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Quick advice needed regarding person I’m dating

January 13, 2022

Been casually seeing this girl for a couple months now. We had “the talk” which was brought up by her that she wants to remain casual which is fine because I’m dating other women and spinning plates as well but she has been my primary casual partner.

That being said, she’s been away for a week or so visiting family in a different state I haven’t really bothered to text her but part of me thinks I should - do I reach out to her and see how her trip has been or wait for her to contact me? I just don’t want to appear needy so your advice is much appreciated.

Thank you in advance!

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Title Quick advice needed regarding person I’m dating
Author jaycutlerfridgerator
Upvotes 3
Comments 6
Date January 13, 2022 4:26 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/quick-advice-needed-regarding-person-im-dating.1096409
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[–]themostgianthorse 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy Link


She brought up the talk and stated she wants to remain causal. Great!


“I enjoy sex with you and am keeping my options open.”

Take away?

Enjoy sex. Wear condom. Nothing more. Nothing less. Ask her how her trip was when you meet back up.

[–]jaycutlerfridgerator[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Cool appreciate the response. So should I just let her reach out to me when she’s back or hit her up next week? Are you saying I should hit her up to see how her trip is?

[–]themostgianthorse 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No. I am saying when she comes back in town and meets up with you, ask her how her trip was.

It’s your call. Either way isn’t a make or break but I want to point out that you stated you “think you should” reach out to her. You are feeling this way after she in womanese said “you don’t need to do dating/LTR/exclusive things with me.”

Based solely on your language in this post, it sounds as though you are or are beginning to become more invested than she is. Some food for thought.

[–]jaycutlerfridgerator[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah for sure I think you’re right. I’ll pull back in the meantime and chirp at other girls in the meantime. You think that’s the right approach?

I’m probably over thinking - for context I’ve been in the game for awhile I’m 30 and live in a major city so I’m pretty experienced in the “game” so to speak.

I really appreciate your insight man

[–]themostgianthorse 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yehp! That’s the right approach.

I’m 36 am also guilty of over thinking sometimes. Happens to most of us!


[–]BadKristi 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow. You’re 30 years old, and you have to ask a stupid question like this? Y’all are such a bunch of loser “wanna-be real men” who will remain losers for the rest of your lives. I know SO many women who are more of a man than any of you will ever be. Grow up and make some decisions on your own…they may turn out to be stupid decisions, but at least you can say you had enough courage to make them on your own.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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