When to Stop?

zigg-_-zagg · 2015-08-17T14:40:00+00:00

What helped me to cut down drinks :

1) Drink like a gentleman. Order a peg of whisky (neat) / Cognac and sip like a gentleman . This shows you are in control . Don't order mixers or bullfrog/Long Island , those are easy to gulp down . Limit tequila / vodka shots as they further fuel the need to drink more .

2) Reflect on the costs of drinks in bars/clubs & check whether it was worth paying the price .

3) keep on reminding yourself while drinking that is it worth wasting the next day with a bad hangover?

4) what are you trying to prove by drinking so much ? For validation or the cool factor ?

5) what would a person achieve by drinking so much? A pat on the back or someone saying "way to got ,BRAH!" .

needless_pickup_line · 2015-08-17T14:39:58+00:00

There's a difference between giving 110% and "chasing the night".

Giving 110% is good. It means you're not cutting corners and allowing yourself to realize your full potential. You don't half-ass your workouts, studies, etc. Chasing the night is bad. Instead of allowing things to progress naturally, you awkwardly force them and end up unsatisfied or even worse off than before.

Giving 110% means doing that last set of lifts even though you're tired after work and just want to go home and relax. While it may feel temporarily good to cut it short, you'll ultimately feel better knowing you pushed yourself.

Chasing the night means adding too much weight too quickly on an exercise because you're impatient. It might be an ego boost to move that weight, but with the shitty form and extra strain you're only harming your body.

Note how both situations deal with impatience. One is impatience to receive gratification, the other is impatience to achieve progress/results. And while every scenario isn't going to have such clear options, especially when it comes to partying and going out, if you honestly examine yourself and your motivations you can determine the best use of your time.

redpillcynic · 2015-08-17T15:17:07+00:00

You need to develop a confidence. I'd have this prince persona, as they call it in method acting. Would you hurry if you were royalty? You'd have all the time in the world

alreadyredschool · 2015-08-17T10:39:08+00:00

More self reflection

thor_away92 · 2015-08-17T12:26:55+00:00

Keep up your current path and you learn patience inevitably. I did this with acid, would eat too much too soon and trip so much ass I can't see 3 inches infront me. Your impatience is just going to continually fuck you. So all you're really doing is rushing to failure.

This is a decision you are making and a decision you control.

Why are you deciding the quickest route to failure?

[deleted] · 2015-08-17T15:10:03+00:00

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trpftw · 2015-08-17T17:45:45+00:00

blew my chances with possible plates because went full in either to escalate her or seduce her.

Of course without video evidence we can't tell what went wrong. But the decision to escalate was not wrong. It was how you escalated or when you escalated. That is what you should give 110% to improve.

You might be doing this in an awkward manner. You might be doing it in a manner where you shouldn't have done this at this moment in time or it's too early in the date. Or it's not in a bar setting or something. Or you escalate but then you keep doing it instead of backing off after a small taste.

Play chess to develop your patience.

OscarWhisky · 2015-08-17T17:07:00+00:00

Give 110% to not doing that.

Title	When to Stop?
Author	Hawadleh
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	August 17, 2015 9:55 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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