Why are daddy issues a red flag?

slamdgti · 2020-05-16T23:43:01+00:00

All good comments. I just out of a BPD relationship but didn’t know until after. If they need constant validation, affection and texting. Needy as fuck and you can never do enough. It’s gonna feel very one sided. Social media is like everything for them. I thought I could waist some time and not catch feelings. These women will emotionally destroy you. Don’t even mess with them at all it’s not worth it

AboveAll2017 · 2020-05-17T01:41:05+00:00

When a girl grows up with an absent father or a father that is absent she develops a strong avoidant personality. However girls by nature have anxious attachment styles and are wired to para-bond with one male. While guys can fuck many girls and have no psychological scaring. So when a girl develops an avoidant personality she quickly burns out her ability to para bond because she self destructs relationships early in life due to her attachment style. She chases guys who don’t give two fucks about her and gives them everything in an attempt for them to notice her, including sex, similar to as she would do with her dad. But the problem is her dad never gave her affection, so as soon as the guy hints any affection she will leave the relationship because it makes her uncomfortable. The problem is she is chasing something that is impossible to get. She thinks she wants the close intimacy of some asshole that doesn’t give two shits about her but in reality she wants the chase because the chase mimics the same situation she had with her dad. So while chasing emotionally unavailable men is logically hurting her it’s psychologically reliving and comfortable. And because of this she get ran through like a high school track before even receiving her high school diploma. Before she’s 18 she will have all sorts of nasty things done to her by the entire high school basketball team, coaching staff, local celebrities, neighbors, some fat guy who she meet on vacation in Miami, anyone. Because she programmed to like men who don’t like her .. so almost every guy. She’s completely unaware of her inability to para bond and learns to get what she wants by being extremely manipulative. The sex will be god sent and she will make you feel like a king but there is no way in hell she will be loyal. It’s psychologically impossible for her to be loyal, in effect any signs of intimacy and she will be gone.

TLDR: Top tierf when it comes to sex, maybe a plate of clean, BUT NEVER an LTR

How to spot a daddy issues girl: tats, birth control implant on arm, wears vans, roast beef pussy, almost no female friends, little to no make up, “I only sleep with 5 guys”, has tinted windows, her instagram is only her artwork, charming and cool but ugly random emotional outbursts, depressed, asks if you have been tested but let’s you go raw on the first date, has sex with another guy before you guys even get to a second date.

Also if you do spin a daddy issues girl as a plate you have to wear a condom or try to catch them early in their downward spiral.

mr4kino · 2020-05-16T22:22:24+00:00

The father figure gives a girl logical reasoning. If not here, it's just pure chaos of emotions. Hence the entitlement, lies, me, me and me. Usually they end up cluster B personalities. Edit: when I say the father figure I mean a real man, not a beta slave. This might be an even worse woman growing up: full of resentment for men (kids knows when a parent doesn't protect them to please the other half).

2020-05-16T21:32:20+00:00

Constant never ending attention seeking that is so engraved into their psyche freud couldn’t help them.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-05-16T22:42:46+00:00

Manipulative and desperate for male attention. She is 99% guaranteed to cheat on you or seek attention from other men the second you exit her line of vision. Or she’ll get too attached and try to get revenge after you break up.

GayLubeOil · 2020-05-17T00:42:14+00:00

They don't have a realistic model of masculintity because no one modeled masculintity for them and are constantly disappointed

metalzforbreakfast · 2020-05-17T00:04:35+00:00

You can't really understand it until you date one lol lesson learned on my part

wyota · 2020-05-16T21:41:46+00:00

I had a red pulled history teacher in my senior year of high school. The last thing he said to us on our last day of senior year was “Bitches be tripping and they are gonna it’s your fault, and run from girls with no father figure. They are the ones who will smash your car, fake pregnancies, and accuse you of rape.” Best life advice I was given in highschool.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-05-16T22:33:28+00:00

Bad psychological relationship with the first man in her life = No chance for you

Done.

alfred311 · 2020-05-16T23:59:17+00:00

They dont appreciate what you are doing to them, cheat on you, very clingy, they will ghost you and if you dont chase them, they will blow up your phone. Thats the reason i deactivated all my social media accounts.

fatihcoskuny · 2020-05-17T02:50:48+00:00

Half of them will be looking for a father in you, other half will be looking to avenge their mother. Both are problematic.

WIA20XX · 2020-05-16T23:40:39+00:00

Daddy Issues are poorly defined on this sub.

But if she can't love, honor, obey, and respect her father - the man who gave her life, fed her, protected her - then she won't be able to give that to you.

And loving, honoring, obeying, and respecting her husband is the cornerstone of the relationship.

ivanbxng · 2020-05-16T22:21:03+00:00

I think they’re the most manipulative.

i-reddit-ck · 2020-05-17T05:09:02+00:00

My ex. A BPD. Parents divorced when she was 6. Her mom cheated, dad turned gay. Her step dad molested her at 13. Fucked up shit. I came in all blue pilled and tried to “help” her. I’m still recovering from all the mental emotional damage she caused. LEAVE these type of women for the streets.

hedged6161 · 2020-05-17T00:16:58+00:00

Ask her: "How do you feel about your father? How is your relationship with him?"

If she says anything negative about her father or he wasn't in her life growing up then she's not relationship material

kellykebab · 2020-05-17T00:59:49+00:00

If a woman never learns to trust or respect men at a young age, she will have a harder time doing so in her adult life. This means greater potential for disloyalty and deception, more challenges to your frame, more thrill seeking and self-destructive behavior, and less emotional bonding.

