Young man wondering about his future

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kingofpoplives · 2014-10-24T00:13:47+00:00

Do you have any interest in spirituality? It can help add deeper meaning to life, which it seems like you are struggling with.

I hate going to highschool it crushes my soul and half of it seems useless. Then I think about after highschool. Working like a slave 9 to 5 ? No way.

I went through a similar "revelation" when I was about to graduate college. You could call it a quarter life crisis, but the main theme was revulsion at the prospect of working 9-5 in some dull office job for the rest of my life.

All I can tell you is that life goes on. It may seem like a tragedy now, but you continue with life and things aren't so bad. You find meaning in other things, if not in your job. You have experiences, some good, some bad. Things happen that you never expected.

You come to accept that this picture of life that movies, tv, books, and other entertainment has created is just a fantasy. Real life is tedious, often painful, occasionally pleasant, and for the mass of humanity, not at all glorious or exciting in the way we are conditioned to dream for.

But it still goes on.

jacks_not_surprised · 2014-10-24T00:24:50+00:00

Do you know about programming?

keemar · 2014-10-24T02:45:47+00:00

If I was 15 and had the knowldege of theredpill Id play soccer professionally. Be a Defender and I know I could make it in the MLS and who knows where else... but thats what I would have liked to do.

Epicureanist · 2014-10-24T05:02:51+00:00

Do well enough in school to position yourself for entry into a good university and a good career, but don't let school dominate your life.

You're young. You don't have any loans, you have no kids to feed, no rent to pay, etc. Take advantage of your freedom. Hangout with friends, go to parties, etc. but don't let that become your life.

If parties and sex bores you along with most of life, there's always philosophy. Have you read L'etranger? I read it when I was your age (I'm 18 now) and it helped me. My feelings of apathy never went away, but the book really got me thinking.

Gold_Leaf_Initiative · 2014-10-24T08:50:42+00:00

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LineOfCoke · 2014-10-24T13:06:44+00:00

I'll tell you what they tell the tags, but with a little amendment for heterosexual men. It gets better if you work to make it better. Otherwise it doesn't get better and may actually get worse. The problem may or may not be with our society, that is irrelevant, because society will not change to accommodate the heterosexual male. You have to change yourself, in doing so you contribute to the gradual overall change in society. This is male privilege. We're not simply along for the ride, we are conductors. When we have problems we don't lay them at the feet of others. In doing so we affect our own trajectory and leave some small mark on the world around us. Women and lesser men will follow.

fnordsnord · 2014-10-24T17:49:29+00:00

Wow. Hugely open question.

First of all, raise your grades. Yeah, I know, it seems pointless, but it's not. Your grades in high school will determine the starting point for your post-secondary education. They will affect what college you go into and your spec if you go into the military. The process of getting your grades up will teach you the processes YOU learn best. Then, when you graduate, you will be prepared to learn in college, trade school, or in the military. (And THOSE grades DO count.)

Second, you're still growing. NOW is the best time to increase your health later in life. Strength training (weight lifting) will help shape your physique as an adult. Eat right. Lots of protein, some fat, lots of veggies. Avoid carbs (starches) and alcohol. (I know -it's fun, but the stuff is toxic and undermines your fitness effort.)

Third - Pursue adventure while you're young. If I had it to do over again, I'd get a shit job my Freshman year and work my ass off until graduation (allowing for atheletics). Then, instead of going straight to college, I'd take my savings and to to sailing school and get a job as a sailing instructor for a couple of years down in the British Virgin Islands.

But that's my idea of adventure. What's yours?

College REALLY isn't for everyone. Consider trade school. Nobody outsources their plumber to India. Consider a hitch in the military, and take advantage of the training offered there.

You've got loads of options.

Oh. And debt. Consumer debt is the life killer. Do NOT get a credit card until you graduate from High School. When you do, do NOT put more on it than you can pay off at the end of the month. I'm STILL dealing with that shit.

Title	Young man wondering about his future
Author	YukariTakeba
Upvotes	11
Comments	18
Date	October 23, 2014 11:26 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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