46 years old. Help.

knowledgewhore · 2014-09-06T16:56:29+00:00

Make the time to go to the gym. Seriously.

GreySafet · 2014-09-06T22:09:26+00:00

You'll only get to where you want to be when you absolutely commit yourself to that goal, including giving yourself enough time to achieve it and, most important, giving yourself only positive feedback along the way. Can you say to yourself every day when you wake up that you're going to get to be a confident, sexy guy in 1 year? Then work for at least a year (it's going to take that long) to get there. This is going to take serious internal coaching and, if you can afford it or have a great committed friend, external coaching. But you can get there. What do you need to do?

Eat properly. Low carbs, high protein, multiple small meals, lots of nuts and fruit and veggies for your snacks.
Work out 6 days a week. Lift weights (dynamic, full body) on most days, run and do yoga or sports on the other days.
Buy clothes that fit and are relatively stylish. If you don't have a lot of money, H&M, Topman, and Uniqlo are your friend. Keep in mind that you'll need to keep buying clothes as you lose weight and get in shape.
Buy stylish shoes.
Invest in a beauty routine for your face - seriously. Cleanser, moisturizer, facials (if you can afford it).
Deal with your bald head - shave it all off it if it doesn't look good now.
Take dance lessons - learn to be smooth on the dance floor.
Go on lots and lots of dates, even if the are online and not with super attractive women, and keep practicing your dating technique. Make friends with girls and keep them in your arsenal. You'll want their good looking friends as you get better looking.

This is not easy. Trust me, I know. It will take even more than a year to really look great. But you'll get there. The mental fitness (inner game as it's known here) is far and away the hardest part.

GameofPickup · 2014-09-06T16:39:56+00:00

Your age number is irrelevant. Sounds, like you need some inner game. Try this: http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

JBthrowawayway · 2014-09-06T17:41:06+00:00

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bfhurricane · 2014-09-06T21:39:39+00:00

You don't have a seduction problem, you have a self image problem. Check out /r/keto and /r/malefashionadvice. I went on this diet to get from 210 to 175, then spent two months in the gym to fill out and get to 185. Malefashionadvice helped me with clothes that fit my physique and make me look (and feel) more confident. And they have plenty of threads on heavier men looking dapper as hell.

You're asking for a lot, but take it one little but at a time. I would start with exercise and weight loss before moving on to a good wardrobe and then onto your dating life.

Throwaway_d · 2014-09-07T22:12:46+00:00

It's not too late. But you have a lot of work to do.

Let me advise something that the seduction rarely talks about: consider going to therapy. You need to tackle your self-esteem and depression problems head-on.

After that I would look at finding a new job as your next main goal. If you get belittled somewhere place you spend most of your time at, that's not going to do much for your self-esteem.

Next priority, start working on your physique. Start working out as soon as possible.

Shave your head. Get better clothes.

Now you've given yourself a makeover, you can start working on your social skills. Build your confidence up slowly. Start talking to checkout people when you buy things in the shop. Try and make people laugh. Give random people compliments. Go a bit more outside your comfort zone every day.

Don't spend all your time reading pickup material. It will actually make your game worse. Learn a little bit of beginner-level material and put it into practice before you learn any more. 'Models' by Mark Manson is a good start.

Anyway, you've decided to make the change. Congratulations.

hmott3 · 2014-09-06T17:55:02+00:00

You know what to do. Its basically a list at the bottom! Go to the gym. Go out! Force yourself to talk to those girls. Your not to old, not to fat, not to bald, and your dick isn't to small. You can increase odds by dealing with those things, but its not impossible even if you don't.

So besides just doing what you already know you should, I suggest you find a lair in your town. If its a big town it will have at least one. They can help. If not, start one!

PolishedIvory · 2014-09-07T06:10:08+00:00

Give me a call. 646-580-0365 ~Remy

Title	46 years old. Help.
Author	JBthrowawayway
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	September 6, 2014 4:36 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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