You also can't discount the possibility that it wasn't the absent father who caused the woman to turn out poorly, but that instead, the woman simply shares her father's irresponsible, low-trust genes and that her shitty behavior is inherited and not environmentally determined.

afoolforfools · 2020-05-17T02:01:22+00:00

I'm so glad you made this post. I just got out of a 3 year LTR. A few months after we started hanging out her dad died suddenly. Her parents divorced when she was like 6. Her mom remarried and had another daughter about 18 years younger than my ex. So she didn't have her dad around much growing up and was pretty much replaced in her mom's family.

She was recently divorced and started dating when we met. She was seeing a couple guys as well as myself. One guy was her main. She would tell me how he was threatened by me. Soon she dropped him and took me full time. She would tell me how crazy this guy is. He even cornered her at a Halloween block party. My ex's best friend was visiting at the time and told me she deserved this, that she was putting it off. I let her deal with it and did my own thing and found her later.

We dated for about 3 years. I was really happy for most of it. Last fall I realized my mom is a narcissist and I grew up in a toxic family. It hit me hard. I finally understood everything I never could understand. Why I struggled with so many things in life. I was in a spiral for a couple months. She broke up with me because of it. She lost her attraction for me, I was no longer her cure. I was putting attention on myself, trying to heal and grow. It took a lot of time but I knew I had to face this and see it through.

A month after we split we started hanging. Over the weeks she would give me less and less. I wanted to get back together. Cuz im an idiot. She came over for my birthday. Then she basically ghosted for over a week. We live in the same neighborhood. I got home last Saturday night and saw her leaving her building with a guy. I knew I was done. In her eyes and in my own mind.

Went over next day to get my spare key. She saw me night before. Told me she's been seeing "that one for about a week." i know she's lying but it doesn't matter. I told her, "We aren't talking. Feels like it's it. No need to drag it out. Goodbye Ex." And I left.

So she repeated the cycle. She lost her attraction to me, found the next one, slowly dropped me, and she's onto her next distraction. She would text me, snap me, insta message me, we would have 6 different convos going. I always knew she was a little immature and needed lots of attention. The first real chunk of time in our relationship I didn't give her that attention, she bailed. I learned a lot of good hard lessons. I'm not going to date for a while. With quaratine I'm going to keep healing and growing as a man. I have a lot of work to do so I don't end up in these situations anymore.

If they can't be there for themselves, they won't be there for you.

Aesthetik_1 · 2020-05-17T06:22:22+00:00

They are just a mess and give you the biggest headache out of all women out there.

Unstable, addicts, broken people. Once you really get to know them and do some digging you’ll find a lot of atrocities. They are charming and display a great personality but it is all facade to ensure you are there for her. If you aren’t, say due to work or other things, you will see her other side. Lying without remorse, twisting facts, no loyalty, no perception of honorful behavior, fucking almost all their male friends even if they’re not attractive, for more attention or to get back at someone else.. Not a hint of realizing they have done something bad, in fact they twist it to make it your fault instead.

Plate them yes, if you can handle them. But don’t ever make any long term plans with them, you will walk out disappointed

wyota · 2020-05-17T01:07:07+00:00

If there were more single fathers, would mommy issues be just as prevalent? And would they manifest the same way or differently? I wonder.

2020-05-17T01:25:23+00:00

Like how we subconsciously look for traits in our mothers in the women we date, women do the same thing with men and their dads. So if the girl really does have "daddy issues" she's looking for a real piece of shit and is gonna act out whenever she wants attention.

The thing is, not all women have "daddy issues" as much as ppl wanna think they do. Daddy issues is like if the guy like, beat her or was an alcoholic or never gave her attention. Not just that the girl was talking shit on him.

shyrix · 2020-05-17T01:38:51+00:00

I love girls with daddy issues

TheFastCat · 2020-05-17T02:45:02+00:00

They crave male attention if they have daddy issues. At least that's my experience.

ProFriendZoner · 2020-05-17T03:23:58+00:00

Add to a lot of the responses that she is going to try to fix the daddy issues through you. It is perpetual.

slamdgti · 2020-05-17T05:35:53+00:00

Very involved actually but she couldn’t say I love you to him. He’s very strange but seemed nice

2020-05-17T10:34:15+00:00

I dated two girls with daddy issues. Both were really needy and insecure. Addicted to social media and make drama out of nowhere.

Vloneturtle · 2020-05-18T08:45:52+00:00

I Can relate to this. Had to deal with my first BPD girl recently and it was such a redpill life lesson.This lesson made me respect the RP more of course.
Unfortunately, most of the times, these women are mostly diagnosed with BPD.

Seems that a lot of us went through the same face in life an realised how dark female nature actually can be. Stay strong each one of you and never forget why we started this journey and rise up.

wyota · 2020-05-17T01:31:34+00:00

It's more likely to be genetic. A guy who is a bad father due to his mildly sociopathic tendencies will pass on his mildly sociopathic tendencies to his daughter. I really doubt that a lack of a father or a beta father would cause a woman to be be promiscuous or literally alter her sex drive but she might be extremely clingy if she had no father. It's mostly just defective genes.

Title	Why are daddy issues a red flag?
Author	hfyxythrowayway232
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Date	May 16, 2020 9:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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