Why does her cheating upset you?

GreenPiller · 2017-08-31T16:40:46+00:00

Cause it hurts my ego and once he fucks her it's over. She wont look at me the same. She's basically nuking the relationship

fakeplastictrees87 · 2017-08-31T15:25:40+00:00

Until you understand all of them want subconsciously cheat, then it will bother you, because you think you have been rejected. They never love you in the first place, they love your assets and how you make them feel at that moment. We are animals, and we want to fuck as much different partners as possible. Society made us think we own person, but we don't. I wouldn't care if they cheat etc, even if having a child if I haven't had to pay 50% of my stuff(men in 99% cases earn much more than woman) or give away my child for her fuckery(plus alimony and child support).

I would just take child and find new woman, but since government law is against man automatically that's what does bother me. Her cheating not much, if I don't have child and married.

zndas92 · 2017-08-31T15:05:50+00:00

It doesn't. I hope she does I love being single and love when I get a drama free out.

raisins3142 · 2017-08-31T19:08:00+00:00

You don't have to explain every preference.

Why does dog shit smell bad? I mean can you navel gaze a reason.

Well I can tell you right now. Shit carries germs so we evolved to avoid it. That happened by us not liking it's smell or anything about it.

Same thing with cheating. It is bad for you when your wife cheats on you. We know that on such a deep level it is unconscious as well.

This sounds like some weird cuck troll question.

quicklogaccount · 2017-08-31T16:57:15+00:00

You used a good word there. Upsets me. There's a rational point.

She has asked from me a lot more than I have asked from her when we became exclusive. She asked me to refrain from making an advance on all the fuckable women that show me openness and to play a very important role in my welfare. I've asked her to refrain from engaging men above me (that's a lot more restrictive than fuckable) and to play a much minor role in her welfare.
Her ability or inability to play the role she requested to play for my welfare weights a lot more than her ability to ignore other men, but the second task there is by far easier than the first one, so it's a very good guess that her failure in the second one predicts her failure in the first one as well.
We use this sort of reasoning all the time. If a question is too hard to answer we exchange it for an easier one. "Will she be a good partner?" becomes "Can she be loyal?".

And a probable biological one. We're probably biologically averse to spending resources on a woman that's sexually open to other men since it does effect our chances to survive and pass our genes along.

ThatOneDrunkUncle · 2017-08-31T19:47:14+00:00

It's Evo-psych. Our brains don't comprehend the idea of birth control so every man she has sex with decreases our odds of successfully reproducing. In reality a woman on BC can have sex with whoever and it has zero actual effect on us

setsuna0 · 2017-08-31T20:13:40+00:00

Maybe it's a pride thing?

I've never been cheated on but if I have I'd probably feel betrayed. Because I trusted said person. To acquire said trust isn't easy.

But, all in all I wouldn't be upset for long because that's just her playing herself.

Title	Why does her cheating upset you?
Author	sevenoreight21
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Date	August 31, 2017 2:53 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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