's an ocean in between, so I'll never make it to the holy city."

Here's a little red pill truth for you: there is no holy city.

Instead, think of it as a path. Do the best you can. Go as far as you can. Your personal potential is your goal. That's all you can do, and it's all anyone can ever do.

You'll attract and keep more and higher-quality women than you would otherwise. You'll never get a supermodel. Sorry about that. But you'll get a better girl than you would have if you'd remained complacent. Another huge benefit is that you'll never be taken advantage of. Your life is going to be better; that's good news! Even though you'll never be George Clooney.

Just getting out there on the market without fear is a huge part of it. It's a numbers game for everyone who approaches women. We're in sales. Maybe a godlike "natural" is still only successful 50% of the time. You're talking yourself down, so let's assume hypothetically that your success rate would be 1/100, and improving yourself only raises that to 1/75. If you get out there and make 75 approaches, you're doing better than the guy with the 50% success rate that never left his house.

It's brutal though. You have to get your head in the right place so that you actually make those 75 approaches. You have to keep trying after 75 rejections - some of which may be harsh. You have to guard against bitterness so that when you meet the one out of 75 girl, you don't chase her away with negativity. You have to keep sight of your own value as a man so that when that 1/75 girl mistreats you, you have the spine to next her.

Good luck.

Hyooge · 2014-02-21T18:31:49+00:00

Very similar to me: boyish features, small bones, average height, I am pretty good looking (albeit in a young boy Justin Bieber type of way) but I still get a lot of attention because I learnt to carry myself in high regard. Just flat out stop looking at your weaknesses. At this point hype yourself up about everything you do and are. Seriously get to the gym too. I am by no means big. I am naturally smaller than a lot of my friends but in a fitted T-shirt I am much more aesthetically pleasing and I am eye catching because of the work I put in.

I milked the attention off how girls react to me to feed my own self esteem until I didn't need the validation off anyone anymore. Once you get a feeling that you are an attractive person you become confident in yourself and it only gets easier once you realise how far ahead of other men you are.

Fix your posture so you walk and stand with some purpose and confidence. When you put on some muscle, you automatically feel that you move with more weight and strength behind you. You don't need to be huge, but always strive for more.

Even though physicality is not what defines you, it is very good at giving you a backbone to push yourself in other areas of life. I now feel that I can challenge anyone (not to a fight but disagree with) and anything because I know I've challenged my weak little bitch genetics into becoming a guy with a bit of pride and confidence.

[This was me about 8 months ago] (http://imgur.com/8BRHO3l) and I've put on about 4 more kilos since then. I still get annoyed that I am not as big or strong as some of my friends but I have far more inner game and strength than they do, such that no amount of height or size will make them beat me with girls or dealing with other people.

Get good and improve yourself in one way and that'll attribute itself to everything else.

RoadieTrippin · 2014-02-21T16:56:09+00:00

Beta is a frame of mind. (I'll put myself out there for this)

This is me, looking physically Beta.

This, not so much

And again, not so much

I'm 5'5 130-160 depending on if I have a fight coming up. I'm no where near "Tall, broad shouldered, chizzled jaw" etc... But I can be a monster in physically "Alpha" terms. It doesn't mean anything.

If you're confident, it will come across. Alpha is a mind set. Look at Peter Dinklage. He's how tall? Like 3-4ft tall? And he acts alpha as fuck. (At least in his GOT character). Look at snoop dog, seriously. Snoop has no physically alpha traits about him. But he's Alpha as fuck. Most people would break snoop dog in half in a fight, but most people also wouldn't try.

Don't be so insecure about your appearance.

(I apologize for the trying to hard pics from yesteryear with my tough guy stare lol)

Edit: Wow... TRP used to be about discussion. Not just downvoting and running like a scared little bitch. Man up and state your argument, punk asses.

dazed111 · 2014-02-21T16:44:58+00:00

what is referred to in the manosphere as alpha is not a look but a set of behaviours.

were all gonna make it brah.

Title	What to do if you're genetically "beta"?
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Date	February 21, 2014 2:21 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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