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[–]thiasus0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It's impossible to give you a meaningful answer because you don't give us enough to work with. What kind of convo preceeded her silence? the answer to that will dramatically alter the advice.
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[–]94redstealth3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
stop talking and start setting up dates
chit-chat will kill you every time
[–]thiasus2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Engaging in small talk over texts means that your time and attention aren't valuable and that you aren't communication to further your aims but just because you value the interaction, i.e. you value her attention more than your time. All of this says "low SMV", which turns women off.
The TRP rule of thumb to not fuck up texting is always the same:
Use texting only to set up in-person meetings. You can't fuck a girl over text, you need to meet her to do that so that's why you text. That's it. Search /r/TRP for countless examples of how to do it in practice. This is a good annotated one, notice how the guy is relentless in pursuing his logistical objective and does not engage in idle small talk.
[–]1RedPillJax0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I usually throw out one last hail mary text if it's gone pretty dark - literally something to the effect of make or break - because in my mind, it's dead already.
Something a little more aggressive, openly sexual, and immediate. Aka, 'come over, right now" at 10 PM on a Friday.
I've actually had this work out more times than you'd think - but the point is that the lead has already gone cold. If you're doing the work to get out there and meet chicks, this should be just one of the many potentials you have on the go - so there's no stress to making a dead connection somehow more dead. You put the paddles on it one last time to shock it back to life, but if she's not immediately willing to meet up (to avoid you falling into beta orbiter territory) soft next. No contact from that point forward unless she imitates, and it's heading in a direction you want to with some urgency.
[–]Funk54daba -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Send them one last message explaining your intent to cut contact if they don't respond. You can write something that's inviting but still gets the point across. I've had a couple girls come back around after that message was sent. Women are weird with phones, I don't put too much stock into the dynamics of text messaging etiquette but at some point you have to get down to business.
[–]awkwardtouching 1 points1 points1 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Can you give an example? You should avoid ultimatums - but carefully phrased this could work.
[–]Funk54daba -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Something like, "I'd like to get to know you better and I'm available Friday evening. If you're not interested, let me know so I can focus my time elsewhere."
[–]awkwardtouching 7 points7 points7 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
This is terrible. Don't say that to a woman, ever.
edit: Let me give a better answer rather than juts shit on you.
Instead of opening up with some horrible line that makes you sound desperate (real men just go focus their time elsewhere, they don't need to WARN women they're going to do that), ask her on a date.
"Grab a drink with me tonight. 830 at Bar."
[–]1RedPillJax-1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link
ask her on a date. "Grab a drink with me tonight. 830 at Bar."
Ding ding ding, we have a winner. Most importantly, it's immediate, and you're not asking - you're instructing. She doesn't have to go along with it, but at least you're giving it a one last black and white opportunity for a yes or no answer.
[–]Funk54daba -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You can be more hardcore about it, but I haven't found it necessary. There's more than one way to word things. I could make the same argument about being desperate when insisting on a date the night-of...but at the end of the day it's just a text message and they'll respond if they want.
[–]awkwardtouching0 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
If you truly believe they will just respond "if they want" no matter what you say, then just forget about TRP because honestly one of the core tenets of this mindset is that how you act, and what you say DO matter.
[–]1RedPillJax0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Send them one last message explaining your intent to cut contact if they don't respond.
Bad idea. You can't negotiate attraction or threaten them into wanting you. If they wanted to keep in touch, they would've - you're just the dude making it weird by giving her ultimatums over what's probably a pretty casual dating situation. It's like trying to kill a fly in your room with dynamite - overkill, messy, and rarely the best way to go about it.
[–]Funk54daba -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think it's perfectly fine when stressing the fact you're making one last attempt. You're just stating your intentions and then you follow-thru. Nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't have suggested it if it I hadn't gotten a couple flings out of it. I wouldn't refer to any text messaging situation as "overkill" or "messy" because it's just a stupid text message, basically the lowest form of communication.
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