*No oneitis *Maintained frame whole time *Didn’t give a fuck attitude, was confident *the entire time I never made her do anything she didn’t want to do, My focus was making her feel safe the whole time. I understand that you have to be confident, and escalate, but if she says no it means no and I made sure she understood that I had that vibe the whole time she was with me. *im a social butterfly, I can talk to anyone, I talk to strangers on a daily basis, maintain strong eye contact/ and am great at initiating conversation, I’ve done a ton of cold approaches, but to be honest, the last time I was with a girl on a date or hanging out 1on1 was 2-3 years ago, I didn’t focus on girls at all, I didn’t go to the bars or use dating apps. I got a couple girls numbers in public since then, a few at the gym too, but they never texted back. I feel like I have pretty high SMV, I make good money with my online business selling dog treats, I’m 6’3, 230 lean, handsome as fuck, confident etc. I’m saying this stuff because other people have told me, (people other than my mom and dad lol) been told I’m really funny, and fun, by a lot of women actually, have always gotten compliments on my eyebrows and athletic build.

I can tell she enjoyed herself, but I was planning on close fucking, if I don’t hang out with her again then whatever, there’s a million fucking girls out there but whatever

So i swiped up on her Facebook story and said I love that band (it was bad religion she was listening to) Then we probably exchanged like 20 texts about random bullshit over a course of 2 motnhs. Two weeks ago I told her we should get coffee sometime she said yeah that sounds like fun Then I invited her over to smoke weed, and play Mario kart on my gamecube She said omg I’m so down She comes over, we smoke, then we go inside and Then I put on a movie on Hulu, 3 mins in I grabbed her and she came up on me cuddling on the couch. Then like 30 seconds later she said I wanna see you play the piano so I said ok let’s go, then I taught her how to play piano and then at one point she said I think I’ve had enough for today (I was thinking I’ll just hang out with her and offer her to spend the night and escalate from there again) then we went back to watching the movie, and we were just kind of conversating, idk if I did the right thing by doing that and not getting her to cuddle again and going from there, but another thing too is that she didn’t know the whole time that my parents were on vacation, so maybe she was thinking about if they were to come home while we were fucking around but idk.. the whole time, I wasn’t trying to force anything, just flow with things, And then at one point she said I think I’m gonna go Then I said Ur welcome to spend the night my parents are on vacation and have the house to myself. She just said umm and didn’t say a response and then we talked for like 20 more mins and she said yeah I think I’m just gonna go home I have to wake up for going to the airport to pick up her sister or some shit, then I said no worries and then we conversated for another 20 mins and then she finally left and she said I’ll see you soon. I just said yeah sure cool pretty much. Let me know if I did anything wrong I can learn from please. I definitely know if she wanted to fuck she would have spent the night but she chose not to so idk. I’m just not gonna text her now and wait for her to txt me. Idk, maybe I wasn’t confident enough or have the right frame. I’ll be honest, before she came I felt a little anxious, felt like I didn’t have the right mindset but I still told my self not to worry she’ll come over we’ll chill she’ll spend the night after I escalate and smash, also, I physically felt like shit too, tired, sore throat, headache, little hit of nausea, I feel like that fucked me up too. This was the only night it would have worked at my parents house because this my only night to myself Personally I feel like the main takeaway I got was not her being aware that we had the house to ourselves, I feel like it could have gone differently if she knew that when we cuddled, or maybe I went into the cudddling too early, we hung out for like 3 hours, and we cuddled ten minutes into hanging out. And she didn’t know we had the house to ourselves until like 30 mins before she left.. I feel like my weakness I need to work on is escalation, after my past experiences.. Did I do the wrong thing by saying ok instead of “in a little bit” when we were cuddling and she told me she wanted to see me play the piano? Did I do the wrong thing by not escalating again to cuddling after she said umm and didn’t give a response to spending the night? Just want to identify what I did wrong so I can learn. Maybe I didn’t set a sexual frame.. “Many pitfalls and last minute resistance occur when a guy who is seen as non-sexual suddenly tries to make himself sexual; it is unbelievable and abhorrent to women.” Idk 🤷🏽‍♂️

TLDR hung out for 3 hours didn’t get to smash