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How to get better at dates?

September 23, 2021

Recently I have been doing well at banging girls the same night from bars/clubs. I am over 6 foot and on steroids so I have high SMV which makes it easy for me to attract girls. However when going on dates with girls I seem to do really bad. Part of it is that I haven’t gone on enough dates but I end up not enjoying the date and the conversation feels forced.

I enjoy going out on the weekends with my friends and talking to girls but dates feel boring and I am not able to bang girls I go on dates with. However I really want to get better at dates but not sure where to start. Are there any good resources/date structure to go over. My first date is always 1-2 drinks at a bar across the street from my apartment. After we finish our drinks I invite the girl to have another drink in my apartment.

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Title How to get better at dates?
Author Defiant_Mess5346
Upvotes 5
Comments 5
Date September 23, 2021 8:55 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
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[–]whhoa 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You getting nervous is a sign that you have the wrong mindset. She should be nervous bout meeting you, not the other way.

Think about how boring she probably is, and how bad her shit smells if you need to. Nothing to be nervous about at all, just enjoy yourself after that.

I also pretend they are one of my good buddies, and this makes it easier getting physical/playful with them, as gay as that sounds lol!

If your mindset is fixed, you wont need a guide. Just my 0.02

[–]Defiant_Mess53462 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

Appreciate the advice my mindset is definitely a problem. However I still have a hard time enjoying the date and conversation. I think I just need to have a more relaxed attitude and focus on self amusement

[–]GunzBlazein180 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

That’s because you don’t care about the date/conversation you just care about fucking her. Am I wrong? When your out with your boys do you feel awkward/nervous? No, so why do that around her.

[–]MusicgoonV2 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Look bro, you being on steroids has nothing to do with your SMV. That's stupid.

You have to find ways to be interesting and flirty. The idea of ,"game", is a social interaction. People play games to have fun.

If you're not having fun, your focus is off. Go to do things you like and you'll be around like minded people.

Practice conversations with everyone you see.

If you have access to YouTube look up ,"charisma on command", that channel has great videos about social skills.

Keep pushing forward and practice, practice practice....

[–]DWS33_ 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

the more dates you have the more you’ll get better.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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