23 year old virgin

lavenderthiefs · 2026-01-07T13:09:57+00:00

Learn to enjoy rejection. It builds emotional muscle.

Former-Floor9376 · 2026-01-07T13:31:02+00:00

I believe it is impossible to “keep them invested” for a long period of time unless sex is there.

There is only so much you can discuss without the relationship not turning friendly.

The key is on timely escalation than “being interesting”. Sex itself is interesting enough to keep you together.

Dont sweat over this, there will be other girls

Classicalesp · 2026-01-07T13:22:08+00:00

u need to have the abundancy mindset so u dont look desperate

TotalleeSerious · 2026-01-07T13:48:58+00:00

It’s called “having balls” .. u gotta have balls to approach! It takes balls to say whats on your mind to a woman that catches ur eye. You don’t need therapy you just need balls and no amount of online advice is gonna help you with that!

Pickledsundae · 2026-01-07T13:54:53+00:00

Learn to do things for ends in themselves, and not means for an end. If you can reorient your metrics of success towards improving your process and not fixating on results, that can help you become more outcome independent. My goal in approaching women is to have fun, not to get a number or date. Going up to simply anyone when you've a smile on your face and engaging in conversations helps take off the pressure when it may happen to be someone attractive because you're essentially flirting/teasing/bantering with the world.

As far as the anxiety issues, id highly recommend meditation 🕉️. If you'd like help with resources, feel free to DM. I basically do Zazen from zen Buddhism. It helps to remind us of being content in the present/eternal now, and to be more egoless in order to fully embrace experience

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-01-07T14:22:53+00:00

Ok, good first step. But i think you need to learn more from mistakes you need to learn how to socialize and take risks.

You cannot get emotionally invested over 2 weeks. It made you come off as desperate and love bombey probably. Whatever energy you showed when you first met her you gotta keep it.

In a weird way, to get a girl and keep her interested you almost have to make it seem like you dont care if she ever sees you again. You are seeing her because you are interested but you can live with or without her. Becuase in a weird way people want to be around people and prove that they are cool enough to be in their life.

even in friendships. Nobody is best friends with a needy person. Best friends ar le epoeple who enjoy each othwrs company but dont really need it.

YinMaestro · 2026-01-07T13:21:43+00:00

Honestly, in order to have this type of stabilization within yourself as a man you need to go through some sort of hardship or suffering in my personal opinion. Back in the old days, there would always be some sorts of like rights of passage whether it’s like killing someone or hunting an animal or providing food for your family. We don’t have that type of physical hard strenuous experience so we have to simulate it artificially through the gym. That’s why gym culture is so big. I’m only 24 but I realize in order to be truly confident in myself. I need to go through as many forms of these types of hardships as possible without without it being a detriment to my actual physical wellbeing.

Why do you think so many self-help gurus preacher about the gym and talks about how it solves all the problems because by experiencing a form of hardship everything else in your life her not texting you back maybe some spilled coffee all seems menial to the difficult experience that you just went through . I’m not saying you should go to the gym. I’m saying you NEED TO GO TO THE GYM.

but it isn’t just the gym it could be found in other forms discipline like not giving into impulses and waking up and sleeping on time maybe even making your bed taking cold showers stuff doing stuff that makes you respect yourself and makes you more confident that’s what you need to do to some poonani because as soon as you stop fucking caring about what she has to say or what she thinks of you that’s when she falls for you.

This is very ironic because I am writing this currently off 40 hours of no sleep. I’m unemployed. I just got off a two month long weed porn and video game depression binge and I’m finally sober and trying to get my life together again before I go to grad school this coming fall. I also haven’t had sex in like 8 to 9 months. I don’t know I put my dick in a girl over summer for like two seconds and took it right out so I don’t count that and if you’re asking me why I took it right out it was because I was depressed and sex felt like giving another part of myself away.

Anyways bro, it’s not as hard as you think. In time, it will come and then what it does no pun intended you will laugh at how much you cared about it.

Mr_kosatka · 2026-01-07T13:28:52+00:00

If you want your life to change, you first have to change yourself especially your mindset and the beliefs you carry.

Start by taking care of your body. Get in shape. You don’t need to chase abs, but build a strong, healthy, confident physique. At the same time, work on your mindset by constantly pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.

For example, when you see someone you want to talk to, just approach them. The worst thing that can happen is they say no. The longer you hesitate, the more your brain will try to convince you not to do it. Our brains are built from past experiences if you’ve received positive responses before, you’ll naturally expect them again.

And if you ever need help with anything else, feel free to reach out. I’ve got you.

ultrahobbs · 2026-01-18T21:52:46+00:00

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Title	23 year old virgin
Author	SquareEducator8033
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	January 7, 2026 1:04 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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