I'm going to explain 2 reasons why not having a clear end goal in your dating strategy is most likely the biggest thing holding you back.

If after D-day the U.S government told the U.S Navy to go and "fight" Japan I think we all understand that's a pretty difficult task that will end in failure.

Instead the orders happened to be much more coherent. In order for us to end the war as quickly as possible you must first secure this part of the pacific ocean, then move on to secure this island etc...A lot of you guys just lack a clear and coherent strategy along with a clear idea of what outcome your trying to achieve. Why is this important? well you can't come up with an effective strategy if you don't have a clear goal in mind. And you need the effective strategy to get the girl! its the whole reason why we're here!

So, let's get into it.

Who's your target demographic?

This is like step 1 in the process. And probably the most important. Not having a specific woman in mind will have you trying to seduce women who were never going to give you the time of day.

I think its a major mistake that guys don't put more effort into thinking about what kind of woman they like outside of "White girl, big ass, nice". Those are important but that doesn't give you much information to work with. You need to know what your ideal women's wants and needs are. What her interest are and if your able to step in and be that guy.Why does all this matter? Because it makes everything easier. Example. Day game. When I approach a women in public it makes a world of difference knowing

A. She's my type, so I'm highly motivated to approach.

B. I know what kind of guys her type is into and I know I fall under that so I'm even more motivated to approach

C. I'm familiar with her community so starting the convo off over something we both know about reduces any chance at awkward small talk. Plus pitching the idea of a coffee date to discuss our mutual interest has always had a high close rate for me. it also comes across natural which is important for women.

Knowing your target demo helps even the playing field in a inherently unfair game. Your living life on hard mode by shooting your shot at random women, in random environments with no idea where you want to take things.

What are you optimizing for?

You should focus on the area of game that shows off your strengths. So you can stop wasting time on ones that bring in little results.

Personally I think its pretty ass advice when I go on here and I see the 100th "Day game is shit, stick to OLD" or "OLD is shit, stick to day game" post. The reason why this is ass advice is because their are millions of men all around the world killing it in in various areas of game. Day/Night game and OLD. And, as we know, millions of men are completely failing in those areas as well.

What kind of game you focus on is highly subjective to the individual. Focus is the keyword here. I sorta reject the idea that you can kill it with all 3 at the same time, see major results, and juggle the responsibilities of being a full time adult. I come at it with the idea that you should optimize for one of the three that best suits your strengths while also being home to your target demographic. It takes more effort on the front end but the payoffs on the back end are well worth it.

What does this look like? Well if I was someone with great aesthetics. Tall, Ripped and also had money. You could absolutely do fine with night and day game. BUT you would be limited to having to run game with who ever you happened to meet that day. Your done fucking fat girls but on this Tuesday it seems to be big girl night so you end up alone despite your Greek god body.

Instead I would focus on OLD were looks are already prioritized compared to the other two. You're really into Asian super models In this scenario you know what kind of guy they like and you've crafted the sort of lifestyle that appeals to them so after 1 week of swiping you've already hooked up with a couple of your dream girl.

Putting it all together

The purpose of all this is to make your life easier. If you spent anytime on this sub you will eventually see the classic "I approached 500 girls this month and only got 2 numbers. What am I doing wrong??"I can't be too mad at these guys because often times there given shitty advise in that same post usually in the form of "Just escalate bro"

No, they need a fucking plan, a strategy, a tangible outcome they can work towards.

I would advise you to sit down and write some of this stuff out on a goal sheet. You don't have to do this step by step. This is just a loose guide to get you thinking

Your goal sheet could look something like this

  1. I'm looking for a long term relationship
  2. With a white girl from Indiana
  3. She needs to be feminine with motherly qualities
  4. Considering my strengths and weakness and her preferences this is where I need to be spending most of my time.

Example 2

  1. I'm Looking for a short term FWB
  2. With a big booty Latina from Miami
  3. She needs to be exciting but also not crazy
  4. Considering my strengths and weakness and her preferences this is where I need to be spending most of my time.

Once you have all of this written down do some research on your target woman along with figuring out where they are at. Then begin your dating adventure from there. You will see results if you stick to it.

My hope is that if your struggling this post will help you get back on track.I wish you luck on the path kings.