I cried a couple of times in front of my girl. I don't feel like it's a good idea, but letting yourself sob for a minute without getting emotional seems alright to me. This girl has been a 4 year long close friend of mine, and has supported me during my hardest times, where I was a frameless cunt, and I still kept her around. Now I got rock solid frame except for me feeling intense emotions, predominantly anger and deep sorrow. It sometimes manifests. I don't have nervous breakdowns - I presume that would be repulsive. Of course, she says she loves guys with emotions - which means she doesn't like robots. But I don't think she means that she wants a whiny son of a bitch who cries around and has a temper tantrum about everything. I think she wants a guy who is sensitive and receptive to the world but unfazed as in a pillar, a rock, a guy who can feel shattering grief but not break down.

Why is crying shunned in this community? Of course I wouldn't share my problems nor my emotions with a plate nor fwb. But a close friend or LTR??????

My crying is usually for "profound" reasons. Trauma, weltschmerz or intense emotions concerning the girl. I'm artistic and write music and poetry so it's always "deep" - chicks love that.

Why is it bad? I hope I didn't fuck up. I sobbed for a minute a couple of hours ago when we were separating. I got too comfortable with her so I stayed for longer instead of leaving before my emotions overflowed... It was too much for me, the last couple of times we had some emotionally devastating situations and I was her rock and completely unfazed.