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What's so bad about being the "bad guy" when a relationship ends?

Durantysonali
July 13, 2022
2 upvotes
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I broke up with my ex over text and I was kind of cold. She went crazy and sent me more than 50 messages begging me for closure and I left her on read.

The truth is she was an horrible gf and didn't deserve any niceness at the end nor closure/validation. But now I'm the "bad guy".

And now researching on reddit seems like being the bad guy is the worst thing you can be after a relationship ends. Why?

Should I had faked being nice when I dumped her and gave her closure so I don't end up as the bad guy?

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Title What's so bad about being the "bad guy" when a relationship ends?
Author Durantysonali
Upvotes 2
Comments 15
Date July 13, 2022 11:12 PM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
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Comments

[–]319Skew 9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Read OP post history.

Dude. It's over. Stop posting about it. Move forward. Good guy. Bad guy. Nobody but you gives a shit and ultimately it doesn't matter.

[–]Durantysonali[S] -4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Lol my post history is ridiculous tbh. The breakup is very recent and unfortunately I still care. Not here to pretend I'm a tough guy and that idgaf. Being the dumper and not the dumpee is a big relief tho.

[–]curvedbymykind 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Stfu about dumper dumpee, none of it matters, you’re still acting like a dumpee

[–]Durantysonali[S] -3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You sound hella triggered, were you dumped recently? Everyone knows women hate being dumped, otherwise they wouldn't act vindictive af after they get dumped. That's why I'm mentioning that.

[–]curvedbymykind 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Your last sentence indicates it’s better yet you still act like a dumpee. Lose lose situation for you

[–]atlantastan 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why do you care? Move on

[–]MusicgoonV2 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Every guy is the bad guy when a relationship ends. The only way a woman wants you to walk away is completely destroyed.

Don't worry. This is normal.

[–]Durantysonali[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"The only way a woman wants you to walk away is completely destroyed."

I've heard that part before. So all the false accusations and petty stuff she's been doing post breakup it's her trying to "destroy" me, since she couldn't do it while we were in the relationship?

[–]MusicgoonV2 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes. That happens almost every breakup.

[–]Durantysonali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Understood. Thanks man.

[–]themostgianthorse 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

No. You made a decision. You communicated it. Life has moved on. Closure is for women.

[–]Durantysonali[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I just regret being kind of an asshole at the end. Now she's being extremely petty and vindictive but it's "fair" since I'm "the bad guy".

I wonder if I had been more nice she wouldn't be acting this petty.

[–]holyshocker 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Being nice and expecting something sounds a lot like a covert contract. Have you read "No More Mr Nice Guy."?

[–]Durantysonali[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You got me wrong there, I didn't mean faking being nice as a form of getting something in return. I meant faking being nice to end on good terms so I can get rid of her in peace, without all these false accusations and vindictive stuff she's been doing

[–]DreamyPervert 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go add 100 pounds to your bench and 100k to your investment account. Stop worrying about your ex’s opinion.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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